AIBU to think life is SHIT

[Champers66]

Can’t elaborate much more on that- other than, life is literally shit. ‘Money doesn’t make you happy’ is the biggest pile of shit I’ve ever heard.

I work full time- so does my husband. Our wages haven’t changed (increased) in a long time, I have a trade and I work for a shitty company who pay me literally minimum wage for my job (leaving! Going SE)

m my husband is self employed so some weeks are better than others. We have 2 DC- DS 8 and 6 month.

we pay all our bills every month, with a huge struggle, and are left with nothing. Or bare minimum, and monthly I get emails from suppliers saying they are putting their bills up. Surely there has to be a conflab between them to discuss the fact they are increasing COL but wages stay the same..? I don’t know how they expect people to survive without losing their home, or killing themselves!

I rent- and yes I should have listened to my mum and saved from teenage years, but I didn’t, n now I have absolutely no way of getting on the property ladder. I don’t expect people to subsidise me- of course not- but just feels like the government and companies who provide services we have to pay for (not optional expenses!) are literally doing all they can to ensure they cripple people and their families.

even basic food shopping to feed my kids is unaffordable and I shop at aldi and freeze everything in sight!

I feel sorry for my 2 kids and I actually feel guilty for bringing them into this world. How bad is that.

YABU - it’s my fault I should have made better choices
YANBU - stop the world I want to get off.

If you can, I'd suggest you look into emigrating to a better country [than this shithole]. There are labour shortages in a lot of places.

@RogueFemale id love that, but no can do unfortunately

Oh, and in addition, it can stop you being in pain and your teeth falling out ( if you can’t afford a dentist, there are plenty of people with gum disease whose teeth are falling out as they can’t afford a dentist. We now have people in modern day Britain pulling their own teeth out as they can’t bear the pain and can’t afford a dentist). It can keep you being able to see well enough to read and hold down a job ( glasses are very expenses especially as you get older. My lens prescription alone is hundreds of pounds). It means you can purchase a whole range of health services, mental health support, physical health support that you either can’t get on nhs or will wait years for. I have a friend who has a condition that means she gets regular bouts of terrible immobilizing agony. She has to lie on the floor in terror and pain till it passes. She says it’s so unbearable if she was given a gun she would kill herself to make it stop. There is a treatment to stop the attacks coming and she is able to pay for this and it’s not available on the nhs. Tell her money doesn’t buy happiness.

People who think money does not buy happiness or only buys ‘food and warmth’ have absolutely no idea how much money is buying them and will buy them, especially as they age and need money to compensate for a failing and inadequate nhs. Much better to buy your hip replacement then slowly become immobile waiting. Most older people don’t regain the mobility they lose during periods of inactivity due to ill health. And being mobile enables happiness for most people.

I know people say on here when the children are grown it is much easier but I am a single income household and although ds works full time and pays for his food council tax and electric I have to be very careful.

I certainly do not feel better off now he is older (19 in a couple of weeks).

I have no mortgage or rent and no car but always living very careful.

Ds does not understand either as he does not pay all the bills like I do.

I am lucky I have no debt though and can definitely get by but have to think the whole time about any spending.