Advice for getting my boy back ( not exs)

[romoca]

My ex hubby ( not divorced yet) wants my son ( not his) to live with him. I know he only wants this too get at me.... He normally bully's the boy. I know he has no legal rights at all over him but when o go to get him do I need to take anything with me or paperwork etc??? Xx

[SandyY2K]

Yes I left him there husband would not let me take him......he is 10

For the life of me, I just can't understand why you would leave your son with an emotionally abusive man who isn't his father.

[SandyY2K]

I have to agree, there must be more to this story. I don't even know how you get into a situation where you'd leave your own son with him and now you are getting arrested or threatened with it for picking up your son?

How does your partner, with no legal parental rights get to have your son?

What evidence does he have of you being mentally unstable? Do you have any mental health conditions?

It just doesn't make sense I'm afraid.

[WibblyWobblyJellyHead]

So is your toddler still with him? Don't you want that child back as well?

[Tiggeryoubastard]

You can't have pr over something that doesn't exist.

[2nds]

Does the OP even have PR over her own child? If she had then the police would have taken him away from the step dad when they first went to the house surely?

[Natsku]

This doesn't make sense, I'd be doing everything I could to get my child back. I've done so before, had to 'kidnap' her myself. I especially would not pass up on the obvious option of picking up from school!

[WibblyWobblyJellyHead]

Is he at school tomorrow? Just go and get him. I imagine it's too late today.

[Mama1980]

I really don't understand he has no legal right at all. Instruct the school to allow him to leave with no one but you and legally that's what they have to do. Arrange to get him at lunch if necessary.
The scenario you describe with the police I'm finding hard to understand he has no legal rights, the police would be breaking the law if they supported your ex...

[Lunar1]

I don't get it, go to school and collect him. Let school know your ex, who is no relation to your child is no longer authorised to collect him.

[TheWeeBabySeamus1]

My ex tried to take my son (also his son) last year. When I called the police they said that if he wasn't on the birth certificate (even if he was bio dad) they could remove the child by force if necessary. The only time they wouldn't is if he has PR, so I don't understand why they haven't in this case. Has your son said that he wants to stay with your ex, or come back to you?

[Eatthecake]

What a strange situation!
As a Mum I can't understand why you would leave your ds there with that man, how could you leave without him. Yes your ex told you to leave but how could he of stopped you taking your son, if your ex had hurt you in any way then that would of been an assault charge right there.

I really struggle to believe the police are happy for a child to stay with somebody that has 0 parental rights.
It really doesn't matter what 'lies' your ex and mil have told about your mental state the fact still remains he has NO parental rights.

As PP suggested you go to school and take him out early and explain the situation to the school

If you are real OP there is a lot more to this and I feel sorry for your poor ds

[MiddleClassProblem]

Surely if the police thought you were abusive social services would have been called and taken the boy into care rather than leave him with someone not their legal guardian?

[WibblyWobblyJellyHead]

Are social services involved in your lives at all?

[Pinkheart5915]

This thread makes no sense

As a mother I can't think of any circumstances that would make me leave my ds behind, Not a cat in hells chance I'd be leaving without him. The partner could do whatever he wanted to me I would never leave my son behind.

I also struggle to understand why the police would leave the little boy with somebody who has no parental rights what so ever.

If this is for real you aren't telling the full story there will be a lot more to this.

[takingthep]

Its just a load of bull, if this was true there is no way on earth the Police would side with the Step father and step MIL.

[Floggingmolly]

What really happened, op? The biological parents went to collect their son, and the police came and threatened to arrest them? Your story has more holes than a sieve.

[MiddleClassProblem]

I thought you weren't in contact with bio dad for 5yrs? They wouldn't let him have DS? And they wouldn't let you because of what mil said? The fact that you have been in contact with the police and WA over ex makes me think wtf.

I can't think of many circumstances that I would leave DD behind. You say he wasn't physical so how could he stop you? I just do t understand, sorry.

I hope you get him back soon

[WibblyWobblyJellyHead]

I agree there must be more to this.

[KittyLaRoux]

Agree with fizzy

[GrimmauldPlace]

I think there is so much more to this than you're letting on, op. No one can help if you aren't honest. The situation as you describe it just does not make sense. If the biological parents were both there to get the child back the police would not have said he was to stay with his non biological, non parental responsibility step father. Unless there is a good reason for it.

[ArmfulOfRoses]

Just pick him up from school as suggested days ago.

[romoca]

My ex made me leave the property, the police tell me they won't get involved in this yet we are threatened with being arrested. Also aware of a lot of lies they have told about me which is hindering process.

[Tiggeryoubastard]

So you left a child with someone that you allege bullies him? You're making half hearted efforts to get him back (or not)? The police are backing the person the child is with? Who allegedly has no right to keep him? There's so much more to this story you're not telling. Poor child.