totally hacked off with covid

[arktoring]

Just that. Not expecting any actual help here.

I don't meet anyone indoors because I don't want to chance taking infection to my adult DD who lives with me.
She has ME and T2 diabetes, so is likely to have a bad reaction to covid and/or to get long covid.

I sometimes meet friends for a walk outside but have 2 hobbies I really love which are done inside with others so of course there's no chance of doing them.

I know there are many people who are worse off than me and can see that in posts on MN.
I just feel miserable, tho.

[Overthebow]

OP what are you waiting for? Covid will be around forever now. Was your DD on the shielding list? Does she never go out and meet friends?

[Ylvamoon]

How old is your DD?
How is your DD dealing with this?
Does she go out? School, work, friends and appointments? Vaccination? (Not sure if she can with MS so excuse my ignorance!)

You (and your DD) can't lock yourself away forever. You need to get something in place that will allow you to enjoy your life!

[arktoring]

Thanks for the replies.
It's ME not MS.
DD is 38. She had 2 vaccines but she thought they were making the diabetes worse so won't have more.
She controls it with diet and exercise, no meds, and checks her blood sugar often.
She had several years of being fairly housebound because of the ME but has been quite a lot better in the last 6 years or so and did go out with friends & to cinema etc.
She does go to appointments, if needed.
She is on benefits so does not work.
Her main activity is computer games solo or with people she knows but nothing in person.

I wouldn't enjoy mixing with people anyway unless things improve a lot.

[Whisp3r]

This is self imposed misery. Covid isn't going anywhere and neither are you apparently.

[myuterusistryingtokillme]

I have T2 diabetes and it was unpleasant but nothing a few days in bed didn't fix

[Mirrorball2022]

My dad has diabeties , lung diseases and other things that could be very risky if he caught covid but he has had his vaccines, he takes precautions and wears a mask but he is trying to get on with life a little. He comes out for meals, attends appointments, goes shopping.

I’m not a covid minimiser I know it can be bad I work in healthcare but we can’t wait for it to away because it isn’t. Cases are lower atm.

Your daughter Is an adult I’m not sure it’s fair on you this situation.

[Grumpybutfunny]

Have you asked your DD how she feels about COVID now? My dads T2 he had covid with no symptoms at all. The rest of us have had it recently as a strange virus (very random symptoms) but nothing more. You can't live under a rock forever COVID isn't going away

[JoanieJoan]

@Whisp3r

This is self imposed misery. Covid isn't going anywhere and neither are you apparently.

I agree

It's not going anywhere OP

[Bobbins5467]

You are choosing this miserable life for you & DD OP. Covid isn’t going anywhere & will circulate at a moderate level for, well, forever. Things aren’t going to ‘get better’. Although hopefully treatment will continue to improve. But you can choose to get vaccinated as much as possible, make sure you know how to get access to the antivirals if DD is as high risk as you say. Your DD really needs her additional jabs if she qualifies.

My 65 year old mum is quite severely immunocompromised. She’s had 4 vaccines & is now living life 95% normally. She’s just spent all afternoon at a family party in a village hall with 60 guests. We are jetting off to Greece is half term on holiday with her. She meets friends, volunteers in a local charity shop, enjoys trips to the cinema, the theatre, restaurants etc. The only thing she avoids is child heavy places like softplay, DDs school plays, kids birthday parties..

[Waxonwaxoff0]

My friend has Type 1 diabetes and she's living normally.

[Voice0fReason]

If she was on the CEV list then she will be eligible for the anti-virals if she tests positive. They really help reduce the severity of the disease
You have to find a way of living with this.

[Gensola]

Think this is self imposed !

[screwcovid]

@Gensola

Think this is self imposed !

Agree my dad has lung disease my child type 1 get out and enjoy life

[Tee20x]

Agree with others that covid isn't going anywhere, how long will you carry on like this? Several more years? At some point you have to get back to some sort of normality. Understandable if you want to err on the side of caution and not take risks eg going to massive raves etc but at least go and do your hobbies!! You're making your life miserable.

[Ponderingwindow]

I understand. My life is still very limited because of DH. He finally got Evusheld and our world has opened up a bit. We went and ate in a restaurant for the first time in years. We went at an absolutely off-peak time, there were only a couple of other people there, and they seated us away from them. Just getting near the waiter briefly a few times without masks felt bizarre but wonderful. DH was able to attend a small family gathering of fully vaccinated family members. We left him at home for the last couple even though it was his side of the family.


We still aren’t cleared for random crowds without masks and I’m not sure if we ever will get the ok on that since people now go out even when they know they have the virus. Since I’ve got some claustrophobia and wearing the mask is very difficult, I have to just concentrate on my cbt exercises. that means I really don’t get any value in trying to socialize or go to entertainment venues with one on.

[SpindleInTheWind]

You need to stop this, @arktoring

Is your adult DD imposing some little boundaries on your behaviour, by any chance?

