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LadyVictorianSqualor · 31/01/2008 07:45

He wants male perspectives on http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/67/467873?ts=1201765414128&msgid=9461911 his thread and said he couldnt find a 'dadsnet'.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
LadyVictorianSqualor · 31/01/2008 07:45

Shoot,
here!

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Pan · 31/01/2008 22:35

Gosh this IS a difficult one. It would be so much easier talking in the flesh to someone about this, outside of DW. Have you done that?

This is too thorny a one to shoot from the hip over. A few starters may be..

  • what was your own experience of being raised? Are you happy wit hthe love shown by your parents? How did they parent you?
  • what is important in life? Are you generally fearful of the unknown?

Your posts demonstrate a willingness to explore, but tinged with a massive reserve. Do you have intimate male friends?

Bloke here, by the way.
Let me cogatate a little.

Pan · 31/01/2008 23:01

I seem to have lost your original thread on the boards!!

I recall that the thrust was "I'm happy with my life - why should I have a child ruin it?"

Well, it depends. No, you're life will never be the same. That's for sure. Having a little one changes everything. And I mean everything. Your opinions, your money, your time spent, the car you have, how you view the world, friends you have.

Children DON'T ruin your life. They are a portal to expanding your life. If you reamin in your mindset, you will just get "more of the same". THAT isn't what growing up, and growing older is about.

Your post, as I recall, details concrete stuff - habits, organisation etc. Children blow a lovely big hole in all of that.

eg. when dd was born, amongst my very first thoughts was "I am now meeting somebody who is MUCH more important than me."

Children educate you. About yourself. Are you willing to be educated??

Pan · 31/01/2008 23:16

Some feedback would be good.

In your own time.

Anyone else??

Gimli · 01/02/2008 01:57

Found the post, and posted on it. Any doubts I had obliterated first time I saw DS. And now can't imagine not having him.

LadyVictorianSqualor · 01/02/2008 14:10

LOL Pan, I don't think he read this thread, I just told him I'd put a link in dadsnet cos he coudlnt find you!

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FrankPelham · 01/02/2008 14:27

The thread is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/67/467873

I have replied there a few times. Would you repost your question there? Many thanks!

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