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Partner has covid and I’m pregnant

137 replies

Smith8065 · 31/12/2021 15:29

I suppose I’m just looking for a bit of reassurance/ need to get it off my chest, I’m currently nearly 36 weeks pregnant and my partner has tested positive for covid :( I’m currently not jabbed at all (please no judgement I have really bad anxiety and was so worried what it would do to my baby) but now I can’t settle and have sat on every forum all night panicking that I’m going to be hospitalised and my baby be born earlier, has anyone had covid when In their final trimester and got less of a horror story compared to everything I’m seeing :( or if someone they have lived with has had covid and you’ve been fortunate enough to not catch it? Me and our other kids are currently negative and hoping to stay that way

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PotteringAlong · 31/12/2021 15:33

You really need to speak to your midwife and explain that you’re unvaccinated and ask for their advice.

I would isolate from your partner and your other children (assuming that they are probably incubating it) as much as you can.

TheDrrWillSeeYouNow · 31/12/2021 15:34

Can you and your DC move out and stay with family? Get to a walk in vaccination centre tomorrow.

WheelieBinPrincess · 31/12/2021 15:34

Well the biggest, most sure-fire way to mitigate the worst of the circumstances was to get jabbed, but the ship has sailed.

Can he isolate completely away from you? It’s not a guarantee obviously but it might help. Aside from being pregnant do you have any other health factors to make you more vulnerable?

Alfixn · 31/12/2021 15:36

Definitely your partner needs to completely isolate from you OP, it is possible that you can prevent yourself from catching it if you are all super careful, although not a guarantee of course.
Best of luck.

anotherlittlesquish · 31/12/2021 15:37

I currently have covid and I’m 28 weeks pregnant- I have had both jabs and my booster however and have had no symptoms at all except a headache on day 1

Hopefully you are able to isolate away from your partner.

BambinaJAS · 31/12/2021 15:38

You have little choice here.

Your partner needs to self-isolate away from you

No point in sugar-coating this as you are very far along: covid can put your baby (and you) at risk.

Rainbowqueeen · 31/12/2021 15:38

I’m sorry you’re in this situation.

I think that if possible DP should move out or isolate separately to the rest of the family. Pregnancy is a big risk factor for covid so you do need to take care. Can you speak to your midwife for advice?

I do know people who have not caught covid when their partner has it so it is doable but they managed it well and the partner stayed in one room, cleaned down the bathroom every time they used it and did not come into the kitchen.

Best wishes

PotteringAlong · 31/12/2021 15:39

And yes! Get yourself to a vaccination centre tomorrow!

WheelieBinPrincess · 31/12/2021 15:42

What?! OP cannot go to a vaccination centre surely?!!

She has to self isolate too- because she is not vaccinated.

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Smith8065 · 31/12/2021 15:43

Would it even be possible to go and get vaccinated tomorrow incase I have been exposed to covid as I know you can’t get the vaccine if you are positive for it? I’ve told partner to isolate in bedroom and trying to keep it to bare minimum I’m just extremely worried about baby, midwife is not answering calls to me and I’m just a bit lost really on what to do

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Smith8065 · 31/12/2021 15:43

@WheelieBinPrincess

What?! OP cannot go to a vaccination centre surely?!!

She has to self isolate too- because she is not vaccinated.

This is what I thought to?
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Alfixn · 31/12/2021 15:47

It's a pity that Internet conspiracy theorists have frightened people about the vaccine so much when, as we now know, it really does offer huge protection to mothers and babies.
There has been such hysteria about it that it's sadly understandable that some pregnant women have avoided it through fear.

I am hugely pro vaccine and had it during my own pregnancy, but I understand that others choose differently due to the misinformation they've been exposed to.

The best thing you can do is self isolate separately to your partner, seek advice from your medical team, and try to give yourself some peace about the decision. You did what you thought was best and the odds still are that things will be ok.

Really there is no use in punishing yourself about it now.

NatMoz · 31/12/2021 15:47

Urggh surely if you suffered from anxiety you would get jabbed to prevent this exact situation from materialising?

Too late now, all you can do is try and keep contact to an absolute minimum and pray you avoid it.

Are there any children in the mix or is it just yourself, bump and partner?

PotteringAlong · 31/12/2021 15:49

@WheelieBinPrincess no, you’re right. Good point. I’d completely forgotten the whole having to isolate if you’re not vaccinated thing. In my head you don’t have to isolate any more for close contacts but of course that’s only for fully vaccinated people.

