Depressed and lost

[mgagier]

6 months into divorce process. Have 2 kids I never get to see..... how do people cope.

as you fight on try to do things to help you focus on the future and maybe make letters and memory books for your children so they eventually get to know how much you love them and wanted to be there more....even if you can't give them now.
it will mean a lot to them and also will give you an outside focus as you continue to cope with your depression and MH issues, strength for the day.......keep on and find help and support where you can.

Thanks that is real helpful. Been real close to pulling trigger on suicide a few times.

It's the pain and depression making you wish you were "out of it" but imagine your pain and depression being handed to your children if you complete suicide......as long as you are here they have a relationship with you...even if it's not as often or deep as you would like just now. As they grow they will be able to be in touch with you in other ways in between visits, and then they will be old enough to decide when to see you themselves.

you love your kids, take your strength from that love (and any other help you can get)

Stay here for their sake and yours, the future is waiting for you.

I wouldn't know much about the US legal system, but it sounds awful, and I don't understand why men get married there - the UK too.

Remember this:

Your kids need you - you are their father and cannot be replaced by some character from a bar or wherever. That pain you are feeling is a manifestation of love, and nobody else can give that to them. They will come to realise this as they get older, especially if their mother is a nasty piece of work.

Also never underestimate the loyalty of kids. Your big fear now is probably that she is trying to brainwash them against you. Kids are not stupid, will eventually see the truth for themselves, and will be furious that they have been mislead.

I have witnessed this kind of thing myself, and it may take time, but karma asserts itself eventually.

Honestly it's a fucking disgrace the way men are treated. Men really need to stick together and fight this shit because it's barbaric. If women were treated the same there would be major outcry. The less you give to lawyers and your ex, the better.

Yeah it's whine brutal

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@Nandakanda

I wouldn't know much about the US legal system, but it sounds awful, and I don't understand why men get married there - the UK too.

Remember this:

Your kids need you - you are their father and cannot be replaced by some character from a bar or wherever. That pain you are feeling is a manifestation of love, and nobody else can give that to them. They will come to realise this as they get older, especially if their mother is a nasty piece of work.

Also never underestimate the loyalty of kids. Your big fear now is probably that she is trying to brainwash them against you. Kids are not stupid, will eventually see the truth for themselves, and will be furious that they have been mislead.

I have witnessed this kind of thing myself, and it may take time, but karma asserts itself eventually.

Honestly it's a fucking disgrace the way men are treated. Men really need to stick together and fight this shit because it's barbaric. If women were treated the same there would be major outcry. The less you give to lawyers and your ex, the better.

Last paragraph is spot on.