Springing into the New Year with the 2017 Frugaleers

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Just setting up the new thread for the chatty Frugaleers.

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Blimey Need you are far from that. If you can't believe that about yourself just look at your terrific kids. You did that. And you would never say anything so undermining and hurtful to them. So you are already a better parent than your DM. It sounds as though she has some issues but you're not one of them.

cath I am not sure why you would need to take any systemic medication for a filling. A local anaesthetic at most, surely?

Cag hope you feel better soon.

We seem to be forecast a bit of sleet but nothing that settles. I know snow is a pain but DS would love it (only seen it once when he was 3 months old so he won't remember). I am rather disappointed... !

Oh Need, that's awful. So sorry to hear that. I kind of know how you feel, as DS told me I'm a shit cook yesterday and he's only "being honest", after refusing to come fown for his dinner. (He backtracked a bit and said only my chilli and curry are shit, when I suggested I start giving him some money for buying and cooking his own evening meals.) It's a bit late, but I think you need a glass of .

Bloody hell, Need. You are the opposite of your DM. How can anyone say such a thing about their DC? Think of all you have achieved. You're a brilliant Mum, wonderful, successful runner, running a successful business. You are brilliant. Remember that. You are right about being responsible for how you feel. So feel good about yourself. Sod DM.
Cag, that is worrying. Hope you feel better.
Cath, I laughed at you long rest today. I'm just jealous.
Em, I have to go to Jersey in June for the charity I work ( volunteer ) for . I will be looking out for very tall cabbages. Love the pics of catface. Get well soon.

Yes totally get that need it's baffling, when you love your own child to the ends of the earth and would do anything to keep them safe, happy and healthy... to wonder why you weren't given the same. I empathise, I have similar issues with my parents - not nasty spiteful people at all but they failed to protect me in a big way (in short, I was abused, not by them but a family member, but they didn't stop it or let me prosecute etc). And having my own kids just made me wonder, HOW the hell is that parenting, to fail me in such a massive way?

But like you, I have risen above it. Sometimes it makes me sad but I refuse to let their failures ruin me, I can make it better for my own kids and although it will always be part of me and I'll never have a normal relationship with them but it doesn't define me. :)

Gosh Cag that's terrible. I am sorry that happened to you, you are remarkably balanced for all you have been through!

I am very grateful for my family and childhood being very unremarkable and boring, in the best possible way. Even PILs are okay. (I can see potential for things to get tense with BIL but we are not in each other's faces too much.)

And Creme, grr to ungrateful children!

Wow need that's terrible - you are a very impressive person imo and I'm glad your DH and DC have been Looking after you.

God need that's awful

Will be nsd. It's meant to rain all day and I'm working.

Thank you all. You are all really kind. I'm up early because I didn't sleep. I shouldn't let her get to me, but she did this time. I'll get over it, and I won't allow her to define me, but I will be honest and say it will take a few days. You are right, these are her issues and not mine, but right now, I'm finding that bit a touch hard to remember!!

Cag I am shocked at how brilliantly and fantastically your DP failed you there. But equally impressed with how brilliantly and fantastically well you have moved forward and protected your own DC's best interests. I know it's really not as simple as that, abuse of any form, but you are testament to resilience and good parenting.

creme DC can be so fantastically hurtful can't they? Splendidly so. I would have been tempted to bin his meal (maybe on his head)..

Scarecrow Yes, normal families are a blessing. My DF is normal. DM and DF are not together, unsurprisingly...

Anyway, spends today.
£15 personal trainer.
£60 Ocado delivery, £10 of which is alcohol free lager for DH.

My sign

Ah, great sign!

And now £40 on Amazon on a bulk order of Nak'd bars and snack packs.

Ah need. I echo everything everyone has said. You are far from worthless.
I guess sometimes it could get to you as subconsciously this time might be different and she might not be a cow to you.

Cag and crème too. Teenagers are lovely aren't they.
Cag we see survivers of abuse and you are awesome.

