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Food bank

180 replies

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 07:49

Hello, I have been waiting for a voucher for a food bank referral but there now aren’t any food banks open today near me! What do you do - it’s so amazing that there is a system in place to help but only if it’s a weekday. I’m not sure what to do / doesn’t anyone have any advice ? Thank you

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MissMarplesbag · 19/02/2023 10:52

Put some old toys and clothes up for sale on local fb market place to generate some cash.

Redo your CV and apply for better paid jobs because what you're earning now isn't covering your expenses.

Pick up an extra shift at a pub or cafe at the weekend or evenings for extra cash.

Look at your outgoings and see where you can make savings by swapping to cheaper deals.

Villagetoraiseachild · 19/02/2023 10:58

Hi @Bexicles83, I hope you get sorted soon.

Recently I saw a woman take some food directly from the food bank donation box in one of my local supermarkets.
At first I was a bit shocked that she was 'stealing' then I quickly realised she probably needed those items. So I wouldn't now judge anyone for doing this.

If you can't bear to do this, maybe have a chat with the manager and Im sure they would okay you/ put some things in a bag for you themselves.
In Greece this is standard in some supermarkets, or was anyway - there is a whole section especially for people who need it.

Sorry haven't had time to read whole thread and have to go now, but good luck.
No one should have to do without food.

namechangeforthisbleep · 19/02/2023 11:01

Can't believe the people saying they can't believe you have nothing else. Ffs I can't imagine being so blind to what's going on and not realising this is happening with ALOT of people! Judgemental pricks on here really are horrible people

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 11:03

I really agree - I didn’t come on here to hear I can’t believe you have let yourself get in this situation or really you have nothing else?
anyway luckily I’m thick skinned and am just trying to get through the days and weeks the best I can x

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mumda · 19/02/2023 11:08

@florentina1 loads of people pay via phone and app points being scanned at the checkout. That same method could be tried. It's how asylum seekers get theirs.

NanaRant · 19/02/2023 11:18

So sorry @Bexicles83, I wrongly assumed you were in Scotland because of your reference to Scottish Power. Any Mumsneters from Surrey wishing to help feed this woman's 5 year old child? A carrier bag with contents from your cupboard?

For those of you who "can't believe" that a young family have zero food, with no means in which to get any in the worst Cost of Living crisis in decades and pushed into horrendous fuel poverty by a brutal £600 a month utility cost, maybe a cost of living thread is not for you?

What we should all be shaking our heads at is how this can be allowed to happen in the UK in 2023.

I hope someone can help OP. Mumsnet have verified you are genuine, as far as they are able to, with the usual caveats and sound advice. Opinions are all well and good, but they don't feed hungry children.

My very best wishes to you.

KathieFerrars · 19/02/2023 11:22

There is the Horsham Conmunity fridge. I am sure other areas will have something similar if you can get there.

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 11:24

Thank you - that’s very reassuring that someone understands! Xx

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Augend23 · 19/02/2023 11:39

Not sure what if anything will be open near you, but worth a look here maybe, if you haven't already:

www.surreycc.gov.uk/staff/wellbeing/social-wellbeing

Where I live the warm banks often have free tea and biscuits, so may be worth a look, but probably need to ring first to check:

www.surreycc.gov.uk/health-and-welfare/support/welfare-support/everyday-living/warm-hubs/list-of-warm-hubs-in-surrey

One of the Facebook pages I looked on looked like there might be something at Surrey Heath Young Person and Family Centre from 12:30-13:30 on Sundays but it was from a while ago so not definitely on today.

Definitely worth asking on your local Facebook page though - if you were near me I know I would be happy to drop some food off. We have a Facebook page for the town which arose from lockdown, if you have similar, that might work.

Okunevo · 19/02/2023 11:57

namechangeforthisbleep · 19/02/2023 11:01

Can't believe the people saying they can't believe you have nothing else. Ffs I can't imagine being so blind to what's going on and not realising this is happening with ALOT of people! Judgemental pricks on here really are horrible people

It's not that I can't believe it, I've been poor myself and I'm on barely above minimum wage now with myself and a teen to feed. It's that I have read threads before where it turned out that the OP of those threads did have some other food they didn't mention initially. So I was just checking as I could have helped with recipe ideas from experience.

inigomontoyahwillcox · 19/02/2023 12:00

FFS Foodbanks are not an exercise in making the middle class feel smug! Ours not only supports circa 80 families a week in our district (and for what it's worth we also provide a supermarket voucher (of their choice when available) to allow them to purchase some fresh food with their standard parcel of food), but supports clients with energy bills and signposts/refers them to a variety of other organisations or council departments to provide ongoing support to enable them to pull themselves out of, or support them through the situation that resulted in them needing one in the first place. We also work with charities such as the clothing bank and local foodshare scheme (which distributes surplus fresh food from supermarkets, shops and producers). We also use our limited funds to address the very specific individual needs of a client on a case-by-case basis, such as recently financing appropriate baby equipment and supplies for a struggling family who were surprised with a premature baby.

We have stuck to a delivery model since the pandemic to ensure that clients with no access to transport (or unable to fill their car with fuel) are provided for, we will be moving back to collection as an option shortly but delivery allows us to access our rural clients, so will continue with it. But there is always room for improvement in service and efficiency and we're always analysing the needs and trends of our local population to provide as best we can.

Just a word about why don't we just rid ourselves of foodbanks and give people money/vouchers.

