So I'm seperated from wife, in the process of divorcing, i live 2 hours away from her. To cut a long story short, we've had issues the whole 10 years, she's very narcissistic and in the end I had to leave for my own sanity. Couldn't leave my kids when they were young. Anyway one time she started a big fight for no reason and kept provoking me until I got angry and threw my plate of food on the floor, I just got in from work and it's the last thing I needed. After the argument she told me to leave, I said no I won't, so she called the police next morning, telling them I threatened to kill her (all lies) etc so the police arrested me and told me I can't come near the family house so I moved back in with my parents, she also got a non mol out against me. The police charges all got dropped, non mol finished and then she started playing nice for a bit but I didn't go back to her, I've asked her if I can see the kids half half during the holidays, she said no I can't see them at all as they need their mum! So went to court and she brought up the fact I smoke cannabis (one spliff before bed), which I admitted and they told me I need to do a drug test, which I did and passed after 2 months abstinence. Went back to court to reapply, now she's saying I got a anger problem and the kids aren't safe, even forced my daughter (9 years old) to speak out against me to carcass, saying she's scared of me and generally speaking, I'm not a nice person. My daughter fell out with her mum over this for a long time, me and my daughter are close and always have been despite the fact her mother has been working on her to make her hate me! Obviously didn't work! So I had to go through a 3 month anger management course and go back to the courts. That's where I am at the moment, just waiting to reapply in about a month after the THC has left my system. I'll get to the main point now..
Last time my daughter came down in April this year when my mum passed away, she wanted to stay a bit longer with me and when she told her mum, her mum strangled her and dug her nails into my daughters neck leaving visible nail puncture marks. I took a photo of this and a secret recording where she's telling me how her mum hits her and her little brother often but she's too scared to report her to anyone. After all it's her mother and I understand she doesn't want a bad relationship with her, she also told me not to tell the courts, I'm in a tough situation here, I don't want to betray my girl, she trusts me a lot but at the same time I can't let this happen, it will mentally destroy the kids when they're older, they'll end up weird. What do I do here? Will the courts take the kids away from her and give them to me (I'll be clean by then) if I show them the domestic violence towards the children? What are the chances?