Love the sign

Oh and offload as much as you need to need

Well we need a new TiVo box, new garden fence and my phone is broken.
£200 on panto tickets but I will get £60 of that back.

I bought a dress in the coast sale last night for the wedding in nz. I was going to re use one I had but they're a bit too Christmassy. So £39. I'm also bidding on one on eBay. One will go back.

jerseyeveningpost.com/island-life/history-heritage/giant-cabbage/

trying there you go. An article about giant cabbages. True story.

What a horrible things for your mother to say to you, Need. The sign is brilliant though and I hope you are paying more attention to that comment than hers. I'm not surprised you didn't sleep, hope you are not feeling too rough today.

Love the cat pics, Em. She looks properly at home now!

I'm a bit grumpy. My day off today. DD is going to nursery as I have a hospital appointment and DH has taken the day off to get some jobs done. He said he would take DD to nursery so I could stay in bed which is the first time he has suggested anything like that since I've been pregnant. He was up at 6 as usual, I heard him getting DD dressed at about 6.45 then he came into our bedroom, turned on the light and told me it was time to get up. What sort of a bloody lie in is that?? I am still in bed on principle even though I've been awake for nearly an hour now! Will get up in a minute but grrrrr.

snuggly I would have thrown whatever I could reach at my dh if he did that! Well maybe not but definitely got cross and grumpy with him.

Yesterday spends were
€44 in butchers, this was by choosing what I wanted rather than getting €20 deal which also does 7 meals.

€50 on neutering the cat, he was feeling very sorry for himself last night & €5 for stage school for dd, class is at 7.30pm for an hour which I think is too late, it's now being moved to village where I work from 4.30-5.30pm which means au pair will have to take dd but I can collect her. Dd not too happy because she likes their small group but there'll be extra teachers so I'm happy about it & hoping dd will blossom more there.
€10 this morning for Christmas play DVD
€10 on 4 week course with a nutritional therapist, love food & diet related classes
€10 on Unislim
€?? on grocery shopping

Forgot €20.02 on 20 hoover bags yesterday, got this many because I will be paying AddressPal €3.50 to collect package.

I got my car insurance quote for next year €650 up about €100 and my online quotes so far are even more expensive, I've a month to sort it and try get it cheaper

Account balances:
Personal Account 137.20
Cash 50.00
Joint Account 596.27 (+75.99 pending)
Joint Cash 110.00

Thanks again all. xx

Right. I've done a personal training session.

Additional spends (just to clear my 'spending tasks' in one day).
£15 - 'essential' vests at Next. Just plain strappy vests to go under jumpers and clothes, mine are so old and knackered. Been meaning to do that for ages.
£10 black socks for DD.
£10 Boxing gloves for my PT sessions from Amazon.

All done now, unless I do Boxercise which is a fiver.

I should have done, mammy! Have actually had quite a productive morning though, cleared out a lot more junk and been to both the tip and the charity shop. Deliberately left my purse at home so I wouldn't be able to buy any new clutter!

Need I used to love boxercise. I might start it up again when no longer pregnant.

Need petrol, that's an expense I could do without at the moment.

I love it too Snuggly. I don't really need to go, I did loads of exercise last night and today but I do enjoy it.

Hope those babies have grown, I am sure that they will have. Fingers crossed anyway.

I was saved from myself when I was out this morning both with my diet and financially.
I was queuing for deli counter, and there was a guy on the phone, it seemed like he was queuing but I wasn't sure and so let him go first. He bought all the sausages, I was planning on getting a sausage sandwich as a treat for myself, instead I bought a banana, saving me €'s and lbs on the scale too.

Didn't bring small change with me so ended up paying €2 for parking, spending much more than the 60c required.

Also I didn't clock out of work and told fc when I came back how long I was away, he said because it was for a pension meeting I'll be paid. I also got my public services card sorted at social welfare so two birds killed as they say!

Off to SN playgroup today with DS. Hope he remembers he likes it! Around £3 parking, should be no other spends