Preamble: Its taken me a lot of effort to get the tone right and express myself clearly without being tacky - I hope you don't mistake me for someone who lives under a bridge!
Recently, I've had some really erotic dreams about my lovely DP enjoying some 'me time' in a variety of different scenarios - including one where she used a cucumber. A cliché, I know, but it wasn't me being clichéd - it was my dream! For some reason, this really did a lot for me and my thoughts keep returning to it in boring meetings. I seem to remember a scene in a book, long ago where a woman did this.
I've told her about this dream, and I'd very much like her to act it out.
We're both a bit conservative, though recently I bought her a vibrator (you can see a bit of a theme here), and she's really taken to it and it has become a frequent part of our lovemaking. We often (OK sometimes) have 'solo together' sessions - pants off, kissing and each taking care of ourselves. Thats always good fun - I mention it to show that we're at least a bit un-prudish.
I don't want to keep bringing up my fantasy, when we have sex, but it would mean a lot to me. She's often good a forgetting things that stray, however slightly, from 'the usual' knicker off, me on top sawing away kind of stuff - nice though that is.
I believe she'd like the results of starting to explore a bit more, provided it was without any pressure and at her pace not mine. But perhaps the forgetting thing is a sign of not being keen. What do you think? She rarely takes the initiative in bringing anything new to the bedroom situation though I'm not upset about that - I've got the hots for her no matter what.
Am I being unreasonable to request she indulges me? I don't think so, but it is her body, and she needs to be comfortable with the idea and that's really important to me. I don't want to 'get my way' via emotional blackmail.
We are in this relationship for the long haul and I'm not going to go anywhere else for the sake of something so small.
How do I encourage her, with love and respect, to be comfortable with trying new things?
Should I expect her to trot down to Sainsbuggers then leap into bed, cucumber in hand and a smile on her face?
Should I tell her my erotic dreams and then try to put them out of my head?
Or should I just keep quiet about my fantasies? I feel this last would reduce the aulaity of our relationship, and she's not expressed any disapproval of me having these dreams.
Confused! Help!