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Sleep pod on the bed next to me?

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68degreesnorth · 20/10/2021 19:14

Hi

I'm 17 weeks pregnant and trying to plan the sleeping arrangements... I already have a cot at the other end of my bedroom, but am thinking I'll need something closer for the first 6 months. There's no space for one of those next to me cots by my bed, but I'm wondering if I could get one of those Purflo pods or something similar and put that on top of the duvet in the space next to me? It's a king sized bed so plenty of space (and I'm alone in it). Would that be safe? And work? I'm thinking it will be too draining if I have to drag myself to the far end of the room (it's an open plan loft) every time I need to check on or feed the baby.

What do you ladies think??

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Findahouse21 · 20/10/2021 19:15

I don't think that would follow safe sleep guidance at all. Sorry, may need a rethink. Can you get a crib in that isn't immediately next to you?

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68degreesnorth · 20/10/2021 19:22

I agree. Just trying out so many scenarios in my head I think I'm going a bit mad. Does anyone think it would work that the baby sleeps in the cot (at the end of the room) straight from day 1? I'm thinking it's unrealistic both from the baby's and my own perspective - but maybe I'm wrong. Everyone seems to have one of these next to me cribs though, I'm guessing for a very good reason.

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BingBongToTheMoon · 20/10/2021 19:30

That really doesn’t sound safe.
Have you read/ seen the safe sleep guidelines?
Could you sleep sideways at the foot of the bed and get a next to me for down there?

dementedpixie · 20/10/2021 19:33

Pods aren't recommended as they have raised padded sides. We had the crib and then the cot along the bottom of our bed as there wasn't room at the sides of the bed

girlmom21 · 20/10/2021 19:38

With our first we had a Moses basket at the end of the bed and never had a problem.

Sleeping pods aren't recommended, nor is bed sharing.

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68degreesnorth · 20/10/2021 19:48

Totally agree with you all, and yes I've read, I'm just a bit overwhelmed going through all the options in my head 😅. I'm going to go and measure. Maybe I can squeeze in a next to me crib, that would be best really. Anything at the bottom of the bed would make access difficult due to weird sloping ceiling up there... ahh my head feels like it's going to explode 🤯 I'm very grateful for any help to clear up the mess up there. Will report back soon. 📏

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68degreesnorth · 20/10/2021 19:50

@girlmom21

What did you put the Moses basket on? The one I saw at John Lewis is just a basket but no stand for it

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girlmom21 · 20/10/2021 19:57

[quote 68degreesnorth]@girlmom21

What did you put the Moses basket on? The one I saw at John Lewis is just a basket but no stand for it [/quote]
Ours is on a stand (just had baby number 2). In fact, we've got two stands - one upstairs and one down for naps in the day.

Have a look on Facebook marketplace if you just need a stand. You'll probably find a bargain.

Bancha · 20/10/2021 19:59

If you were thinking of putting baby in the bed with you anyway in a nest, would you want to cosleep? There are ways to do this safely though you’d need to read up on it to make sure it was appropriate for your situation.

HalloHello · 20/10/2021 20:01

My baby outgrew Moses basket by 9 weeks so I wouldn't bother if you can find another option. Next to me cribs are bigger, we have tutti Bambini which lasted my 1st until 7 months and only took her out then because she could pull herself up. You can also use the next to me with all the sides up as a stand alone crib if you can fine a space. I also don't think having the cot the other end of the room is that big a deal actually, could you fit a rocking chair next to it for night feeds?

DressedUpAtAnIvy · 20/10/2021 20:03

Everyone I know in real life ended up cosleeping anyway.
We used our next to me to store stuff in since neither baby was prepared to sleep in a cot until 7 months/11 months.

Skyeheather · 20/10/2021 20:03

Not on top of the duvet, if you're going to co-sleep you need to take all the bedding off the bed - all I have is one pillow for me and a cellular blanket (I wear thick PJ's). Have you looked into co-sleeping. DS is two and we've co-slept since birth.

Fredsgirl19 · 20/10/2021 20:08

You could put a Moses basket in the cot until baby is big enough to not feel too exposed in the cot. That would be my suggestion :)

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68degreesnorth · 20/10/2021 20:10

Everyone's talking about co-sleeping, isn't that what the next to me crib is? If not then I don't know what is meant by co-sleeping

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SylvanasWindrunner · 20/10/2021 20:11

A lot of people use co-sleeping to mean bedsharing.

Fallagain · 20/10/2021 20:13

Cosleeping is having the baby next to you. Look up the Lullaby trust info, it involves you sleeping on your side with baby’s face at nipple height. The next to me crib is far away from you from a new born’s point of view. Also read up on the 4th trimester.

dementedpixie · 20/10/2021 20:13

Co-sleeping is the baby being in the bed with you rather than baby having their own sleeping space outwith the bed

DressedUpAtAnIvy · 20/10/2021 20:15

They market them as cosleeping cribs, but if a crib is involved, it isn’t cosleeping. Both my babies could tell the difference while asleep between being placed onto the bed and being placed onto the crib 2cm further away with me lying exactly next to them. I don’t know how they know, but they do.

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68degreesnorth · 20/10/2021 20:18

Ok - so that's why I looked into the pods because I thought it was dangerous to have to the baby in the same bed as me. The Purflo sleep tight has awards for it's safely features - firm, flat and breathable. Would mean I've got no chance of rolling over the baby. And my own mattress is far too soft for the baby. I don't see how co-sleeping would be safer? 🤔

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FudgeSundae · 20/10/2021 20:19

@68degreesnorth

I agree. Just trying out so many scenarios in my head I think I'm going a bit mad. Does anyone think it would work that the baby sleeps in the cot (at the end of the room) straight from day 1? I'm thinking it's unrealistic both from the baby's and my own perspective - but maybe I'm wrong. Everyone seems to have one of these next to me cribs though, I'm guessing for a very good reason.
Both our babies slept in a cot across the room from day 1. It worked for us!
dementedpixie · 20/10/2021 20:19

It's not flat, it has raided edges.
I never co slept and never had a next to me crib thing either

dementedpixie · 20/10/2021 20:21

And who exactly has certified it for overnight sleep as wasn't the lullaby trust?

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68degreesnorth · 20/10/2021 20:22

@FudgeSundae

Phew - that's good to know!

I do have a chair near the cot - so it might work 🤞🏼

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notasillysausage · 20/10/2021 20:25

I’d get a Moses basket and if no room for a stand just place the Moses basket in the cot. Does your cot base raise up for when the baby is younger so you don’t have to lean in so far?
I really would avoid a sleep pod, they aren’t safe despite claims.

whatswithtodaytoday · 20/10/2021 20:29

I wouldn't use a nest. Go and stick your face in one in a shop - I couldn't breathe properly, so no way a tiny baby could.

Could you move your bedroom around to make the next to me fit? They really are brilliant - I didn't want to bed share but the next to me meant to could just stick an arm out and settle my baby, without needing to get up.