Used as a baby making machine.

[DarkEarth]

Do men actually mind being spermjacked a few days a month while trying to conceive, and then discarded or are we just grateful for the sex??

When me and dw were trying for our second she kept me out of the loop with ovulation and fertility but it was hard not to notice we'd shag like rabbits 5 days a month then very rarely for the next 3 weeks.

I am by no means complaining, more of a general wondering whether it bothers us?

Gottobe

It's interesting that you say that, so many times on the relationship board I have seen women upset because they want child no1, 2 or 3. Now if their partner is adamant that the don't want another child (or children at all) then people say it's a sad situation but you shouldn't have a child where they will very likely be resented and potentially lead to the breakdown of the relationship.

When the partner isn't against it too strongly then the advice I see given is have one anyway he will love the child/try to persuade him or tell him you are no longer using contraception.

I don't think it's wise to have a child if both of you aren't 100 % on board. What if he/she doesn't come round? What if your partner always resents you/the baby? Not worth playing roulette over really is it?

Plus I don't think I would ever want my DH to have to 'come round' to something as important as that.

Thanks for the interesting question OP. I've not heard of "jacking" in this sense before so not bothered by the connotations. I got what you meant.

When trying for our son, I didn't want us to look into the ovulation timing stuff for fear of debasing something enjoyable down to just a process to conceive. I'm definitely in the "just get in the sack as often as possible" group. But then I was in that group before trying to conceive

I would happily accept that I were only going to have sex once a year...

Good - because after you manage to conceive, there's the rest of your life (or at least, the rest of your marriage) to consider.

Don't be silly, you're needed to pay for it all as well.