I ask this while I am using dh computer and not my laptop -
The thing is I would appreciate a wider sample of male opinion than just dh.
Some background - dh is an only child and never had to share - had his own room and used computers from early age. Lived in a small village so spent quite a bit of time on his own I think - and likes his own company (would make an excellant hermit!). He has a high pressure job and long commute so likes space in the evening etc to unwind. So far so reasonable. However I have got into trouble with him for going into 'his' room and using 'his' computer (and occasionally leaving some evidence - ie. I left a calendar up on his desktop - he calls that mucking about with his settings). I am from a large family always shared a room had no privacy and am used to sharing everything (we could not be more different).
Dh has use of a downstairs study for his extensive record collection, two desktop computers, printer etc. and he has a stairgate so the kids can't get in (YET!!).
If I need/ want to do something quickly on the pc - it is much easier to use the pc in his room than find somewhere to set up my laptop and get hassled by the dc's (I do not have my own room). He has acted in the past like he has been invaded by rapacious hordes not his wife - when he notices my incursions.
I try to respect his privacy and space. He gets plenty of alone time as presently I am pregnant and tired in the evening so I am falling asleep before 8pm at least twice a week. We don't have many visitors I go and visit family alone several times a year and I don't force him to be sociable - so why can't he allow me use of his space without giving me a hard time????
Am I expecting too much? Thank you for reading this far.