Partner has covid and I’m pregnant

[Smith8065]

I suppose I’m just looking for a bit of reassurance/ need to get it off my chest, I’m currently nearly 36 weeks pregnant and my partner has tested positive for covid :( I’m currently not jabbed at all (please no judgement I have really bad anxiety and was so worried what it would do to my baby) but now I can’t settle and have sat on every forum all night panicking that I’m going to be hospitalised and my baby be born earlier, has anyone had covid when In their final trimester and got less of a horror story compared to everything I’m seeing :( or if someone they have lived with has had covid and you’ve been fortunate enough to not catch it? Me and our other kids are currently negative and hoping to stay that way

Our 14-year-old had it and we were astonished that we didn't catch it from him - we'd assumed if one of us got it we all would. But he was very good at keeping his distance and wearing a mask. Sounds as though your DH is being super careful too. So hang on in there OP!

Can I ask - what's a rainbow baby???

@Byron1986

OP I have just had covid at 36 weeks over Xmas, I only had my first vaccine 6 days before I tested positive so no real chance for it to offer me any protection as I believe it takes two weeks. If you do test positive you will need to contact your midwife. I was given an oximeter by my GP and had to check in daily with a virtual covid ward website to supply oxygen saturation and pulse readings. I had a few days of feeling a bit breathless at times, but other than that I have just suffered with cold like symptoms such as a runny nose, sore throat and cough. Me and baby are now fine. Hope you stay well.

Thank you for this advice and glad you and baby are healthy ❤️ I’m glad I’m hearing positive things about vaccine to as I have been hearing all doom and gloom which scared me so much, I’m calling the maternity assessment unit now for some advice on best cautions to take and I just have to hope that I don’t catch and if I do try and stay as healthy as possible, thank you everyone for your advice and kind words I really appreciate it and it’s made me feel a lot better than the sobbing mess I was a couple of hours ago ❤️

@MsGrumpytrousers

Our 14-year-old had it and we were astonished that we didn't catch it from him - we'd assumed if one of us got it we all would. But he was very good at keeping his distance and wearing a mask. Sounds as though your DH is being super careful too. So hang on in there OP!

Can I ask - what's a rainbow baby???

A baby born after a previous loss 🌈❤️

I was in my third trimester when both kids tested positive and didn’t catch it despite not isolating from them. My 5 old year old has development delays and is extremely clingy and wouldn’t have understood I couldn’t cuddle her. I was unvaccinated and never tested positive. Try not to worry it’s not a certainty you will catch it

No judgement here as I have chosen not to get vaccinated either in pregnancy. I did have covid at 17 weeks pregnant and it was milder than a common cold. A colleague caught covid in late pregnancy (also chose not to get vaccinated) like yourself and although she was more poorly than i was, as she was further along, she and baby were fine.

@Smith8065

Would it even be possible to go and get vaccinated tomorrow incase I have been exposed to covid as I know you can’t get the vaccine if you are positive for it? I’ve told partner to isolate in bedroom and trying to keep it to bare minimum I’m just extremely worried about baby, midwife is not answering calls to me and I’m just a bit lost really on what to do

No!!! You're a close contact of your h. You cannot go to a vaccination centre.

I am 19 weeks and unvaccinated. My partner tested positive a couple of weeks before christmas, I never tested positive and had no symptoms, his was very mild symptoms.

The worry will make you more stressed so try not to stress about it, most people get it very mildly, the media stories are normally one offs and in the bigger picture most people either have no or very minor symptoms

Hi OP, I just wanted to come and offer you some support.

My friend didn’t have the vaccine when she was pregnant as she’d gone through IVF for almost three years and in her eyes she wasn’t going to do anything that may potentially cause a risk to the baby.

The price she paid was that she effectively isolated herself for 8 months, she didn’t leave her bedroom unless she was going to the bathroom. Her husband slept in another room and they would only see each other briefly when he bought her meals up for her. He was still going out to work so she didn’t want to risk being near him.

