Has anyone had this happen or been falsely accused of anything?
Last week I was called into a meeting at my place of work where I do my volunteering at a therapy unit, to see my line manager and superior. Obviously I was thinking all sorts of things but nothing to what I was accused of. Yes you read that right, accused.
I was asked to sit down and they proceeded to inform me that I had been accused of showing photos of myself in states of undress to someone at my place of work running a red light and nearly crashing the car. Well obviously this is total fabrication on someone there. I would never do anything like what I have been accused of.
For a start I would never run a red light, least of with people in my care in the car. And very nearly crashing the car; I have always been in control of the car – it is more than my jobs worth. I am not responsible for other drivers. I have always checked my passengers have been all right. I never reported these idiotic drivers to the staff at my place of work – why should I have? I would be continuing telling them about these drivers.. The crash I think someone has mentioned is the one that happened to ANOTHER DRIVER outside a car park exit a few months ago. Someone (NOT ME) was coming out of the exit, I had let them out while I was in the queue for the traffic lights, and literally out of nowhere a car came hurtling down the road and smashed straight into this other car on the right front side. This person didn’t hang around they literally just drove off. Although the car that had been hit followed it and that was that. So no more was done. I remember telling my passengers the next day that I had seen my first hit and run. But that it was nothing to do with me, I just witnessed it. Maybe that was the crash they thought of.
Now onto the allegations of showing photos. They are not true and I never would do that at all to anyone, let alone to anyone in my care. To say I was horrified and sick to my stomach is an understatement. I then got angry and felt I was being judged already as well as being found guilty. I said they were making out I was a sexual predator – which I am definitely NOT. I was abused as a kid why would I do something like that to someone else.
All they kept saying was a state of undress but couldn’t elaborate how, which I do feel suspicious. To me that says they don’t know, ergo the other person is lying.
Why would they get in the car after I had allegedly done this? Why not immediately report it? Why carry on getting in the car if I made them feel unsafe? And why only say it after I had gone in to my place of work the previous day for a meeting and had seen me in the building? Why then – I had been off 3 weeks they could say anytime during that 3 weeks, not conveniently the last few days before I finish my holiday. And why can’t they say when it happened? Yes I have show pics – of my cats and dog, and the meals I have prepared. One even asked for a copy of the receipe which I did send a link to, which I not know I shouldn’t have done and was silly of me.
I don’t understand why they would say I showed pictures of me in various states of undress – what does that actually mean for gods sake? Did I intentionally show these pictures to whoever, what state of undress did it show, did it show it was me in the alleged photo – what photos? I have gone through my phone and there are no photos that would even construe this…
Why say I would do this, what do they gain apart from ruining not only my life but also my husbands as he has to leave the chairmanship of the governors and possibly his job without his pension etc.. All because someone wants to hurt me, or think it is funny to do this, or is a fantasist and wants the attention.
I seriously can’t believe this is happening. Why would they do it? I hate it, I mean I’m not like that , this isn’t me – I ve gone through abuse etc when I was young why would I even do it as an adult?
Thankfully I have friends that don’t believe this story, and can’t believe someone would say this about me, and are really concerned about me, and disgusted that someone could say this. And are sticking by me , one even went as far as ringing my place of work to see what support they were offering me. Not just for the accuser as it totally destroys my life. The accuser gets all the support every day of my workplace in groups etc, I don’t.
I will be quitting volunteering after this is all sorted as I cannot go in and do my job, this will forever be hanging over even when I am found to be innocent. What is that saying “mud sticks” or “no smoke without fire”
Now it’s a waiting game until the phone call next week to advise my meeting.
This feels like it’s a dream and I’m going to wake up any minute. Why would someone do this?