Page 4 | F***. At the in-laws and I’ve just tested positive.

Bunny2021 · 2022-12-24T14:03:39+00:00

We got here yesterday and last night I started feeling ropey. My SIL is CEV and my FIL (who we are meant to be seeing tomorrow) is currently going through chemo. I’ve just done a test and it is very definitely positive. I’m panicking and don’t know what we do. My DH is currently out walking the dogs with SIL and BIL. not really sure what I’m hoping to get from this post but I feel awful about being the one that bought covid into the house and potentially ruined Christmas 😭

quicklybeendrivenmad · 24/12/2022 16:28

Both me and DH tested postive, CEV inlaws so obviously cancelled Christmas day but also will not be going anywhere until we have a negative LFT as I feel really ill and would hate to inflict this on anyone

IWannaBeInTheRoomWhereItHappens · 24/12/2022 16:32

BedTaker · 24/12/2022 16:03

What?! No it doesn't! Even if you become neutropenic you generally don't have to get your vaccinations re done, your body recovers itself. And not everyone on chemo becomes neutropenic anyway.

All the people I know who are on chemo and/or CEV have been the people who have probably suffered least with covid, provably as they have had tonnes of boosters and get give anti-virals. In fact there are regrets in the health system about cancelling and delaying so many cancer treatments due to Covid fears.

But yes, if OP knows they are positive they can't really in all good conscience now spend Xmas with their inlaws.

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Well I'm glad all the people you know who are CEv are not suffering. That doesn't make it so for everyone, you know. Who do you think are the people still dying of covid?

As to regret at delays, no one had a choice, did they. Hospitals were under the worst strain.

BedTaker · 24/12/2022 16:41

As to regret at delays, no one had a choice, did they. Hospitals were under the worst strain.

No. A large part of the reason that they cancelled cancer treatments was because they were worried about the effect of Covid on those having chemo. It turned out that the risk was not nearly as bad as they thought, and people died because they had treatments cancelled due to fear of Covid exposure, when Covid almost definitely wouldn't have killed them at all. There has been lots of talk in the cancer community about the wrong decisions that were made, Deborah James made a documentary about it, but I guess hindsight is a wonderful thing and at the time it was unprecedented.

I'm not saying that people should be totally careless and deliberately spend time with vulenrable people , but I know someone in real life having chemo for Stage 4 cancer, and lots more online, and believe me Covid really is the least of their worries.

Adviceneeded200 · 24/12/2022 16:42

They need to air the house, clean the house and you need to go home.

Your vulnerable family members need to act on advice they will.have recieved (for example do they need the hospital to issue anti virals). Anyone in touch with you needs to avoid meeting vulnerable people too.

It's not your fault - it's unbelievably catchable.

My husband caught it mid December, 3 days later he got sick, then 3 days later I caught it from him. We delayed my elderly Dad coming, thinking he had dodged a bullet, only for him to get it from (probably) a bus shopping trip. So we picked him up so he was with us to care for him, then 3 days later my daughter and her boyfriend who had arrived the same day.

We are all vaccinated as allowed and the suffering is definitely age related for us. My elderly father was the worst. So, please do avoid them. You are not ruining Christmas. Indeed you are giving them the greatest gift - at the least 3 days of feeling well not like s**t

OooScotland · 24/12/2022 16:54

What do you mean you don’t know what to do? Go home asap so you can get comfy there and they have time to air out the house and wipe things down of course!

What the in-laws want to do about other visitors is then for them to decide.

Minfilia · 24/12/2022 17:07

I’m sorry OP. I hope you have some nice food in at home?

We are at the back end of covid in our house but two of us are still feeling pretty grotty. However the other household coming to us is also at the back end of covid so it’s business as usual, which I suppose is unfortunately fortunate!

You did the right thing going home, you couldn’t have known!

BabyFour2023 · 24/12/2022 17:13

Air the house and leave soon as DH is home.

butterfliedtwo · 24/12/2022 17:35

AdelaideLane · 24/12/2022 15:36

Except my elderly MiL caught COVID - a fit, healthy lady who was still able to drive. She tested positive for COVID.
Medics diagnosed COVID paranoia after the police/firemen had to break into the house to get to her. She was cowered behind the door, smashed glasses everywhere as she had had a ‘party’.
Rapid onset dementia diagnosed since, linked to COVID. Absolutely devastating to see the change in her both mentally and physically.

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Oh, this is just awful.

UnshakenNeedsStirring · 24/12/2022 17:55

pinkfong1 · 24/12/2022 14:24

Keep quiet, covid has been around enough now and the vaccinations have done a good job. I wouldn't even test anymore tbh!

How would you feel if someone died and you were the person they caught covid from? You are utterly obnoxious if you think its ok. Lots of people are vulnerable.

Justsaynonow · 24/12/2022 18:03

MamboJamboWambo · 24/12/2022 15:13

Last Xmas my niece had Covid and gave it to pregnant me. My sister is going through chemo and she never got it, nor did any of my other family, including my husband who had been kissing me and my dad who is also clinically vulnerable. So not everyone catches Covid or might have already had it recently and not known. Id let the family know and ask them what they would like to happen. My sister wasn't bothered in the slightest that I had Covid.

