How do you men feel about the man-bashing that goes on here?

[Twinklemegan]

It pisses me off, and I'm a woman.

UQD, you are untypical.
Consider yourself 'extraordinary'

Yes and No.

I have been present when men have been talking about a forthcoming divorce and some of the things they say about the woman is pretty shocking. It also gets messy when talking about custody of the kids, or past girlfriends or whatever. Men tend to be blunter though, they don't go into detail, they just say what they have to and that's that.

Women however, when bitching, will go on and on, encouraged by the audience and recounting of similar tales.

Mars v Venus.

quite daddyj

Ah. I was just returning to say what DaddyJ said.

I think women 'bash' verbally more than men.

And they certainly do on here...

I suppose you're right - friends and I are all happily married or girlfriended and so there is little moaning.

I did once get stuck at a bar at a wedding next to a bloke I hardly knew who wanted to tell me all about what a cow his ex-wife was. It was pretty tiresome.

'Tis true that you are untypical to be on Mumsnet. None of my male friends would touch this site with a bargepole. Men, I hope you don't mind the generalisation here, don't tend to communicate that well. Phone calls are short and to the point, conversation is never deep. I know there are exceptions, and I regard you guys as the exceptions.

I think you are broadly right, Rhubarb - another way of putting it is that we communicate efficiently.

What does a single, male, non-parent get from a site like this I wonder?

Wouldn't it be a bit dull?

of course there's an anti-male agenda on here.the only reason i found out was it was posted on a football forum i post on so i decided to come on here and see how some of the womens opinions held up under a bit of scrutiny.

Yes UQD. My dh believes that too

amen, you are making me laugh...

The phone is for essential verbal communications. I can't see the attraction of uisng it to gossip on. Especially with someone you have spoken to the night before.

One of my closest friends is someone I haven't spoken to in over a year. We email each other 3-4 times a week.

well if you come looking for an anti male agenda on mumsnet you will find it. you can find any farking agenda you chose. personally i think football is shite and will starting my own agenda forthwith

Now that would be interesting:
comparing the football365 forum
to MN - which one has more bashing
of the opposite sex.

Amen, you and I know the answer, don't we?

What do you think you would have done pre email?

Do men write letters?

DH used to write me letters in the dim and distant past when we lived at opposite ends of the country and he was still romantic...

I loved getting them. You can't dash off a letter like you do an email.

I work in a very male environment and there is quite alot of female bashing of the generalist kind, and some complaints about other halfs in a "she's naggy" type of way. They also make comments about me infront of me, mostly, I think, because they know that I will bite back.

I do more man bashing than most of the women on here.

Oooer

flyingmachine, that's a whole new thread

I used to write a lot more letters. I was famed for them. I've hardly ever enjoyed using the phone.

HD - that is a very good point. Many a time I have read one of the "my blardy DP/DH" threads and it is one of the chaps who turns up and says "he is a nob"

HD, you should have married Fio (see her post below)

Famed for them?

Golly.

I think people come on here to vent about every day annoyances without the repercussions which would happen if they did it in RL.

As someone who has regularly been the only woman in the pub with DH and his friends I can assure you that even the most loving boyfriend/hubby does exactly the same thing when hes with 'the lads'

I think there are far more important things to get upset about.

f365.but we both know which is funnier.

It's true that the occasional man is going to be a nob (isn't it knob? I always think of nob as being a toff). There will probably be a disproportionate signal-to-noise ratio with the complaints about these people.

Inevitably this gives the impression of a man-bashing culture, and so when someone gives a more equivocal example - where there might be good reasons for the bloke's "unreasonable" behaviour - he will rarely find any support.

There are definitely more "my DH is crap" than "my DH is lovely" threads.