agree colditz, but i still think that the one who works should do a part, even if small and should definately look after themsleves re clothes in wash basket, plates out after use etc.
my dp has a relaxed job, well he sits on his butt all day answering phones, but finds it stressfull as he hates his job, feels undervalued ect. i dont ask him to do any proper cleaning when he comes in, but i dont see why he cant wash the pots after dinner. and do things with the kids and small amounts of housework on weekends.
and i really do need to hoover that much i only had two hours sleep last night, due to dd1s imaginary sunburn, so have hardly done anhything and cant even remember where hoover is right now and you cant see my floor (that was washed yesterday) for squashed cheerios, moonsand and various other crumbs...
if you are going to make changes like that, sweetpea, then id suggest....
clothes are not washed unless they are in wash basket
if he wants a certain shirt for a certain he has to do that himself
there is nothing stopping him making his own breakfast, so agree with that one. unless of course he is willing to do yours on the weekends?
on a weekend he should do at least some small chores...vacuum upstairs? do a load of ironing? change bedsheets? give him a list and let him pick what he doesnt mind so much.
good luck x