Child covid vaccinations

[AutumnOrange]

Would you vaccinate your child against Covid without telling their other parent (child doesn’t live with other parent) This question is assuming you agree with vaccinating children - the question is purely would you tell the other parent (who disagrees with all COVID vaccinations and doesn’t believe COVID is real)

@Malahaha

Up to you but I would be livid if my partner did this to my child behind my back. It is bound to come out one day. What if, for instance, the child has long term adverse effects?

He isn’t my partner he is the father of my dc. He chooses not to be involved in any other medical, educational, well being or safety issues regarding our dc. He chose to use Covid to avoid seeing dc for a month over Christmas and NY despite saying he doesn’t believe it exists. He had to be told by the court to call his dc inbetween fortnightly visits - He doesn’t pay maintenance (not relevant to this issue but just to give you an idea) The above is where I worry because obviously things aren’t great and I want to make the right decision for my son without feeling as though I am being biased because his dad is an arse.

Just to clarify - I won’t keep it from the dad. That would mean telling dc to keep a secret and I absolutely won’t do that.

Because the one that's been done deems a tiny decrease in risk from covid complications worthwhile against an unknown risk from the vaccination, which is objectively bad.

Which risk assessment? There have been many done by multiple different bodies.

For the UK, what you are saying is not the conclusions drawn by the JCVI.

Again to clarify - I get rambling emails that we are living in a nazi country, anybody who believes covid exists and gets vaccinated are sheep and it’s all a big conspiracy by our government.
How do you have a reasonable discussion re the above?

I really didn’t want this to be thread debating the rights and wrongs of children being vaccinated but I know threads evolve.
I was hoping for advice on what to do when separated parents disagree, neither will budge and there is no compromise.
For what it’s worth we had this same argument about the MMR - but I told him I was doing it (after months of discussions) and he didn’t say a word.

I've had both DC vaccinated and it didn't so much as cross my mind to tell their father about it, let alone ask for his permission. He takes naff all responsibility for anything else so why would you?

@AutumnOrange

I really didn’t want this to be thread debating the rights and wrongs of children being vaccinated but I know threads evolve. I was hoping for advice on what to do when separated parents disagree, neither will budge and there is no compromise. For what it’s worth we had this same argument about the MMR - but I told him I was doing it (after months of discussions) and he didn’t say a word.

I don't know - I would really struggle to take their opinion into account when they don't believe COVID is real.

Could ask at the next doctor's appointment for advice? Personally I'd want the decision taken out my hands so you can tell difficult parent, well the GP advised it.

But if they were anti-MMR then it sounds like even saying it was medically advised wouldn't help.

@RishiRich

I've had both DC vaccinated and it didn't so much as cross my mind to tell their father about it, let alone ask for his permission. He takes naff all responsibility for anything else so why would you?

That is how I feel

Could ask at the next doctor's appointment for advice? Personally I'd want the decision taken out my hands so you can tell difficult parent, well the GP advised it.

Genuine question but should I really take up a drs appointment that the dad won’t attend just to be told it is advisable for my dc to be vaccinated? My dd can’t get an appointment about her horrendous periods! Not being snarky but that is time out of my working day unpaid for an appointment that the dad won’t take seriously anyway.

I understand about wanting the decision taken out of my hands though. Then I can’t be abused or threatened.

Well, he does sound like an a*hole! It's a pity that there are people who destroy any argument against kids' covid vaccinations just because they are a*holes and speak nonsense.
Good luck to your family. I do see your point now.

@AutumnOrange

Could ask at the next doctor's appointment for advice? Personally I'd want the decision taken out my hands so you can tell difficult parent, well the GP advised it.

Genuine question but should I really take up a drs appointment that the dad won’t attend just to be told it is advisable for my dc to be vaccinated? My dd can’t get an appointment about her horrendous periods! Not being snarky but that is time out of my working day unpaid for an appointment that the dad won’t take seriously anyway.

Yup that's why I said at the next doctors appointment rather than book one for it, I agree you shouldn't be making one to discuss it- it's not a medical issue, more of an ethical one!

I just meant that if you had some kind of medical authority figure you could defer to, it might make it easier, but as I said in my post I agree it sounds like it wouldn't make a difference anyway if he was anti-MMR and doesn't believe COVID is real.

Thanks all.
I honestly believe if, 2 years ago, I had said I didn’t believe covid was real he would have gone all in, followed guidelines etc got vaccinated etc (He did not keep to any guidelines or laws unless it gave him an excuse not to see his dc) but there is no reasoned argument from him. He literally just disagrees with any opinion I have.
If I was standing in the rain he would tell me I was wrong. How do you argue with stupid?