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Wife slaps and punches me in arguments

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AnonymousAnonym · 07/09/2024 17:58

Hi, I have been married for over 15years. We have two girls under 7. My wife slapped me in the face multiple times, punched me in the chest and shoved me around during an argument…again.
This has been happening roughly every 4-6 months in our married life, right from the start. She’s much smaller than me so it never really leaves any signs or injuries on me. I have never hit her back and never would, but I have reached the point where I genuinely dont know what to do. I do love her, and my kids are my world. Is this domestic abuse? What the hell do I do?
As always, sometimes the argument is caused by me and sometimes by her, but I’m sure arguments are normal in relationships, but is this kind of thing acceptable?

OP posts:
Tel12 · 15/09/2024 20:38

Btw I wouldn't allow her to slap or punch you.

NDerbys32 · 15/09/2024 20:41

Please think about keeping a diary. Where, when, what happened and any injuries caused at all - even if only reddening. Include in it how it makes you feel and any effect on the young ones.
Seek out some independent DV advice in your area and look at your options.
If you were ever to need to report it formally, then the Police will be able to make use of your notes and evidence.
I hope you get an end to this, it's absolutely not acceptable or normal mate

Quiinkong · 05/10/2024 23:58

AnonymousAnonym · 07/09/2024 17:58

Hi, I have been married for over 15years. We have two girls under 7. My wife slapped me in the face multiple times, punched me in the chest and shoved me around during an argument…again.
This has been happening roughly every 4-6 months in our married life, right from the start. She’s much smaller than me so it never really leaves any signs or injuries on me. I have never hit her back and never would, but I have reached the point where I genuinely dont know what to do. I do love her, and my kids are my world. Is this domestic abuse? What the hell do I do?
As always, sometimes the argument is caused by me and sometimes by her, but I’m sure arguments are normal in relationships, but is this kind of thing acceptable?

No one deserves violence, man or woman! Your wife is an abusive woman and you should not have to put up with it. This is what i would say if you were a woman and the advice shouldn't be different just because you're a man. You're someone's child too and not a punching bag. Slap her back, let's see how she likes it but I'm sure she will play victim if you do, so my advice is to leave her.

AverageJoe1983 · 10/11/2024 13:37

I read your post and I know exactly what you are going through.
Its easier said than done to leave as I have been going through the same thing myself and still going through it.
i have two little angels with an abusive partner.
And she manages to turn around everything and say that I am the bully so thats why she uses violence.
i have scratch marks in my face every 2-3 months because of her. I want to leave but my kids need me as they are so attached to me.
just last night I was assalted again and had to go to my parents and lick my wounds.
I feel so trapped that I dont know what to do anymore. Its really sad.
I know how you feel and I sympathise with you.
Whatever you do I hope it works out.

MrsPeregrine · 21/11/2024 21:51

Be careful OP. I watched a documentary on Netflix recently called “my wife, my abuser” based on the true story from Richard Spencer. Please don’t let things escalate to that stage. Take care.

RedHelenB · 23/11/2024 21:48

AverageJoe1983 · 10/11/2024 13:37

I read your post and I know exactly what you are going through.
Its easier said than done to leave as I have been going through the same thing myself and still going through it.
i have two little angels with an abusive partner.
And she manages to turn around everything and say that I am the bully so thats why she uses violence.
i have scratch marks in my face every 2-3 months because of her. I want to leave but my kids need me as they are so attached to me.
just last night I was assalted again and had to go to my parents and lick my wounds.
I feel so trapped that I dont know what to do anymore. Its really sad.
I know how you feel and I sympathise with you.
Whatever you do I hope it works out.

You need to kleave. Your children won't thank you for staying with an abusive mother.

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