Am in complete shock. DH has accrued huge debts on credit cards, I've just found out. What can I do?

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On impulse, I have just rummaged through the bin and pieced together all the torn up,unopened envelopes for his personal credit card statements.

He is in serious debt and he hasnt said a word about it to me.

There's a pattern.Everything seems to be put on a direct debit for the minimum repayment then he opens a new credit card account and starts again. We're talking thousands and thousands of pounds.

I am not working, am at home with toddler.
Am I liable for these massive debts on his credit cards too then?

My Xenia your a prickly one.

The comment was intended only as an observation on society and, in that context, you will note that I was being gender neutral by saying "people are forced back".

Or do you mean I was being sexist gainst men?

There's an assumption that women work because they have to rather than ebcause we choose to and because it's better for our children if we do which I always like to correct.

I don't think many people will have said men were forced back when 99% of them take paternity leave of only 2 weeks. Many adults of both genders want to be back at work after having a baby.

If Frank F could put out some publicity out measure he might take to ensure fathers stay at home to right gender imbalances then I might take his plans more seriously, perhaps with more financial encouragement to men to stay home than women then we might get more women in the cabinet and in positions of power.

"There's an assumption", yes but mainly on your part.

Are you a ranting feminist by any chance?

No. I like a lot of women go back to work because we want to and it's better for the family. It doesn't mean we were forced back or don't want to be at work. That's all.