@thelegohooverer Absolutely.
I too find it strange that teachers aren't informed by the principal that a child in their class has gone for testing. Does GDPR require this level of secrecy?
When friends tested positive a few weeks ago, they thought at first they wouldn't get their children tested as, like you, they didn't want to put them through it. Contact tracing did ask that the children go for testing several days later. (They don't have asd so maybe it would be different in your son's case?) The children tested positive, but no school contacts were informed owing to the delay.
To be honest, the school had also very subtly discouraged the parents from messaging (via the class WhatsApp) to let people know that they themselves had positive results. They didn't want to cause panic or confusion. And I can kind of see their point. If you tell everyone that you have Covid19 and you don't know about your children, and then everyone has to hang around four or five days before it's known whether the children test positive or negative...well it's very disruptive for all concerned. But it means that the children's classmates, who were certainly exposed to the virus, took no additional precautions, as they had no idea that they needed to.
Some parents will inform others, some won't - especially if it's being hinted by the school that it's not a good idea. In many cases, the parents are very ill at the time, and not up to making these sorts of decisions.
I'm very worried about this situation. We have vulnerable family members, and I don't feel my children are safe at school, whatever Norma Foley says. They've been tested four times already (thankfully all negative) as they're picking up lots of bugs in school, handgel and social distancing notwithstanding. I'm worried it'll be Covid next time.
As I said upthread, improvements have been promised. So we'll see.
@LadyEloise
I just checked out Papermint too. It looks lovely. Thank you.