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Depressed and lost

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 01:42

6 months into divorce process. Have 2 kids I never get to see..... how do people cope.

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wishiwasntpoor · 09/04/2021 01:46

I'm sorry. It's not fair for you nor them. Keep on keeping on. Better there at a distance and not enough than not al all.

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 02:06

Yeah. It's so bad I ended up in mental ward.

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 02:06

How do people manage not seeing the kids

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jessstan2 · 09/04/2021 04:42

Why do you not see your children?

HammersBen · 09/04/2021 12:44

Dude that sounds a real shitter. I don't know how they cope ppl think it only knocks a mum for six not seeing kids dads get an assumption that we are ok with it or can deal with it better.

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 12:58

Way custody worked out. She was stay at home mom so gets custody

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CommunistLegoBloc · 09/04/2021 13:02

But you get contact?

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 13:15

Yes. One weekend a month

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jessstan2 · 09/04/2021 14:24

@mgagier

Yes. One weekend a month
Surely that could be increased, even twice a month would be better. What about holidays etc, can you take them away somewhere?

Of course I realise you may live a long way away from each other which would make things difficult and we do not know how old your children are, also a factor.

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 14:45

Kids are 7 and 5. Im 100k into legal fees. I’m fighting the fight. Court system is brutal

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CommunistLegoBloc · 09/04/2021 14:50

What was the reasoning for such low contact?

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 14:52

She was a stay at home mom.

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 14:53

I worked a ton to support everyone

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jessstan2 · 09/04/2021 14:59

@mgagier

She was a stay at home mom.
That is not a reason for low contact, plenty of mothers don't go out to work and their ex husbands see the kids frequently. One would think a parent who is at home all the time with young children would be glad of a break, or does she not like or trust you?
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mgagier · 09/04/2021 14:59

It's the alimony. Still fighting over that

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 15:00

Kids are leverage in that

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CommunistLegoBloc · 09/04/2021 15:23

One parent being at home doesn't automatically mean low contact is awarded. There has to be more to this story. What are you paying in terms of child support?

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 15:26

2100 a month for child support. 6000 for alimony

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DonLewis · 09/04/2021 15:27

Are you in the UK?

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 15:27

US now

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 15:28

I only got low contact, judge ruled that is all the time I spent with them before

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foolonthehill · 09/04/2021 15:29

are you outside the UK?
usual contact and financials are very different depending on the jurisdiction.

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 15:30

Yes US

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foolonthehill · 09/04/2021 15:30

sorry...just saw the reply... very difficult as US law is very different to UK

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mgagier · 09/04/2021 15:31

Yeah it's hell. There were no child or domestic abuse claims. Just run of the mill divorce

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