DHA test

[Rosco74]

My child is 16 months old and I see no resemblance. It’s eating away at that I might not be the biological father. I see my options as 1. Try and push this thought aside 2. Ask partner that we take a DNA tests.
im not sure if I can push this thought aside. If I am the biological father then clearly it will create some issues me asking for this test.
many advice?

My kids look nothing alike the eldest resemble the youngest but they have different fathers looking at them most people assume they all have different fathers or that 1 and 3 have the same its actually 2 and 3 have the same dad they are blond and dark haired so look totally different

I'm not saying you should do a dna test, but it isn't illegal assuming you have parental responsibility for your child. You give consent on his behalf.

You could do an ancestry dna test as a pp said but it might be difficult to get a decent saliva sample from a toddler, you have to collect it in a tube.

Do you genuinely think your partner might have cheated on you during this 10 day holiday?

Your relationship is 1000% over and you need to tell her. If you think she is capable of cheating on you and lying about your child's paternity while watching you raise him, then you cannot stay with her.

When she took the test means nothing unless you underwent IVF.

Also according to my pregnancy dating I got pregnant at the start of my period.

My daughter looks nothing like me she looks like the love child of my ex and my sister

My sister looks more like my aunt than either parent

I'm the "odd one out" in my family of origin being blonde/red, fair skinned and more fine features. My parents and siblings all look Mediterranean!

My sisters eldest looks like me and my gran which is who I take after

Genes can work weirdly

Where I AM like certain parents are in things like I never get hangovers, I do get terrible hayfever, I'm allergic to bee stings and I have I believe same Mh issues although undx in the parent

DNA isn't just looks

As I say my dd doesn't look like me but she opens her gob and there i am! mainly when she's annoying the hell out of me!

Exactly. You're the parent. Surely the consent you need is yours?

My kid looks EXACTLY like me and nothing like my h. She's definitely his! Seems like a really flimsy reason why you'd want to do this.

not unheard of for babies to be accidentally switched at birth, mix up in the nursery name bands falling off etc.
my third looked nothing like siblings or his parents. dh did comment and the answer was if he's not your's he's not mine either...
no test was done but 30 years on and he looks exactly to a spooky spooky level to his great grandfather! skin tone, blue eyes, jaw line, curly hair. he also looks like my brother.

genetics totally amazing stuff.

Children don’t always look like their father.

If my partner asked me for a DNA test on my child or I found out he’d had one done in secret my relationship would be over.

My middle DS aged 20 years old and my youngest, aged 10 years old, look absolutely nothing like my husband. Not a thing. They're fair and have blues eyes and my husband is dark. Their features are nothing like my husband's. The two boys look so similar to each other that when I look at pictures of when they were babies, I need to think hard of who is who. They both look like my dad.
If my husband questioned their paternity I would be heart broken.

The thing here isn't whether your baby looks like you, but whether you think your partner could have cheated.

If you trusted her 100% it woul

it wouldn't matter how different from you they looked - it'd just be one of those weird things!

Do you feel you can talk to your partner at all? Like making jokes that your baby's actually the postman's or something? You've been together 10 years, so you should be able to judge whether such jokes make her uncomfortable or not.

Same
I am the most blue pale person, green eyes, red hair
My mum is dark olive skin, brown eyes and dark brown/black hair
My cousins got mistaken for her children. I look nothing like her

My son is 15 months old and looks nothing like his dad, he's all me and my side of the family. My DH is definitely his dad, genetics are weird if you have no reason to believe she cheated it might be best to let it go

My two children are unmistakably siblings despite a very large age gap and they were identical as babies. They have different fathers. They both look exactly like me. Neither look like this fathers at all.

I think you're playing a very dangerous game here. Children change as they grow and it may be your child develops features that fit your expectations. To add, I've got several friends whose children look nothing like them but are the image of their father. It's genetics. I'd really think hard before your destroy your relationship on such a loose assumption.

not unheard of for babies to be accidentally switched at birth, mix up in the nursery name bands falling off etc.

Unless the OP's child went to neonatal intensive care, in the UK now they try to ensure you newborn is kept with you at all times to prevent this happening.

Thanks so much for taking the time to provide advice. It’s reassuring to hear so much advice that’s it’s very common to not see similarities. Some advice was a bit extreme. I don’t think it’s unreadable and perhaps natural to question when you don’t see yourself in your child’s features. I do feel more at ease on my thinking and again I thank you for the time taken by those offering helpful advice.

Red wing boots.
boy has all the looks of his mother so definitely no swap taken place.

Whose consent do you need , you’re the child’s father.

I look NOTHING like my daughter yet she grew in my body and came out of it.

It's not remotely normal to question paternity in a committed loving relationship.
I think for your wife and child's sake you should eget some help.

GrimDamnFanjo. I certainly don’t live in the perfect relationship but I do believe we are committed to one another. Infidelity is sadly all too common. This thought wasn’t born from me having distrust from my partner more surprised that my son at the present moment doesn’t seem to have any resemblance.

I have 3 DCs - one is like DH's family, two are like me