[arktoring]

Thanks for the encouragement.
No, neither of us is imposing anything on the other , we're just doing what seems sensible .
It's been helpful to read your replies.

[Tootlingalong]

My best friend has T1 diabetes, I have ME and POTS and we've both had covid twice. Both had a few days of not feeling great but my vaccines actually caused my POTS to flare worse than covid.
Life is for living OP, this isn't something you can avoid for the rest of your life.

[Oblomov22]

This is purely self imposed. Why are you facilitating this? How bad is her ME and diabetes? On what basis is it bad enough to still shield? I know plenty of people with these conditions and they haven't behaved in this extreme way.

[Abraxan]

Covid won't ever go away so you will need to make a decision as to whether this is how you will live your life or not.

I'm classed as being vulnerable. I have had 4 vaccines and I am eligible for antivirals if I have covid. I shielded initially and then was moved to group 4. Then back to the higher group when it came to the extra vaccines and medication.

I teach primary, with little children so I am in regular contact with covid. There has never been any social distancing, etc, due to their age so my choice was, after lockdowns ended, go out and mix or stop working and hide from it. I did the former.

I've had covid twice whilst being classed as vulnerable.

Yes, I was ill and I did have some complications the first time, but that was pre vaccines and a more worrying variant than we have now. And ultimately I was still only a 'moderate' case. I went into hospital for repeated complications (it made my blood pressure spike) rather than the covid related breathing issues. I wasn't in high dependency, icu or needing oxygen/ventilation.

The second time (3 vaccines later) I had antiviral infusion in day 5 and it was a game changer imo. Within 24 hours from that medication I went from being a very strong positive, feeling rather poorly, breathing issues in doing anything, etc to feeling so much better and testing negative in LFT.

Both times I caught covid from school during big outbreaks, so there'd have been a high viral load from numerous close contacts in poorly ventilated over crowded classrooms,

Dh and dd did not catch covid from me despite us not social distancing at home. When dh (3 vaccines in, fairly mild, ongoing cough but only felt 'heavy cold/flu like' poorly for 2 days) had covid more recently I didn't catch it from him either. I've seen this lots - household members not passing it in. So there is a chance that even if you caught it she may not.

[Topseyt123]

I am type 2 diabetic. I also have a couple of other conditions that make me quite vulnerable. I am going about my daily business as normal now and have been for a long time.

I am fully vaccinated and I also had Covid fairly recently. It was a big, streaming head cold.

Covid is here to stay. Are you going to hide away forever? The rest of us aren't. There is no need for this self inflicted misery. Go out and live your life.

[Remmy123]

My friend has T1 and had no symptoms

i know you said ME but my other friend has MS and felt very well with it!

you need to live your life your daughter wiil be fine.

[2022again]

as much as you might want to protect your daughter, perhaps sit down and really examine your reasons why.... i have long term CFS and have never once tested positive for covid even though i catch every single cold going and can be laid up for 3 weeks with a simple cold (and having kids i get exposed to a lot of bugs). the second booster is not even being offered to people with type 2 unless they are immunocompromised for other reasons. There is just as much likelihood that your daughter would be perfectly fine.You say you wouldn't enjoy mixing with people "unless things improve a lot". what would need to change for you to be happy that "things have improved a lot"? please don't waste another summer, before too long we'll be back in winter and then covid levels will go up again. why are you denying yourself pleasure in life from your hobbies at this stage?

[Smartiepants79]

Did you behave like this before covid?? If not what is different now?
Contagious disease is not a new thing. Is covid really so much of a greater risk than flu or any other communicable virus?

[PrettyGirlsMakeGravy]

I have rheumatoid arthritis and am immunosuppressed due to the drugs I take for it. I'm also obese (size 18), have high blood pressure and I have other health issues.

For the longest time I did nothing, went practically nowhere, neither did DH. We don't drive and I was told not to use public transport, so my world was pretty my flat (with no outside space) and the supermarket twice a week when it was quiet. My RA affects my mobility so it was very, very rare that I could manage even a shortish walk. Prior to covid DH and I would go to several gigs a month, travel, go to the theatre... Our world shrank to nothing. I saw nobody (we have no friends or family so I only interacted with people we chatted to on evenings out really). I have never felt so depressed or isolated in my life. This went on for well over a year and a half.

I caught Covid five times in that time. I've been asymptomatic and I've been pretty unwell but I've never been so ill I needed medical help. A few months ago I just thought, sod it. I'm probably going to keep catching covid because I'm immunosuppressed but I've had four jabs (fifth next week) and so many infections that I seem to be protected against severe illness at this point. My MH was in the toilet, so was DH's, we couldn't carry on like that.

In the past couple of months we've been to several gigs, comedy shows, bars, day trips and planned a couple of longer trips for later in the year.

I finally feel like I'm living again. In the pursuit of simply staying alive I forgot to actually live. It was absolutely no way to live and it's no way for you to live either, OP.

Covid is going nowhere but I certainly am. Life's too short to do otherwise.