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Rise in male créche workers

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differentperspectivesneeded · 13/05/2026 12:12

Has anyone else noticed a rise in male créche workers in ROI, and what's the general sentiment on it?

My DC's setting has gotten two in the last few weeks, and it's the first time we've had to think about this. Small town & typically female dominated settings before. I know it's more common in the UK, but seems relatively new here?

While I see the perspective that more positive male role models are good, it does raise questions for me as to why men would put themselves through the scrutiny of entering a historically female only career for minimum wage?

Open to different perspectives on this & interested if it's more widespread in different parts of the country.

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MILLYmo0se · 17/05/2026 15:49

differentperspectivesneeded · 17/05/2026 15:29

@MILLYmo0se is it AIMs workers that's the right terminology? That's a really grim depiction. 💔 Fortunate that my DC's setting has none of the above issues, as far as I can tell.

Their title is an Educator, with the same role and responsibility as any Educator in the room, just their position is a fixed- term rather than permanent one, and is funded all or mostly by the Access and Inclusion Model.
Sadly many in the sector don't see or believe in themselves or their staff as professionals, and use terms like 'AIM workers' which doesn't help change the societal view of those in the sector as ' babysitters' or 'minders'

Latinglow · 17/05/2026 15:52

I don’t like it. Of course this apparently upsets a lot of people because it’s “sexist” in the same way people turned a blind eye to grooming gangs because they didn’t want to be racist.

If there was a male working at my child’s nursery I’d pull them out don’t care who that offends

Balloonhearts · 17/05/2026 15:58

Why do women work in factories? It's minimum wage and traditionally male dominated.

Maybe they are just good at it and need a job. Some people are just genuinely good with kids and enjoy it. The best person for amusing customers children at work is one of the building surveyors. Disappears and is found sitting on the floor in the kids corner, having a drawing competition with a 5 year old. He's just very natural with children.

GreatWhiteWail · 17/05/2026 16:00

Boolabus · 14/05/2026 08:23

it's generally considered a good idea to maintain a female only staff for very young children.
Could you point me to the evidence for this statement or is it just your opinion?

Male teachers can be involved in older primary and in secondary education.
All my kids had male teachers in junior and senior infants, amazing teachers.

I think it is very misguided and naïve to assume men in the care setting pose a greater risk then women because of statistics in the general population. The stats for child sex abuse in a childcare settings are thankfully very low. Your child is more at risk of poor quality care, substandard learning environment, neglect and cruelty. Services are heavily regulated have standards they must maintain. The things I would be looking for when vetting a service is not the gender of the staff, it would be staff retention, staff qualifications, safeguarding policy, a copy of their last Tusla report, their pedagogy, their facilities, their staff ratios.

The main creche controversy in Ireland was the Links crèche group and the expose in Prime Time investigates "A Breach of Trust." The issues revolved around poor management highlighting severe issues like the rough handling of children, restrictive sleeping practices, and degrading treatment.

I also think people are just peddling the misogynistic trope that only women can do low paid, low qualified caring roles. Utter rubbish. We need to encourage men into the sector to normalise it and move away from the ridiculous attitude that it is a female only domain.

Ludicrous post.

The reason the statistics about sexual abuse of young children in childcare settings are low is because it's nearly all women. The occurrence of sexual abuse of children rises exponentially when men are the carers of very young (pre-verbal) children. It's only recently that men have started to be employed ingreater numbers in nurseries, and how many stories of male nursery workers being convicted of raping and sexually assaulting nursery children has there been in the last few months?

Absolutely no way in hell would I leave my baby or toddler with a male carer.

And I just knew this sort of bonkers post would be written by someone who uses the term "gender" instead of sex.

RingoJuice · 17/05/2026 16:01

You’d think a country with a history of sex abuse by men in charge of children would know better, but apparently not.

It’s just a fact that men are way higher risk as a category. Why should young children be put at risk so men feel included? Fuck that.

Latinglow · 17/05/2026 16:08

Balloonhearts · 17/05/2026 15:58

Why do women work in factories? It's minimum wage and traditionally male dominated.

Maybe they are just good at it and need a job. Some people are just genuinely good with kids and enjoy it. The best person for amusing customers children at work is one of the building surveyors. Disappears and is found sitting on the floor in the kids corner, having a drawing competition with a 5 year old. He's just very natural with children.

Who cares why women work in factories? My toddler’s safety is not affected by some women working in a factory

GreatWhiteWail · 17/05/2026 16:22

Your child is at about 50 or 100 times the risk of a sex crime if they are looked after by a man than a woman.

And unfortunately, the men who want to sexually assault children who can't tell on them will actively seek out a job where they have small pre-verbal children in their care.

Male teachers/priests/scout leadets/nursery workers/HCPs/etc have a higher conviction rate for sex crimes against children than astronauts/mechanics/train drivers/project managers. This is either because men can't help themselves when presented with the opportunity that increased access, 121 with children, gives them, OR, it's because bad men seek out jobs where they can access children. Neither of those reasons can be considered an acceptable risk for me.

GreatWhiteWail · 17/05/2026 16:28

Boolabus · 14/05/2026 18:41

Yes I prefer a female gyne too but don't find a male one creepy. Yes a midwife stays with you through labour but more often then not so does your partner or birthing partner you're rarely alone. On the other hand I have always been on my own with my gyne and obstetrician appointments.

However, gynaecology has always been dominated by males,
Midwifery on the other hand has always been female
So nothing should change?

I find it very suspicious if a man wants to be working with women at such an intimate moment of their lives
So it is a weird a man might also want to be able to support, assist and experience childbirth first hand? I suggest you speak to male midwives and ask them why they chose to specialise in midwifery I think you'll find they're not weird and do it for the same reasons women do. Do you feel make obstetricians are weird?