Our clients come from a plethora of backgrounds, struggling with a variety of problems - unfortunately many of them struggle with alcohol or substance abuse, levels of illiteracy, mental or physical health problems which stop them from being able to access shops, or some simply are not capable of prioritising their budget and making sensible decisions about spending money on healthy, nutritious food for themselves or their families for whatever reasons (low levels of education, mild learning disabilities etc.). You may think that the latter statement sounds judgemental - but this is the reality we are faced with on a regular basis. A huge amount of our clients are families with children, we provide enough food for 7 days, including plenty of food with high nutritional value and slow release energy - of course we also supply some frivolous, nice to have food, as well as cleaning products and toiletries. Plus accommodating dietary needs as best we can and ensuring pets are also fed. We're covering as many bases and reaching as many people as we possibly can.

Vouchers would need to be permanently marked (i.e. not a removable sticker) as only being able to be used for food/non alcoholic drinks, which creates an element of stigma (something we work hard to minimise at the Foodbank) and just transferring/giving money to them is not an option as, as I already alluded to above, this would very often not be spent on purchasing food. By just doing the above we would not be fulfilling our objective of ensuring that everyone who needs us in our district receives food which, to the best of our resources and ability, will provides them and their children with the energy and nutrition a human body needs.

And finally, our volunteers come from all walks of life, yes some are well off people wanting to give something to the community, we also have former clients of the Foodbank, retirees and people who can't work for a variety of reasons. We're not just a bunch of privileged do gooders, but a group of people who have a genuine desire to support those most vulnerable in our community and counter the side effects that a run of ineffective governments have had on people's ability to feed themselves and their families.

Sheesh - I can't believe I had to write this out!

FancyFanny · 19/02/2023 12:50

I don't understand how someone with not enough money for food manages to run up a fuel bill of 600 a month. I live in a draughty old house and we have the heating on for a large part of the day because we work from home and ours is about that. However, if I we were struggling for money for food we would be prioritising that over heating and could cut our bill considerably.

If someone is spending their day on an internet forum complaining they have no money or food I think it's acceptable for posters to question the OP? We have no idea why she's broke other than her large heating bill, therefore we don't know that she's deserving of sympathy. Posters are only offering advice- needing a food bank doesn't necessarily negate you from all criticism.

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 12:54

If you read above I actually explained the £600 fuel bill/ but thanks for making me feel even shitter than I already do 👍

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TheBestUsernamesAreGone · 19/02/2023 13:07

OP I hope you manage to sort something out, but please let your child's teacher know tomorrow morning if she has not had breakfast. If a child came in to my class having not eaten (for whatever reason) I would get some fruit for them.

VirtualRealitee · 19/02/2023 13:18

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 12:54

If you read above I actually explained the £600 fuel bill/ but thanks for making me feel even shitter than I already do 👍

Look, unless you're extremely new to Mumsnet and the internet in general, you'll know there are scammers out there. They tend to post on weekends, stating there's no chance of obtaining food/money until a certain day/date further on.

Anything suggested by other internet users that doesn't involve offering money/gifts, will be met with a reason why they can't do that and often their posts will end with kisses etc.

That is the reason why MNHQ has to post the warning, because some people couldn't see a scammer if it waved a big red flag in their face, with the words "I am a scammer" written on it.

None of this means you are not genuine, so there's no point in taking it to heart. You know you are because you know yourself but we don't. So there's no need to feel shit.

I hope things improve for you and all your family soon OP Flowers

endoftheworldniteclub · 19/02/2023 13:23

VirtualRealitee · 19/02/2023 13:18

Look, unless you're extremely new to Mumsnet and the internet in general, you'll know there are scammers out there. They tend to post on weekends, stating there's no chance of obtaining food/money until a certain day/date further on.

Anything suggested by other internet users that doesn't involve offering money/gifts, will be met with a reason why they can't do that and often their posts will end with kisses etc.

That is the reason why MNHQ has to post the warning, because some people couldn't see a scammer if it waved a big red flag in their face, with the words "I am a scammer" written on it.

None of this means you are not genuine, so there's no point in taking it to heart. You know you are because you know yourself but we don't. So there's no need to feel shit.

I hope things improve for you and all your family soon OP Flowers

Well written. And I don’t think I ever see posters ending with kisses other than in posts like this. It’s good that people are alert, and op you’ve had lots and lots of advice so good for you too.

FancyFanny · 19/02/2023 13:24

So, Op, what are you going to do?

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 13:28

I have thanks :)

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Birthdaygirltoday33 · 19/02/2023 13:43

I've pm'd you x

Blondeshavemorefun · 19/02/2023 13:43

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 09:54

South east

I'm south east.

I can't drive at the moment due to leg op - but can get dh to drop something off if in Kent

Meanwhile knock on neighbours doors and ask for some slices of bread or some pasta /cereal and milk which is cheap and filling

Blondeshavemorefun · 19/02/2023 13:49

Oh. Seen further post from you

Sorry you are in Surrey

This isn't a dig - but didn't you reliese yesterday that you had no food for today - and used the food bank then

Please talk /contact your pastoral support officer at school - then email is usually on the schools website

They will be able to help you with hardship funds /possibly food

Make sure your child has something for breakfast tomorrow at school as assume you won't have anything by 8/830am before school

Are you on a wats app class school group ? Please messsge someone /the admin on it

I'm admin on ours and would hate to think my daughters school friend /family were struggling if Zero food and would offer to have them over for a meal or give them some food

quicklybeendrivenmad · 19/02/2023 13:50

@Bexicles83 Have you looked at British Gas tghey have a debt write scheme which is not only open to their customers but also those of other suppliers I will attach the link and I hope things improve for you britishgasenergytrust.org.uk/grants-available/

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 13:51

The food bank is only open here on weds and Fri
thank you though

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Blondeshavemorefun · 19/02/2023 13:55

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 13:51

The food bank is only open here on weds and Fri
thank you though

So you won't be able ti go there tomorrow ?

So what will you do then ?

Please talk to your friends or family - sure someone can give you some food

Bexicles83 · 19/02/2023 13:55

I have messaged a few people thank you xx

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