F***. At the in-laws and I’ve just tested positive.

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We got here yesterday and last night I started feeling ropey. My SIL is CEV and my FIL (who we are meant to be seeing tomorrow) is currently going through chemo.

I’ve just done a test and it is very definitely positive. I’m panicking and don’t know what we do. My DH is currently out walking the dogs with SIL and BIL.

not really sure what I’m hoping to get from this post but I feel awful about being the one that bought covid into the house and potentially ruined Christmas 😭

When DF had cancer and undergoing treatment we would avoid meeting up with him when we had colds never mind more serious illnesses. A cold might not have killed him but he had cancer in his spine so coughing was agony for him

Are you stupid? Did you miss the bit where OP said the family members are vulnerable and one is having chemo? A fucking cold can kill someone having chemo, it knocks out the immune system.

Except my elderly MiL caught COVID - a fit, healthy lady who was still able to drive. She tested positive for COVID.
Medics diagnosed COVID paranoia after the police/firemen had to break into the house to get to her. She was cowered behind the door, smashed glasses everywhere as she had had a ‘party’.
Rapid onset dementia diagnosed since, linked to COVID. Absolutely devastating to see the change in her both mentally and physically.

I fall into the relaxed about covid category and in your circumstances even I would air out the house, have your DH disinfect doorknobs and common touch surfaces and go home. Sorry OP - how crappy 🙁

Welcome to the club. I test positive on Wednesday, DH on Thursday and DD this morning. DS was sick last week so he's the likely vector. All of our Christmas plans are canceled. It's rubbish.

If you're over 50 try to get one of the covid antivirals. I did and I felt much better a day after starting them.

Are you serious?

A family member is having chemo.

It's people like you who cause the problems!

What a fucking stupid comment! Her fil is going through chemo. Chemo completely wipes out a persons immune system so any vaccinations have to be re done when he's recovered from chemo. I'm sure op doesnt want to kill her fil.

And this is why my friend is in danger of death. They have a heart condition and breathing problems, as well as a compromised immune system. Were meant to go to hospital yesterday for a check up on an injury but left because the waiting area was full of unmasked people coughing and spluttering (without any attempt to put their hands over their mouths)

erg people not covering their mouths when they cough is awful
i sit next to someone who has been blowing their nose and leave the tissues on her desk for weeks.
as soon as i sneeze i wash my hands - i always have done tbh

Thanks everyone. DH is packing up the car to head back home :( my MIL is being super understanding which is really lovely.

@VickyEadieofThigh im so sorry 💗

Another one who's fucking lacking in brain cells. Did you miss the bit about her fil going through chemo?

What’s the point in panicking? You didn’t do it deliberately and they could catch it anywhere. Even CEV people are largely fine these days as long as they’ve had their vaccine. Just go home

She isn't panicking.

I hope you feel ok and have a nice day tomorrow.

How well do you expect a treatment which works to educate the immune system in advance to work, when that person is having a treatment which kills off the body's own immune system?

100%. Don't blame yourself. You couldn't have known.

No the case unfortunately. My uncle died on November 22nd this year from covid.

I can't believe you said this when the OP said her FIL I'd having chemo. How ignorant can you get? I honestly despair.

I'm CEV and still suffering from having covid in July. It's not nothing for many of us, you know.

What?! No it doesn't! Even if you become neutropenic you generally don't have to get your vaccinations re done, your body recovers itself. And not everyone on chemo becomes neutropenic anyway.

All the people I know who are on chemo and/or CEV have been the people who have probably suffered least with covid, provably as they have had tonnes of boosters and get give anti-virals. In fact there are regrets in the health system about cancelling and delaying so many cancer treatments due to Covid fears.

But yes, if OP knows they are positive they can't really in all good conscience now spend Xmas with their inlaws.

It depends on the type of chemo given. I've had to have most of my childhood vaccinations again and 6 Covid vaccinations. Unfortunately, antibody testing shows that none of them have worked and I still don't have any antibodies.
Luckily, my family and friends know not to come near me without a negative Covid test or if they are ill in any way.

Sounds like a mixup with measles or a bone marrow transplant.

Only to a certain type of person.

How ignorant and uncaring. The OP's in-laws are vulnerable but even if they weren't I would leave to avoid spreading it.

Re: chemo
DM was diagnosed with a lymphoma a year and a day ago and started chemo a week later. She was told to isolate (nit that weekly chemo left her in any condition to do otherwise) 1- for her own protections d 2- so that her treatment would be uninterrupted; she would not have been allowed in the chemo ward if she eas positive, and had to go into the hospital for a pcr test a couple of days before each treatment. As her principal carer/contacts my household and I were advised to minimise contacts as much as possible.

You're in good company OP. My youngest tested positive yesterday so our big family Christmas postponed from 2020 due to Covid lockdown then from 2021 due to eldest testing positive on Christmas Eve is now postponed again for the third year running.

My parents are both in their 80s and my father in particular has a number of health problems that make him vulnerable plus I have another relative who is CEV so it just wasn't worth the risk.

We'll try to have a get together in the new year at some point to make up for it.

You've done the right thing and there will be other celebrations in the future.