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Child covid vaccinations

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AutumnOrange · 08/04/2022 17:08

Would you vaccinate your child against Covid without telling their other parent (child doesn’t live with other parent) This question is assuming you agree with vaccinating children - the question is purely would you tell the other parent (who disagrees with all COVID vaccinations and doesn’t believe COVID is real)

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ElenaSt · 08/04/2022 17:59

No I don’t think you should have a child vaccinated when the other parent vehemently disagrees.

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AutumnOrange · 08/04/2022 18:05

I partly agree with you. But the other parent shows no interest in medical, health or education situations and leaves it all to me.
It is just covid he has a bee in his bonnet about and thinks it is all a big conspiracy.
Why does he get to decide?
Genuine question - not being snarky - I want to do the right thing and not cause issues but I personally believe dc should have it.

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ElenaSt · 08/04/2022 18:11

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daisyjgrey · 08/04/2022 18:12

If the other parent doesn't show any interest in anything else health based and leaves it all to you then crack on.

angeltattoo · 08/04/2022 18:13

You would be acting in their best interests so I think that is a more rational view than objecting to all thinks covid with no rational critical thinking.

Also if the precedent is that these things fall to you to decide, then I see no reason for that not to continue.

angeltattoo · 08/04/2022 18:14

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AutumnOrange · 08/04/2022 18:16

Urgh it’s hard because I am pro vaccine and my other dc have had or will be having theirs but they are old enough to decide.
My 7 yr old isn’t.
Does anyone know the legalities on this?
I am main caree/provider do not receive maintenance from him and dc sees him twice a month - not that that is relevant but I worry it is clouding my view

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AutumnOrange · 08/04/2022 18:17

*carer

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FflosFfantastig · 08/04/2022 18:53

No I think transparency is best. It must be really difficult when parents don't agree, but I don't think the sneaky approach is a very adult way to go about things. I think both parents views should be taken into account, they both should carry equal weight.

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AutumnOrange · 08/04/2022 19:20

@FflosFfantastig

No I think transparency is best. It must be really difficult when parents don't agree, but I don't think the sneaky approach is a very adult way to go about things. I think both parents views should be taken into account, they both should carry equal weight.
And if both parents disagree and don’t budge then what? I genuinely don’t know what to do.
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MrsTerryPratchett · 08/04/2022 19:25

I'd get her vaccinated but be honest.

user1471509171 · 08/04/2022 19:47

I'd vaccinate.

Wednesdayafternoon · 08/04/2022 20:53

If your child had a reaction or became unwell following the vaccine how would you deal with it?
What if it got brought up during some other examination or something in the future?
They always say "in the child's best interest" and isn't the nhs recommending vaccinating children? If so I would ju

Wednesdayafternoon · 08/04/2022 20:55

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Just say something Along the lines of "I understand your point of view, but as it's recommended for XX to be vaccinated I am making the decision to taken them as I believe it's their best interest".

Mindymomo · 09/04/2022 07:41

Well he’s never going to agree if asked, so it’s down to you to decide. Your GP will advise him getting the vaccine as will all healthcare professionals. You say your other children are old enough to decide, what do they think. If they say he should have it, then you can tell ex that you took a family decision, hopefully this will help.

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AutumnOrange · 09/04/2022 07:47

My older 2 children have had it - my 11 year old has only just become eligible and he wants it too.
I am going to use the wording a pp said and advise that whilst I know he has a different opinion I am going to follow the experts/NHS advice and get him vaccinated.
🤞🏼 He doesn’t kick off

Thank you all for your replies Flowers

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GeneLovesJezebel · 09/04/2022 07:50

If it went to court it would be seen as being in the best interests of the child, so yes I’d get it done.

Samarie123 · 09/04/2022 12:00

I would listen to the other parent and ask him to give you more detail on why he doesn’t want the child vaccinated…

It may help you come to a better understanding yourself.

Malahaha · 09/04/2022 12:16

Up to you but I would be livid if my partner did this to my child behind my back. It is bound to come out one day. What if, for instance, the child has long term adverse effects?

MrsSkylerWhite · 09/04/2022 12:19

AutumnOrange

My older 2 children have had it - my 11 year old has only just become eligible and he wants it too“

There’s your answer, your son wants it. Sounds much more sensible than his dad.

latriciamcneal · 09/04/2022 12:47

@AutumnOrange

I partly agree with you. But the other parent shows no interest in medical, health or education situations and leaves it all to me. It is just covid he has a bee in his bonnet about and thinks it is all a big conspiracy. Why does he get to decide? Genuine question - not being snarky - I want to do the right thing and not cause issues but I personally believe dc should have it.
Well what's the child's risk? If it's like 1% already, what's 80% of 1%?

The vaccine, if we assume high efficacy, brings him up to 1.08% and that's worth the known risk of heart disease and the unknown risks of the injection?

You've made a bad risk assessment.

leafyygreens · 09/04/2022 13:12

Why attempt your own risk assessment @latriciamcneal, when it has been done by many teams of scientists/clinicians/policy makers globally?

I would advise anyone undecided to read the synthesised evidence, and make their decision from there.

leafyygreens · 09/04/2022 13:14

@Samarie123

I would listen to the other parent and ask him to give you more detail on why he doesn’t want the child vaccinated…

It may help you come to a better understanding yourself.

But if the other parent thinks coronavirus is all a big conspiracy, clearly his opinion isn't coming from an informed viewpoint.

If I thought the pandemic was made up/grossly exaggerated, and posed no risk to my child, then obviously I wouldn't see any point in vaccination.

latriciamcneal · 09/04/2022 13:21

@leafyygreens

Why attempt your own risk assessment *@latriciamcneal*, when it has been done by many teams of scientists/clinicians/policy makers globally?

I would advise anyone undecided to read the synthesised evidence, and make their decision from there.

Because the one that's been done deems a tiny decrease in risk from covid complications worthwhile against an unknown risk from the vaccination, which is objectively bad.
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AutumnOrange · 09/04/2022 13:33

@Samarie123

I would listen to the other parent and ask him to give you more detail on why he doesn’t want the child vaccinated…

It may help you come to a better understanding yourself.

I have already had the rants from including nazis, sheep and a forum he is part of that Covid is just a big conspiracy - if he had a more reasonable point of view then I would hear him out but unfortunately it is just incoherent nonsensical ramblings. I would honestly find it funny if it wasn’t to do with my child.
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