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How are you feeling about the upcoming budget?

177 replies

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 17:57

Just wondering how others are feeling about the upcoming budget? I’m feeling quite nervous as my DH is a higher rate tax payer (approx 70k pa after overtime and bonuses) I work part time (wouldn’t be any better off working full time anyway) with 3 children and expensive mortgage (rent wouldn’t be any cheaper) we’ve not been able to afford even a week in a caravan in the UK and had to cancel DC school music lessons and modest Christmas presents are all on having to be put on credit cards. As it is when my DH tries to earn extra doing overtime most of it goes in tax and a reduction in child benefit. Just very frustrated at the thought we might be seen as ripe for a tax grab, just because most people without children on 70k live very comfortably on that amount

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Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:08

ShanghaiDiva · 16/11/2025 22:04

but. You knew what the tax rates were and the costs associated with having children when you decided to have three children. How did you think it was going to work?

We don’t regret for a second having had our 3 children and I’m as proud as anything of my DH who works hard to give them a decent life from his own earnings! We sure as hell won’t be voting for any party looking to fleece us even more

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AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:12

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 21:40

Once tax, NI, student loan payments and the CBHIC are taken off we are, that’s not to mention pension contributions (which are a set % of earnings) and extra commuting costs are taken into account e.g taking on a huge new project which requires a day extra working each week plus many late nights wfh earns 10k extra for the year but we only get to keep 3.5k of that. That’s before the extra commuting costs and childcare if the extra working hours fall during the holidays on a day when I’m working when DH would have otherwise have been off.

So not tax then.

ShanghaiDiva · 16/11/2025 22:14

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:08

We don’t regret for a second having had our 3 children and I’m as proud as anything of my DH who works hard to give them a decent life from his own earnings! We sure as hell won’t be voting for any party looking to fleece us even more

doesn’t answer my question. You must have realised that having three children would have an enormous impact on your outgoings and earning potential and you were surely aware how much tax you would pay. These are choices you have made.

BadgernTheGarden · 16/11/2025 22:16

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:08

We don’t regret for a second having had our 3 children and I’m as proud as anything of my DH who works hard to give them a decent life from his own earnings! We sure as hell won’t be voting for any party looking to fleece us even more

Fair enough but then don't complain about how much tax you have to pay and that you can't afford the lifestyle you want, you are not poor, you are comfortably off compared to many/most people. Not that I want to pay more tax, but I don't earn that much either.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:16

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 21:52

That is hilarious, I had homebirths and the midwives were here for less than 2 hours each time as I delivered within a few minutes of them arriving 🤣🤣🤣 we didn’t get childcare support except for TFC with the older children, until the age of 3 then they were at school at 4, with the oldest one we didn’t use any childcare and our 2nd not until he was older. I did agency work nights and weekends my DH was home.
So if you want to take all the tax we’ve paid and do the calculations I think you will find we are very much net contributors, even more funny as our oldest Dc wasn’t at school for a good while during the pandemic.
My older dc works full time and pay tax thank you very much edit - he was a quick homebirth too but if you wanted to tot up the midwives time 2x 5 hours including pregnancy and postnatal care I’m sure he paid that back within his first couple of months of working

Edited

You absolutely are not net contributors on these figures (and presumably they were lower for several years too).

Do keep feeling hard done by, but you’re significantly better off than most.

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:16

ToKittyornottoKitty · 16/11/2025 20:00

So this is just a benefits bashing thread then? Your DH might not have been able to ‘bother’ to earn what he does if he was a single parent without a partner working part time helping to support his career. Your friends situation is different to yours, if she got less benefits you’d still be spending your money in the same way. Better to focus on your own situation rather than your friends.

Certainly not a benefits bashing thread, I’m glad there is the safety net, more so when it’s my own friends who I see benefit. All I am saying is why are those on UC considered super poor and those who are barely any better off considered super rich, it doesn’t make any sense, do you have any idea how demoralising it is for people to work there way up to then have most of it snatched away in tax and be hardly any better off than if they had not bothered

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HeddaGarbled · 16/11/2025 22:17

Sick to the back teeth of all the whinging and will be even more fed up when it happens and the whinge fest goes Armageddon.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:18

(It’s roughly £17k per year in tax per person in a household to be a net contributor.)

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:19

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:16

Certainly not a benefits bashing thread, I’m glad there is the safety net, more so when it’s my own friends who I see benefit. All I am saying is why are those on UC considered super poor and those who are barely any better off considered super rich, it doesn’t make any sense, do you have any idea how demoralising it is for people to work there way up to then have most of it snatched away in tax and be hardly any better off than if they had not bothered

MOST OF IT IS NOT SNATCHED BACK IN TAX.

gamerchick · 16/11/2025 22:20

I don't think I want to think about the budget.

However, I think people need to stop living to their means and focus on underneath it. Too many people live to the top end of their finances. We're in weird times.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:20

And you actually have 4 children?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 16/11/2025 22:21

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:19

MOST OF IT IS NOT SNATCHED BACK IN TAX.

