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Should I tell the neighbours

27 replies

cherrytrismum · 28/06/2021 20:20

Yesterday I watched my neighbour being arrested for the 2nd time, since we moved in, just over a year ago.

Go on my local Facebook page and the peadophile Hunters had approached him and video's it.

He was pretending to be a 12 year old boy, lured child(ren) away from the site to Snapchat and sent dick pics and telling the 13 year year old he was apparently speaking to, that he wanted to get his fingers on her. He owned up to being attracted to children. So he has probably got away with more than just this incident.

Informed by the peadophile hunters, that the last time, was also when he got hunted by another group, not even a year ago.

I have felt sick to my stomach since, have 3 kids. My dilemma. Should I knock on my neighbours doors/pop a note through the door, and let them know and to watch the video or not.

He owns up to it, doesn't hide anything. He is about 60, living with his mum, who was actually sticking up for him, even when the women explained that this ain't the first time and if it was her child being groomed, would she be ok about it. I have no sympathy for her either.

I need the help of mums net. What shall I do, not what I would like to do, to him, but!!!!!

OP posts:
Arrierttyclock · 28/06/2021 20:21

If they have children or children visiting I would deff tell them

Bluntness100 · 28/06/2021 20:21

Personally I would yes. I think they have a right to know.

TeeBee · 28/06/2021 20:21

I would.

sittingonacornflake · 28/06/2021 20:42

I would.

Original poster
cherrytrismum · 28/06/2021 20:54

I have just wrote out (don't own a printer) telling my neighbours.

Keep your children safe

We have a peadophile living in our road.

I have directed them to the Facebook post for them to view it.

Advised it was his 3rd offence, sending naked images to children and pretending to be 12 years old, luring them onto other SM.

The ice-cream man who lives on my street, just got home and directed me to everyone's house who had children.

I feel much better! Glad you all agreed with me.

OP posts:
RoseRedRoseBlue · 02/07/2021 20:45

Not a popular view, but I don’t agree with you. By the way, it’s PAEDOPHILE. Why don’t you just let the authorities do their job?

MissMaple82 · 09/07/2021 09:46

The authorities don't make the neighbours aware!!!

GettingItOutThere · 09/07/2021 21:18

yes 100000% . I would want to know!

RoseRedRoseBlue · 09/07/2021 21:19

@MissMaple82

The authorities don't make the neighbours aware!!!
Because they have neither the need or right to be aware.
PepperPepperMan · 09/07/2021 21:24

I would personally ignore a note put through my door. I'd have more time for you if you knocked with a brief description and offered a WhatsApp group to explain and discuss.

ginbramble · 09/07/2021 21:26

I think the wording on your note is inflammatory and unnecessary. Before doing anything speak to your local police beat manager for their advice. If he's been arrested twice he will likely be under supervision by police anyway. You've said that this bloke lives with his mum. This is the the problem once you start getting people wound up... his mum will be affected when the house gets graffitied, bricks go through window etc. Because it will happen. Having worked in this area of law enforcement I can guarantee you that he isn't the only one living near you. You just won't know about the others because they've not been caught yet.

knittingaddict · 21/07/2021 13:24

@ginbramble

I think the wording on your note is inflammatory and unnecessary. Before doing anything speak to your local police beat manager for their advice. If he's been arrested twice he will likely be under supervision by police anyway. You've said that this bloke lives with his mum. This is the the problem once you start getting people wound up... his mum will be affected when the house gets graffitied, bricks go through window etc. Because it will happen. Having worked in this area of law enforcement I can guarantee you that he isn't the only one living near you. You just won't know about the others because they've not been caught yet.
I agree with this, sorry.

4 people agree with you and off you trot to write your letter. That's all the validation you needed? I don't like the paedophile hunters as there are some dodgy people playing that role and I can't support it. Are you 100% sure of your facts op? I hope so.

In any case parents should always be careful with their children. You have absolutely no idea who the ones to watch are, so be careful all the time.

gardeninggirl68 · 21/07/2021 15:51

What has he been charged with op?

gardeninggirl68 · 21/07/2021 15:53

What was he arrested for? What offence did the officer read out?

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2021 15:57

The ice-cream man who lives on my street, just got home and directed me to everyone's house who had children

ShockConfused And if you'd been a pedophile?

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2021 15:58

How will it change the way you parent your children knowing he's there?

DogsSausages · 21/07/2021 16:09

I wouldnt have written a note, you dont know anything about these hunters, they could take the law into their own hands, target the mother, attack the wrong man if they are a bit thick and wound up, if there are other paedophiles in the area they will be glad they are not getting targetted, the ice cream man was very irresponsible to tell you where children live. You should have let the police deal with his arrest quietly.

memberofthewedding · 21/07/2021 16:10

I feel very ambivalent about this.

On one hand I have a hatred of snitches.

On the other people who choose to harm children are beyond the pale.

If he had committed some other type of crime I would keep my mouth shut in OPs place but not where kids are concerned. For the record I have no children and thats by my own choice so I have no skin in the game.

At the same time OP should check out her legal position first because (there is a possibility that) she could be accused of harassment.

Saucery · 21/07/2021 16:14

If I got a note through my door like that I’d mark you down as someone to steer well clear of. Vigilante crap like that doe more harm than good.
He’s been caught, let the system deal with him and keep your prurient nose out.

ShadowInVain · 21/07/2021 16:15

Justice by Facebook ...

No. Let the police do their job.

You're potentially ruining someone's life based on hearsay. It's frightening.

We need to stand against vigilante action and remember the principle of justice - innocent until proven guilty.

Miniestelle · 21/07/2021 16:20

Your letter is inflammatory. You are wrong to do that especially the way ypu have worded it, it makes you sound silly at best. Every parent decent parent already keeps their children safe. And never take your facts from flipping facebook. You are encouraging vigilantism with this note and I think that was your intention.

pinkcircustop · 21/07/2021 16:38

@Miniestelle

Your letter is inflammatory. You are wrong to do that especially the way ypu have worded it, it makes you sound silly at best. Every parent decent parent already keeps their children safe. And never take your facts from flipping facebook. You are encouraging vigilantism with this note and I think that was your intention.
This.
Fetasalad · 22/07/2021 19:09

@cherrytrismum I hope you didn't send that note. It was not written well. It was written like a sensationalist red top rag newspaper. And why is the ice cream man telling you where kids live?! How does the ice cream man know you're not a paedophile?!

Motnight · 22/07/2021 19:26

Op do you know for definite that what you have said here is true?

Dbank · 25/07/2021 16:45

Has he been found guilty by a judge or jury? Otherwise it's dangerous hearsay.