There is so much

[UnquietDad]

... that it's no wonder only a small minority of DHs feel they can contribute.

I'd not feel happy on a "dadsnet" site where people endlessly slagged off their wives for being slatternly bitches, being bad mums, being lazy or doing all manner of other unacceptable stuff. It wouldn't be the sort of place I'd feel I'd want to contribute to. It makes me quite depressed sometimes.

There are a lot of intelligent and amusing posters here, but sometimes the easy-pot-shot-takers seem to dominate.

LOL... yes my DH admits he is a grumpy fart a lot of the time. He is not a morning person and when he´s tired he is grumpy too so that doesn´t leave much of the day for him NOT to be grumpy in! lol. He is however generous to a fault with me as far as money goes (if we had any).

He would buy me anything I wanted irrespective of what bills needed paying (also one of his faults as well as his pluses I hasten to add!). He helps me out with the housework at weekends and does the cooking then too.

UD - I haven't noticed many 'men are all tossers' threads on here. As someone else said, it tends to be a specific rant.

I understand why you would feel uncomfortable with this, but it is an anonymous forum, and some women have nowhere else to go to let off steam.

My DH is lovely, but if I did feel the need to moan about him I'd rather do it on here than to friends/family in RL who may then develop a prejudice against him IYSWIM.

I think it's more that someone will start a thread about why a particular man is a tosser for a specific reason, and someone else will weigh in with whey their man is also a tosser for a different but equally valid specific reason, and then someone will say "God, men are such tossers."

And before you know it, we're into same brush and tarring territory.

I take on board all the points here, though.

UD - obviously all men aren't tossers. Its just the ones I've met........

You must have been unlucky.

I have known approximately 3 women in my life who I would class as complete and utter cowbags. I have about two dozen female friends and acquaintances, or friends of DW's who I know, who are absolutely charming and lovely. If I wanted to moan about the cowbags, I could. At length. But I don't.

dh is a tosser in many ways but an angel in others so he weighs out right.

UD, as I said before.. I do see where you are coming from. I think a lot of reasons that women are "survivors" (for want of a better word) despite all they have to do and have less heart attacks is because they complain and whinge when they feel the need to. Men notoriously keep it all in and far more tend to "let bygones be bygones". I know one of my DH´s common complaints against me is that I love dredging up the past. Guilty..

If something has hurt me or really peed me off it does tend to resurface every so often whereas with him, once something has (supposedly) been dealt with or happened so long ago that if it hasn´t been dealt with it is gathering cobwebs, as far as he is concerned it is dead and buried.