Any criminal solicitors or police can help here please

[Derisl]

My ex had a drink problem and it got worse over covid. We had loads of rows as his temperament changed and he was often cold and offhand, paranoia, or just drinking to excess. During this time I threatened him that I would call police and his employer (he’s a paramedic) as I couldn’t cope with what was going on and how nasty he was. On one occasion a neighbour called the police and I didn’t admit to everything that was going on and just brushed it off as a row but he was taken into questioning. Anyway a few months later he got done for drink driving and things came to a head and the relationship ended a few months ago.

he’s been in touch wanting to see dc and said that he is tempted to report my threats to the police and take formal action. I’ve asked him why he would do this and he just says he has had time to think and he hates me for it. I am struggling to cope and worried all the time that the police will call.

So he's threatening to report you for threatening to tell people about his behaviour? I very much doubt he would like to shine sunlight on his abusive behaviour, and if he does it's not like you said you'd make stuff up, so you just tell the police what he was doing (and why you didn't report him)

@EgonSpengler2020 im no longer communicating with him after he’s said this but obviously he will eventually be in touch again because of dc. He went to court for the drink driving and was convicted

@Dragonskin yeah I absolutely never would have made anything up and never suggested I would. I just know I come across as a total bitch in the messages and he comes across really calm. I hate what he did to me.

the reason I didn’t follow through with the threats was that I was worried for dc snd not having him around etc. If it hasn’t been for dc I would have just left the relationship immediately

^ It would only be threatening behaviour if the threats were malicious. Warning/advising someone you are going to take action against them for safeguarding/abuse is not a threat unless you threatened to lie. He has a drink-driving ban so clearly has a drinking issue.*

Safeguarding us everyone's business
He was being a domestic abuser and his behaviour was putting DCs at risk. Each of those messages were you attempting to reach out to him to show him how destructive his drunken verBally abusive behaviour and possible drink driving was.

Tell him to go ahead

It's not coercive controlling to try to get a drunk driver off the streets by asking him to come home or you'll call police, nor to say you'll tell authorities that about his abusive behaviour.

He sounds an absolute prince, this is more evidence of his coercive control of you. Nothing a bully likes more than playing the victim.He won’t report you because he knows he’ll get laughed out of the station, but if he is arrogant enough to try it, I would tell the Police that he is continuing to bully you.
He will want to provoke you though. Only communicate through email, and always leave your reply overnight and reread before pressing send. It’s very satisfying to ignore provocative remarks and respond blandly and politely!
I hope your child is ok.