Parents want me to do and kids to do covid test before visiting

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AIBU for being a bit put out by this?
My brother is also visiting and he's really cautious about covid so it could be driven by him. There is no talk of them doing one.
AIBU to be a bit miffed?

Oh, literally just had 2 notifications come through from employees (who work in the same little office) that they have tested positive with no symptoms.

(We ask them to test at their discretion and going off the reports most are happy to 😊)

I'd just do the test. I'd be a bit taken aback too if I were you, but it's 2 minutes of swabbing to put their minds at rest versus staying away out of stubbornness.

They are right to request them. My ex husband and his partner visited my mother in law last December and the partner had covid, she infected e husband, one of my kids. SIL and her husband, pure chance that Mil did not get it.

I think on this occasion depends totally on your relationship and what Christmas means to you.
They are your parents, it is your religious festival, unless you're not very close nor very religious and it's just a get together because you feel obliged to.

I'm not testing routinely but I'd happily test if anyone wanted me to. I'd test for flu, colds, etc too, if the tests were available.

An illness is the worst christmas gift ever

Do you mean lie and put people who might be vulnerable at risk? I get sick of peopel lying, it stinks, but it seems these days a lot of people think it's fine to lie. It never, ever is.

I have to say that I am really stunned at some of the responses on here today. For yours and your family's peace of mind and safety, is it really that big of a deal to do a test so that you can spend Christmas with the rest of your family. It hasn't been mentioned in my family yet but that is because it will be taken as a given that we wont want to put each other at risk and do one either that day or the night before.

From reading the OPs posts, I don't think it said anywhere that the parents and brother were not going to test - just that the OP and her family were more likely to be at risk because they have been out and about more.

Do you know theres no mention of him doing one? Has he said he hasn't been asked? I don't think its unreasonable of them to ask to be honest, it's rife again.

I think some posters need to read Hancock’s The Pandemic Diaries. Then you’ll realise just how much nonsense we were told about covid and mitigation methods - from the horse’s mouth! How much political posturing went on regarding masks, tests, vaccines and infection control - all from the man himself. Just how many other sufferers of potentially fatal illnesses were sacrificed on the altar of the ‘Covid NHS’ and how so many are now paralysed by irrational fear of one specific virus, when there are actually many others we need to be just as, if not more, aware of.

As others have said. Don’t go. If their fear, anxiety and vulnerability is so high, having children who can be carriers of all sorts of bugs will not help. The tests might be negative but you could still be carrying Strep A, norovirus, flu or even a cold. It’s their health and well being, so their choice, but they shouldn’t be expecting others to test if they don’t want to. Hospitals aren’t even asking visitors to test are they?

From reading the OPs posts, I don't think it said anywhere that the parents and brother were not going to test - just that the OP and her family were more likely to be at risk because they have been out and about more.

I can guarantee they won't test because they think they are "clean".

Because they are dishonest self-centred people who think they can behave however they want to regardless of the impact on other people? Because that fits my observations about liars.
Oddly enough, I have seen some of them go all apeshit and outraged if anyone else dares to lie to them. That's 'different', apparently.🙄

It's a quick swab or spit test, not a kidney transplant. Just do the bloody test.

It would have taken less time to do the test than to write this. Just do it and think no more of it.

Seems fair enough

So you test test test until you find it? Over how long a period?

😂 It has become clear to me that children are harbingers of disease, certainly. I used to commute into London and get sick maybe once a year. I can't even count how many illnesses I've had this year.

It's like being in 2020 again! Have the last two years not happened? The "so selfish" mantra is still being bleated.

We KNOW testing isn't accurate. We know masks do very little to limit the spread.

Yet people still cling to the idea.

What if the OP and her family do all produce a negative test, but her parents get Covid anyway in the next few weeks as is reasonably likely?

By the same token, there's nothing in there that indicates the OPs family will have the same attitude as yours, ie a given that you'll all do it because it's considered a communal responsibility and concern. And in fact the OP makes it clear she doesn't think that's the case in subsequent posts, so your family's stance on this is really quite different to hers.

Well, if I were you I would either lie about having done a test or just not visit them. They are within their rights to ask you, but you also have the right to not comply. So YANBU because all this testing nonsense should have stopped 2 years ago!

Same. I tested ages ago. I don’t even know why. I was feeling perfectly ok. I tested positive. (I think my kids were sick that’s why I tested. They remained negative the whole way! ) but I had zero symptoms. However the first time I had covid I was rushed to hospital by ambulance and spent a while hospitalised

i wouldn’t test. But then I just wouldn’t go. I don’t have a problem with testing but my kids hate it. So because of that I just wouldn’t go.

provlem is had my kids of not been sick the last time I tested. I wouldn’t have tested and would never of known and gone all about my business whilst positive.

Fucking hell, are people still doing this shit?

That's true. I got covid in February, I felt awful and felt sure it was covid but got 3 negatives, after the third one I booked a PCR so 2 hrs after negative LF I did the PCR and it was positive.

I do understand people being cautious, I've got long covid and gradually improving but it has been a horrible year for me but I live normally now, no mask, have visitors and go out. I did agree with lockdowns but we can't do it forever, or at least I can't.

Hope it all works out OK whatever you decide to do.

What kind of covid tests are you using? I've only heard of the vile swab kits that are awful for children! (And adults too but at least they can understand why it's needed).

Then they can relax safe in the knowledge that they've done a they can to prevent it.

Just do the test and go!

My family live on London, we are on buses and the tube, in schools and colleges, it feels as if we are in a permanent epicentre of infection.

Relatives are elderly (over 80) , never go to crowded places or on public transport. Of course we are more likely to infect them than vice versa. We don't go if we are sneezing, coughing or vomiting. Us testing gives us and them a bit of peace of mind. They want to see you and testing gives that extra peace of mind. What's the big deal?