SuperheroBirds · 31/12/2021 15:49

My cousin caught COVID in her final trimester, she actually tested positive the week before her caesarean was scheduled. She also hadn’t been vaccinated as this was earlier in the year when there was still a lot of confusion and conflicting advice for pregnant women. She did go into labour unexpectedly, but it was only a couple of weeks before her due date. Both her and her baby were fine, and 5 months on they continue to be great.
Just be as careful as you can, and don’t hesitate to contact the doctor/midwife if needed.

WheelieBinPrincess · 31/12/2021 15:49

The whole vaccinating pregnant women thing really started off on the wrong foot.

I went to a vaccination centre when I was three months pregnant- there was much hand wringing and they sent me away, like they were surprised if even turned up. Two weeks later and everyone was tripping over themselves to encourage pregnant women to get it. Which I did. Because I thought it was a good idea in the first place! But it was a shit show in the beginning.

gsaoej · 31/12/2021 15:50

Your baby can be delivered now and would be fine if you were ill with covid. So don’t worry about your baby.

Be careful with your own health as you are more vulnerable in pregnancy. Be alert for symptoms and get medical attention quickly if necessary. Get a pulse oximeter as well so you can monitor your oxygen.

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Smith8065 · 31/12/2021 15:51

@NatMoz

Urggh surely if you suffered from anxiety you would get jabbed to prevent this exact situation from materialising?

Too late now, all you can do is try and keep contact to an absolute minimum and pray you avoid it.

Are there any children in the mix or is it just yourself, bump and partner?

Again, this has not been something that I just shrugged off and said I don’t care I have been torturing myself for weeks now about the jab and listening to to many people unfortunately, I have not done it because I don’t care about myself of my baby it is just pure fear that I was going to hurt my baby my apologies that it offends you this much… yes we have 2 other children as well both are negative still with me
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Dontletthemuggglesgetyoudown · 31/12/2021 15:51

You have to isolate because you're not vaccinated so you cannot leave the house to get a vaccine. Your partner needs to stay away from you, only leave the room to go to the loo if the room is not en-suite. You need to bring him food but he needs to wait until you've gone downstairs to open the door and get it. Clean door handles he needs to wear a mask when he walks to the loo.

Unfortunately there is not a lot else you can do. Your choice to not get vaccinated, I hope you don't get it.

advicenotsure · 31/12/2021 15:51

@NatMoz

Urggh surely if you suffered from anxiety you would get jabbed to prevent this exact situation from materialising?

Too late now, all you can do is try and keep contact to an absolute minimum and pray you avoid it.

Are there any children in the mix or is it just yourself, bump and partner?

Read the whole OP.
WheelieBinPrincess · 31/12/2021 15:52

@Londonmummy00 continues to be part of the problem Hmm

Porcupineintherough · 31/12/2021 15:53

What you can do now is to isolate your partner (check), practice good hand hygiene and ventilate your home. When you speak to your midwife you can ask about vaccination. Too late for this time but would be useful together it done a couple of weeks before you go into labour .

Other than that, try and relax. Too late to worry now and, despite your increased risk, you are still far more likely to be fine than not.

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Smith8065 · 31/12/2021 15:53

@WheelieBinPrincess

The whole vaccinating pregnant women thing really started off on the wrong foot.

I went to a vaccination centre when I was three months pregnant- there was much hand wringing and they sent me away, like they were surprised if even turned up. Two weeks later and everyone was tripping over themselves to encourage pregnant women to get it. Which I did. Because I thought it was a good idea in the first place! But it was a shit show in the beginning.

I think that’s where my anxiety stemmed from which was the first no and then yes and it just got me so worked up, and I’ve been soooo careful the whole time it was unfortunately someone being ignorant to covid in general where this has come from
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Justwingingit2005 · 31/12/2021 15:53

While you can't say you'll definitely get covid as your partner has ( outbreak in our house and not very one got it)..... I would sleep in another room and have no interaction. Ask him to wear a mask in shared areas etc. Have you got lfts you can take.

A friend of mine was anxious about being jabbed as she was pregnant but she has been jabbed now. Tbh if you jab and something happened to your pregnancy you would feel anxious so you didn't jab and now you feel anxious. It's so difficult to know what to do.

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