To holiday or not to holiday...that is the question?

[bigpapa653]

Hi All

Need to some advice please,

To give some background I live with my dw, and 2 dd's and my ds lives my ex.

My ex asked me to book annual leave off work to look after my son whilst she goes on hols with her bf.

Now I'm feeling extremely angry that someone would even have the cheek to ask me this bearing in mind that I work very hard for my family and the precious time I do have off which is very limited in a full time job (26 days tops) I want too book off and spend with all my family, my ds included.

Should I feel angry that my ex has asked me this, should I speak my mind or is this an acceptable thing to do in a split household?

Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated......

[bigpapa653]

Good, i'll ask the question

[bigpapa653]

on the childcare piece my ex is a full time parent so there has never been the need to send ds anywhere

[rookiemere]

OP - you've been very gracious in your responses, fingers crossed you get a family holiday abroad with DS included.

[bigpapa653]

thanks 'rookiemere' i hope so too.

Ouriana - being a full time mum is ex choice and does not enable me to work as does not grant her annual leave from myself, i don't get 7 days off kid free annual leave for me being a parent full time. ds goes to nursery 3 days a week and i have ds 3 nights a week. I work because i have to pay for 2 dd's full time nursery fees as does my dw. if my ex did work then there would be a flexible working plan in place to accommodate that.

[OutToGetYou]

it seems odd that she wouldn't have decided until June what was happening. - lol, you've not met dp ex then? Last year she was told all our dates months in advance, then wanted dss dates that overlapped (but conveniently were not exactly the same as) ours, so she couldn't have him as we had already booked a cottage - so then she said she was going away without him and we had to have him the extra week as well - that was early August she told us that. She apparently likes to get 'late deals'.

These two statements are contradictory:

"on the childcare piece my ex is a full time parent so there has never been the need to send ds anywhere"

"ds goes to nursery 3 days a week and i have ds 3 nights a week."

And this is plain odd:

"I work because i have to pay for 2 dd's full time nursery fees as does my dw. if my ex did work then there would be a flexible working plan in place to accommodate that."

[bigpapa653]

not at all, just miss understood:

These two statements are contradictory:

"on the childcare piece my ex is a full time parent so there has never been the need to send ds anywhere"

"ds goes to nursery 3 days a week and i have ds 3 nights a week."

Nursery is government paid childcare which she chooses to send ds too, whilst she is a full time parent. Her choice!

Secondly i was referring to the school holidays in reference to the posters statements about day/summer camps.


And this is plain odd:

"I work because i have to pay for 2 dd's full time nursery fees as does my dw. if my ex did work then there would be a flexible working plan in place to accommodate that."

Nothing odd about it, people go to work to pay their bills. If all parties worked i would have a more flexible working approach to support childcare with ds.