You are making your point so eloquently. Hmm

ShanghaiDiva · 16/11/2025 22:22

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:16

Certainly not a benefits bashing thread, I’m glad there is the safety net, more so when it’s my own friends who I see benefit. All I am saying is why are those on UC considered super poor and those who are barely any better off considered super rich, it doesn’t make any sense, do you have any idea how demoralising it is for people to work there way up to then have most of it snatched away in tax and be hardly any better off than if they had not bothered

But most of your money is not snatched away in tax and when all of your children are in school full time your costs will be lower and you could consider more hours.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:25

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 16/11/2025 22:21

You are making your point so eloquently. Hmm

Getting fed up of OP’s hyperbole.

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:25

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:16

You absolutely are not net contributors on these figures (and presumably they were lower for several years too).

Do keep feeling hard done by, but you’re significantly better off than most.

So please explain how over our own and our children’s life times we are not net contributors as our children will not doubt work and pay tax when they are older too. Most people pay far less tax than us, so how would that work if we are a drain then most of the population most also be even more so. Where has the money come from all this time??? Myself DH have not even been to the doctor in years, neither have my children except for routine vaccinations.
Surely if what you were saying made any sense the country would be very rich if people had stopped having children along time ago? Interesting theory, please tell me where you got your degree in economics ?

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EmpressoftheMundane · 16/11/2025 22:28

ShanghaiDiva · 16/11/2025 22:14

doesn’t answer my question. You must have realised that having three children would have an enormous impact on your outgoings and earning potential and you were surely aware how much tax you would pay. These are choices you have made.

Hang on. She’s not complaining about the taxes she does pay, but the possible hikes in the budget. As a “working” person, Labour encouraged her to believe that they would be on her side and look after her interests. Not shake her down.

ShanghaiDiva · 16/11/2025 22:30

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:25

So please explain how over our own and our children’s life times we are not net contributors as our children will not doubt work and pay tax when they are older too. Most people pay far less tax than us, so how would that work if we are a drain then most of the population most also be even more so. Where has the money come from all this time??? Myself DH have not even been to the doctor in years, neither have my children except for routine vaccinations.
Surely if what you were saying made any sense the country would be very rich if people had stopped having children along time ago? Interesting theory, please tell me where you got your degree in economics ?

not Sure you can classify yourselves as net contributors based on the hypothetical future earnings of your children…
has your nursery aged child already expressed an interest in pursuing a career with huge earning potential? Actuary? Magic circle Lawyer? Working for the big four? …

ShanghaiDiva · 16/11/2025 22:32

EmpressoftheMundane · 16/11/2025 22:28

Hang on. She’s not complaining about the taxes she does pay, but the possible hikes in the budget. As a “working” person, Labour encouraged her to believe that they would be on her side and look after her interests. Not shake her down.

She is complaining about the tax she pays now - most snatched away in tax apparently.

EmpressoftheMundane · 16/11/2025 22:33

I do think raising the next generation is a productive, pro social thing to do. And they are doing it without any special top ups. The implication that the OP isn’t pulling her weight is distasteful.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:35

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:25

So please explain how over our own and our children’s life times we are not net contributors as our children will not doubt work and pay tax when they are older too. Most people pay far less tax than us, so how would that work if we are a drain then most of the population most also be even more so. Where has the money come from all this time??? Myself DH have not even been to the doctor in years, neither have my children except for routine vaccinations.
Surely if what you were saying made any sense the country would be very rich if people had stopped having children along time ago? Interesting theory, please tell me where you got your degree in economics ?

I actually do have post grad-quals in economics and statistics. 😂

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/personalandhouseholdfinances/incomeandwealth/bulletins/theeffectsoftaxesandbenefitsonhouseholdincome/2024

ShanghaiDiva · 16/11/2025 22:35

EmpressoftheMundane · 16/11/2025 22:33

I do think raising the next generation is a productive, pro social thing to do. And they are doing it without any special top ups. The implication that the OP isn’t pulling her weight is distasteful.

No one is saying she is not pulling her weight, rather that there are costs associated with having three children which dramatically affect disposable income. This is choice op has made.

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:35

20k is a very significant portion and about 20k more than our disposable income after giving our children what most poverty organisations would consider are the basics, can totally understand if we had the money for all inclusive in Mauritius each year but I’m talking about enough money for my children to have a 30 minute music lesson offered by the school and to not buy a modest Christmas present for them on credit. I think you’ll find your far left ideology of trying to wear down anyone who tries to work hard to afford anymore than the absolute basics will work out as well as if did in the countries that tried it. Hopefully there’s not enough of you to lead the country any further down that path.

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AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/11/2025 22:36

EmpressoftheMundane · 16/11/2025 22:33

I do think raising the next generation is a productive, pro social thing to do. And they are doing it without any special top ups. The implication that the OP isn’t pulling her weight is distasteful.

The OP isn’t actually paying any tax……….

Bess34 · 16/11/2025 22:40

Well if people like you have anything to do with public policy we’ve got no hope, economists who believe people who are having children and fully supporting them plus paying a shed load of tax and whose children are also growing up and paying taxes are a huge drain 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

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EachFallenRobin · 16/11/2025 22:41

All these rich people moaning whilst those of us living in poverty just get on with it. What a hoot.