That was then, this is now. And you were lucky. Covid during pregnancy increases risks . These are different variants from last Christmas - much more contagious and many are immune evasive strains that have also learned to outwit antivirals. Because there are so many new variants, you can catch one after the other without a break. Those with up to date vaccines still seem to have a lowering in severity of the acute illness but not necessarily from the longer term, more subtle effects. The more times you catch covid, the greater the long term consequences for morbidities.

I hesitated to write this as so many on here seem to downplay the risks, but I hope it will help someone. The risks are there and are rising - though you wouldn't know it unless you search out scientists who are studying it. SARS-CoV-2 is very clever and is being given countless opportunities to develop more effective variants through the "let 'er rip" school of thought.

jtaeapa · 24/12/2022 18:08

Get straight out and make sure that the vulnerable people know whether they are entitled to treatment from the CMDU (the places that dispense antivirals/monoclonal antibody infusions). And try to find the phone number/email of the local CMDU (notoriously difficult). This saved my mum’s life in August.

MintyFreshOne · 24/12/2022 18:32

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 24/12/2022 16:23

Re: chemo
DM was diagnosed with a lymphoma a year and a day ago and started chemo a week later. She was told to isolate (nit that weekly chemo left her in any condition to do otherwise) 1- for her own protections d 2- so that her treatment would be uninterrupted; she would not have been allowed in the chemo ward if she eas positive, and had to go into the hospital for a pcr test a couple of days before each treatment. As her principal carer/contacts my household and I were advised to minimise contacts as much as possible.

Tbh postponing treatment should never be considered simply because of a positive result. How many people are dying because of this cruel policy? I do hope this isn’t a thing anymore, it’s no longer recommended in the US (took them long enough too)

magicthree · 24/12/2022 18:35

The ignorance of the just keep quiet and don't test brigade is really shining through on this thread
Wonder if it ever crosses their mind how ignorant their comments are

I doubt it crosses their minds at all - they are either thick, or the selfish type who couldn't care less about anyone else.

Pinkyxx · 24/12/2022 18:37

My father caught covid while in hospital in November having had a stroke. He gave it to my Mum. I've been caring for them both, Dad is only just turning a corner. Pop a mask on, air the house, clean everything you've touched and go home as soon as your DP gets back.

I'm so sorry, awful timing!

IWannaBeInTheRoomWhereItHappens · 24/12/2022 19:34

I'm so sorry about your friend.
But I also knew someone with advanced cancer, and she got covid while having chemo in hospital, and died. So it was a big thing for her, and for many other cancer patients whose immune systems didn't hold out.

IWannaBeInTheRoomWhereItHappens · 24/12/2022 19:35

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IWannaBeInTheRoomWhereItHappens · 24/12/2022 19:36

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MeetPi · 26/12/2022 00:57

@BedTaker

No. A large part of the reason that they cancelled cancer treatments was because they were worried about the effect of Covid on those having chemo. It turned out that the risk was not nearly as bad as they thought, and people died because they had treatments cancelled due to fear of Covid exposure, when Covid almost definitely wouldn't have killed them at all. There has been lots of talk in the cancer community about the wrong decisions that were made, Deborah James made a documentary about it, but I guess hindsight is a wonderful thing and at the time it was unprecedented.

I'm not saying that people should be totally careless and deliberately spend time with vulenrable people , but I know someone in real life having chemo for Stage 4 cancer, and lots more online, and believe me Covid really is the least of their worries.

Ah. I see what you're doing: shifting the narrative to <cancelled> cancer treatments. However, I think you'll find those that have have Stage 4 cancer are fairly concerned about Covid. My brother is one of them. He nearly died a few weeks ago after a nasty bout of Covid (he has no immune system after a bone marrow transplant).

It turns out out you need an immune system to be in a position to fight off Covid. Patients on chemo tend not to have great immune systems, do they?

Glitterblue · 03/01/2023 01:02

pinkfong1 · 24/12/2022 14:24

Keep quiet, covid has been around enough now and the vaccinations have done a good job. I wouldn't even test anymore tbh!

What a spectacularly selfish attitude! This is the reason it's not going away! The OP has a FIL who's going through chemo and apart from anything else, you don't know how it'll affect anyone. DH lost a friend who was 100% healthy with no underlying conditions. My 81 year old dad who has a few underlying conditions had it so mildly he hardly knew he had it, but my 77 year old mum who doesn't have any conditions at all was very very poorly with it.

MintyFreshOne · 03/01/2023 04:14

Glitterblue · 03/01/2023 01:02

What a spectacularly selfish attitude! This is the reason it's not going away! The OP has a FIL who's going through chemo and apart from anything else, you don't know how it'll affect anyone. DH lost a friend who was 100% healthy with no underlying conditions. My 81 year old dad who has a few underlying conditions had it so mildly he hardly knew he had it, but my 77 year old mum who doesn't have any conditions at all was very very poorly with it.

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Ummm … Covid is never gonna go away