How do you men feel about the man-bashing that goes on here?

[Twinklemegan]

It pisses me off, and I'm a woman.

Well yes. But there are fewer "my dh is crap" threads than there are actual dhs. So that must mean something...

It depends on your sense of humour, mate

f365 is a bit in your face (male characteristic ??)
MN is more subtle (relative to f365!)

UQD, people rarely complain or speak up
when things are going well -
I think that's the reason for the perceived imbalance.

what gets me is that behind some of the man bashing is an acceptance of the status quo.

example: DH gives dc chips and beans for tea instead of lovingly made buternut squash risotto. Fails to clean up (either dc or kitchen) after said meal and spends time betwen supper and bath getting dc over excited. DW is then left to deal with overstimulated child and get her to bed. DW gets cross and upset and moans about it on MN and does not ask DH to help out again.

Getting one thing wrong (or doing it in a different way) is then used to push men out of childcare and to make us womene work harder.

We need to spend a little longer explaining to dps rather than MNS what the problems are

I think the thing is the people you live with are always the ones that annoy you the most and the ones you therefore compalin about. If this were a site for teenagers we would all be complaining about our parents

I don't bash women. I'm a bloke so I can't multi task and all my time is taken up thinking about sex, cars, sex, football, sex, sex again, food, sex and back to cars.

It sucks.

Aren't women great? They are always so understanding about mens failings and they never need us to do anything for them. They are all so clean, tidy and organised. They never drink too much, fart or swear.

You would have thought that they would never want to marry or live with us but there they are wanting a big wedding and making sure we are apart of everything in their lives.

Come on guys it is time we made an effort to be more like them.

Captain so you have never compained about your OH to your mates - lack of sex, their girlfriend's discipline of her children with previous partners and being nagged seem to be the favourites when im out with the lads

I am now an honorary "lad", because I have been about for so long now, so they carry on as usual in front of me

"an anti-men agenda"????

Eh???

Wierdie, most women here live with men and / or are bringing up the next generation of men.

Why on earth would they have an anti-men agenda.

Doesn't bother me much, I don't think there's a lot of it. Usually it's deserved or if a poster is being unreasonable ('why does my DP work all day and come home and only bath the kids, tidy up and help with tea then forget to clean the bathroom) she'll be picked up on it by someone.

Seriously though, I read a lot of the Relationships and Depression threads to try to get a better understanding of the female point of view. Sometimes I'm gobsmacked by what men put their partners through. It has made me reconsider the way I deal with things from time to time. As well as the practical side of childcare, that's what is useful about Mumsnet for a new Dad.

I'm off now to polish my halo.

You'll have to clean all our puke off of it first, though.

I have to say that I DID start my DP is wonderful thread. (he was cooking sunday roast dinner and making lasagne for the next day as well so that I didn't have to cook, and then he put hte kids to bed and... and ... and)

It was not very well populated.

I mean - the he is sh1t ones you can say more on can't you?

I don't think there's a lot of man bashing here, is there? It's generally a avery supportive positive place (I know, puke, puke, but it's true).

Although I can see how you might think it if you hung around the Relationships/Lone Parents section.

Because some men do behave like arseholes. (Note, I said some. So do some women!)

Not many folk post about how their DP/DH is so damn wonderful simply cos people are less likley to respond, I think.

And there are lots of great men out there, I think.

As you can see, I spend a lot of time thinking ...

DW is wonderful and a regular reader of MN who knows my nickname, well she knows this one anyway.

lol CC.

I think it would be interesting to hear the other side of the story sometimes on the CSA-type threads.

it's funny to see it from the other side though.that's why i read the posts on here.because on f365 if you read the threads about women being mental (and you ALL are quite insane) there is just some logic that is common to women that makes absolutely no sense to men, so i wanted to see if it made sense to other women.

terrible stuff, truly terrible

I had a look at that f365 forum out of curiosity. I'm really disappointed if that's how men behave when they get together.

"you ALL are quite insane"

I wonder how that opinion "holds up under a bit of scrutiny"

"you ALL are quite insane"

sorry i put it in brackets to emphasise i was joking.forgot to put one of these little buggers beside it

yes you are

Gotta use the emoticons amen

You can be as rude as you like on MN as long as you put a at the end of it.

Or so people seem to believe

still womens "logic" will never be clear to men as most of the times with my missus it is not fully clear to her.she knows she's upset but she can't figure out why. normally because she told me not to bother with anything for her birthday/valentines/anniversary but she didn't ACTUALLY mean not to bother with anything and i was meant to know that it was code for dinner+diamond bracelet and i don't care about her.