Some very old fashioned views on this thread.

I think any man who specifically chooses, out of all the ones available, a specialism where he knows that a lot of women will be uncomfortable with his presence (because the woman is so exposed and vulnerable in a uniquely female way) is not a man that I would choose to have as my HCP.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 24/05/2026 14:16

I agree @Boolabusi work in this sector. One reason I think its good to have a mix of workers is because sadly when it's 'women's' work it's ok to pay a low wage. When it becomes a male industry or half and half everyone will be talking about the wages and salaries will increase plus benefits, all of which will need public funding because the current model doesn't work. Childcare and it's cost is always seen as a women's issue, either a working womans problem or a low paid women's job. If it becomes more mainstream we might actually get sick leave or pensions or god forbid any perk at all, plus a decent wage.

I don't get the suspicion of why would a man take a low paying job, that's just sexist crap. Relatively speaking, teaching primary school doesn't make anyone a fortune and no one complains about men doing this. Yes younger children are more vulnerable but so are non verbal children and adults and elderly or those with MH issues. Yet we have many male psychiatric nurses, no one takes issue with this. No one takes issue with their child being with a male dentist or doctor alone, no one knows what goes on in an operating theatre but I've never heard someone suspect their paediatrician. When all men are banned from being around all children regardless of their social status and qualification then it's a fair argument.

Balloonhearts · 24/05/2026 14:43

Latinglow · 17/05/2026 16:08

Who cares why women work in factories? My toddler’s safety is not affected by some women working in a factory

Your toddlers safety is not affected by their nursery worker being male either.

Anyone who has recently worked in a nursery would know that male or female, you are never alone with a child. Even for nappy changes, which the male staff mostly don't do anyway. There's a screen for privacy but you're still visible to the other staff.

OtterlyAstounding · 24/05/2026 14:43

I'm against male nursery workers. I would prefer that female nursery workers were valued, and paid a high wage.

As this Australian study (PDF link) shows, 4% of men would "have sexual contact with a child younger than 10 years if no one would find out." Additionally:

  • "Men with sexual feelings towards children who have offended against children [...] had 2.73 greater odds of working with children compared to men who did not have sexual feelings or offending with children."
  • "Men with sexual feelings who wanted help were more than twice as likely to work with children compared to men with sexual feelings who didn’t want help." So, at least 5.46 times as likely as men without sexual feelings for children.

If you combine both those who have offended and those who haven't (yet) but have paedophiliac feelings, it averages out at them being around 4 times more likely to work with children than men without sexual feelings for children.

I believe that means that, statistically speaking, a rough estimate of 16% of male nursery workers will have a sexual interest in prepubescent children.

Denim4ever · 24/05/2026 14:49

differentperspectivesneeded · 13/05/2026 12:12

Has anyone else noticed a rise in male créche workers in ROI, and what's the general sentiment on it?

My DC's setting has gotten two in the last few weeks, and it's the first time we've had to think about this. Small town & typically female dominated settings before. I know it's more common in the UK, but seems relatively new here?

While I see the perspective that more positive male role models are good, it does raise questions for me as to why men would put themselves through the scrutiny of entering a historically female only career for minimum wage?

Open to different perspectives on this & interested if it's more widespread in different parts of the country.

Do we mean nursery staff? Afterschool/holiday club staff?

If so, DS is 20 and there were several male staff when he was in nursery and school. All of them excellent, whilst it's a female dominated profession on the whole it's certainly not a job area I find odd or unexpected for a man,

differentperspectivesneeded · 24/05/2026 14:49

I appreciate the additions to the debate, but just to make sure everyone has realized this is on the craicnet board and ROI specific (question centres on changes to cultural norms & societal views). Lots of nursery terminology which isn't typical here.

That being said I do value everyone's input - especially those who have recent real world examples as that's most useful.

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Deadringer · 24/05/2026 17:25

And yet @Balloonhearts there have been cases recently in the media of toddlers being abused in nurseries by men.

Nogimachi · 24/05/2026 17:34

I have to be honest that it makes me extremely uncomfortable. We had a male nursery worker with our dc and I just didn’t feel comfortable about it. The nursery had stringent rules - nappy changes in the open, 2 workers on toilet duty so I felt comfortable that nothing untoward could happen.
Much prefer male teachers at primary school over nursery level.

MILLYmo0se · 24/05/2026 19:43

Dontlletmedownbruce · 24/05/2026 14:16

I agree @Boolabusi work in this sector. One reason I think its good to have a mix of workers is because sadly when it's 'women's' work it's ok to pay a low wage. When it becomes a male industry or half and half everyone will be talking about the wages and salaries will increase plus benefits, all of which will need public funding because the current model doesn't work. Childcare and it's cost is always seen as a women's issue, either a working womans problem or a low paid women's job. If it becomes more mainstream we might actually get sick leave or pensions or god forbid any perk at all, plus a decent wage.

I don't get the suspicion of why would a man take a low paying job, that's just sexist crap. Relatively speaking, teaching primary school doesn't make anyone a fortune and no one complains about men doing this. Yes younger children are more vulnerable but so are non verbal children and adults and elderly or those with MH issues. Yet we have many male psychiatric nurses, no one takes issue with this. No one takes issue with their child being with a male dentist or doctor alone, no one knows what goes on in an operating theatre but I've never heard someone suspect their paediatrician. When all men are banned from being around all children regardless of their social status and qualification then it's a fair argument.

There is a push for the Government to take the CF funding for wages, increase it and take over the wages directly. National Wonens Council as part of the the Alliance for Public (Childcare) had it as part of their launch and SIPTU National Committee voted to campaign for same.
The ERO doesn't work given how employers probably not even in CF can hold the 45 million to ransom by not engaging with the JLC

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