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28 replies

countrylady2 · 31/01/2022 22:06

I caught covid for the first time since all this started. I told 2 different friends who said so what and that I put myself in that position to catch it! I have been very careful throughout this and caught it from a housemate. The one friend who made the comments her sister, niece and mother have it and I bet she didn't tell them it was their fault. My guy friend said it was my fault and yet his wife has had it 8 days and is ill which he said she caught it from school and I bet he didn't tell his wife it was her fault. Who says to their friends when they are ill you have brought this on yourself? I wouldn't dream of saying that to a friend and would be sympathetic or providing solutions.

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Tealightsandd · 31/01/2022 23:15

They don't sound very nice or like good friends OP. Not people worth getting upset over. Easy for me to say but try not to let it get to you. Perhaps, to give them the benefit of the doubt, they didn't mean it and were having a bad day - scared or stressed, and (wrongly) took it out on you.

I hope you feel better soon (and find some decent friends) Flowers

Buzzinwithbez · 01/02/2022 12:53

I don't understand why catching covid became a moral issue.

The lack of empathy from your friends is odd....I wonder what's at the bottom of it....

TheKeatingFive · 01/02/2022 13:04

I don't understand why catching covid became a moral issue.

I know. Ridiculous.

I guess some people are in some weird superstitious mindset that if you're 'good' you won't catch it.

countrylady2 · 01/02/2022 13:51

They are the hermit types and still want lockdown. They say people should still work from home. I wouldn't mind but I have always worn an N99 mask. I don't go to nightclubs, pubs, restaurants or use public transport. They always say people should be staying home but we have our lives to get on with.

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PlateSpinnerJuggler · 01/02/2022 13:56

Even the most careful of people can catch it - it's highly transmissible.

Even just popping to the shops for food - kids at school - nothing outrageous.

Ignore these friends and rise above their negativity.

Hope you stay well!

VikingOnTheFridge · 01/02/2022 14:26

Unfortunately, some people are so stupid that they think getting a highly transmissible disease in a pandemic is some sort of moral failing. You deserve better friends.

Fairylightsongs · 01/02/2022 14:29

@Buzzinwithbez

I don't understand why catching covid became a moral issue.

The lack of empathy from your friends is odd....I wonder what's at the bottom of it....

Agree, I also didn’t realise it was a sin to have blame allocated.
countrylady2 · 01/02/2022 14:40

When I feel better I am going to give these people a wide berth. No sympathy from me if they get ill.

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VikingOnTheFridge · 01/02/2022 15:00

@countrylady2

When I feel better I am going to give these people a wide berth. No sympathy from me if they get ill.
Can't blame you!
Blubells · 01/02/2022 15:00

This isn't really about Covid.

It's about your 'friends'!

Hope you feel better quickly.

countrylady2 · 01/02/2022 15:14

@Blubells I think I was just shocked but it seems from another thread on here that people don't care now if you are ill!

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Blubells · 01/02/2022 15:33

Hopefully your true friends will care!

Wreath21 · 01/02/2022 15:37

This is because the pandemic was turned into a moral panic from the beginning, and stupid people really bought into it. These 'friends' are probably also the sort of people who think that being attacked only happens if you drink too much and wear short skirts.
It is a kind of superstition - the way to keep 'safe' is to live as restricted a life as possible and to denounce the choices of others, loudly, frequently and, if possible, to their faces.

Mammyloveswine · 01/02/2022 15:41

Im currently off with covid..im a teacher and its the second time ive caught it!! Im feeling really poorly...yet still trying to work from home and praying that im negative tomorrow and then first thing thursday so i can be in for the end of the week!!

Your friends are dicks

ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 01/02/2022 15:42

Catching covid is not a moral failure. It’s a high toy transmissible virus.
The sooner people realise this, the better.

ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 01/02/2022 15:42

*highly

countrylady2 · 01/02/2022 15:42

@Wreath21 I think you are right there, they probably would say a woman being attacked was her fault for wearing a specific outfit. It has probably been a good thing for them to misbehave as their true colours have come out which I would not have know before.

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Samiamnot · 01/02/2022 17:07

Are you vaccinated? Could they be making a comment on this?

countrylady2 · 01/02/2022 18:25

I misread the message from the guy I take it back as he never said it was my fault. Just the woman who is petrified and blames everyone else.

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user1487194234 · 01/02/2022 19:15

I am a very tolerant person but people who judge you for not being (as careful /neurotic as them ) make me very cross

Tealightsandd · 01/02/2022 20:51

@countrylady2

I misread the message from the guy I take it back as he never said it was my fault. Just the woman who is petrified and blames everyone else.
Sounds like neither of you like each other very much OP.

She may well have good reason to be 'petrified' particularly since 'hermit types' wanting an ongoing lockdown are rare in the UK.

Either she has a CEV condition that you don't know about, or a mental health issue. Both of which are deserving of the same empathy and compassion you're calling for.

It sounds as if it's best that you both move on from each other - unless both of you manage to find two way understanding and compassion.

In the meantime it sounds as if you're doing all the right things - and more, since most people who are following expert medical and scientific advice (including from the WHO) are getting on with going out and about but with simple mitigations. Masks, vaccines, good ventilation. I understand if you're scared to venture into a pub, however, and any good friend would too - and would encourage you to take baby steps instead of mocking you.

It's great that you're wearing a mask. I'd say if you're not a HCP, FFP2 (N95) is sufficient, but if you feel safer in an FFP3 (N99) then that's fine too (just a bit more expensive!).

countrylady2 · 02/02/2022 08:59

@Tealightsandd It is understandable I have reacted the way I have after being attacked by a so called friend. I hardly go anywhere but she sees leaving the house to go to work unacceptable but my employer is adamant we come in a few days a week. I don't go to the pub as most friends still prefer to go for walks.

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Theunamedcat · 02/02/2022 09:01

Ds2 is on his third bout of covid we really don't go anywhere

ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 02/02/2022 09:06

@Theunamedcat

Ds2 is on his third bout of covid we really don't go anywhere
You must go somewhere.
VikingOnTheFridge · 02/02/2022 09:26

Either she has a CEV condition that you don't know about, or a mental health issue.

This is purely an assumption on your part.