It was a rough 8 months but she preferred to do that than get the vaccine.

She had the baby at term, all was well and she got vaccinated very soon afterwards.

I work in a hospital and as others have said, there are a number of pregnant women quite unwell with Covid (including them having a CS to get the baby out) in the most extreme of cases.

However, you can’t change your choice.

Just get yourself and your children away from your husband.

Don’t feel guilty though OP, you made the right decision for yourself at that time and hindsight doesn’t do anyone any good.

@SuperheroBirds

My cousin caught COVID in her final trimester, she actually tested positive the week before her caesarean was scheduled. She also hadn’t been vaccinated as this was earlier in the year when there was still a lot of confusion and conflicting advice for pregnant women. She did go into labour unexpectedly, but it was only a couple of weeks before her due date. Both her and her baby were fine, and 5 months on they continue to be great. Just be as careful as you can, and don’t hesitate to contact the doctor/midwife if needed.

Good to hear this

Op I'm 38 weeks and so afraid of getting it

All jabs thankfully

Please he must stay put in a separate room
Good outside door
Separate bathroom

Seriously !!!!!

I read today that one moment of someone wit. Covid breathing your direction with no masks is enough to transmit it

I'm a midwife and TBH there's absolutely nothing your midwife can do so there's no point contacting her.

You've made your choice not to get vaccinated so you've chosen to accept that risk.

All you can do now is isolate away from your partner in your property and hope you stay well.

Obviously if you become unwell you need to seek medical advice as your pregnancy puts you at a higher risk of complications.

For goodness sake, the posters haranguing the OP should be ashamed of themselves. She’s worried as it is and she can’t turn the clock back now anyway.

Hopefully you won’t catch it with precautions in place OP but don’t hesitate to seek help at the first sign of any symptoms. You haven’t done anything wrong by not being vaccinated, you certainly haven’t been negligent to your existing children. Ignore the spiteful posts telling you otherwise.

@DontWantTheRivalry

Hi OP, I just wanted to come and offer you some support.

My friend didn’t have the vaccine when she was pregnant as she’d gone through IVF for almost three years and in her eyes she wasn’t going to do anything that may potentially cause a risk to the baby.

The price she paid was that she effectively isolated herself for 8 months, she didn’t leave her bedroom unless she was going to the bathroom. Her husband slept in another room and they would only see each other briefly when he bought her meals up for her. He was still going out to work so she didn’t want to risk being near him.

It was a rough 8 months but she preferred to do that than get the vaccine.

She had the baby at term, all was well and she got vaccinated very soon afterwards.

I work in a hospital and as others have said, there are a number of pregnant women quite unwell with Covid (including them having a CS to get the baby out) in the most extreme of cases.

However, you can’t change your choice.

Just get yourself and your children away from your husband.

Don’t feel guilty though OP, you made the right decision for yourself at that time and hindsight doesn’t do anyone any good.

Thank you for your kind words, I’m beating myself up pretty bad at the minute but I feel I am making myself worse doing so - I’ve spoken to the hospital who have just basically said all I can do for now is what we are doing already which is partner isolates in a room away and if I end up testing positive to give them a ring and they will assess over the phone what actions to take next, got myself into a right state over the phone so I bet that poor midwife is glad to be off the phone to me 🙈 x

@Secretsout

I'm a midwife and TBH there's absolutely nothing your midwife can do so there's no point contacting her.

You've made your choice not to get vaccinated so you've chosen to accept that risk.

All you can do now is isolate away from your partner in your property and hope you stay well.

Obviously if you become unwell you need to seek medical advice as your pregnancy puts you at a higher risk of complications.

I contacted my midwife to voice my concerns and as I am not a professional I was unsure if there was certain things I should be doing now to prepare if I was to unfortunately catch it… i don’t feel I have done anything wrong to seek advice vaccinated or not, I’ve had my concerns I don’t think I should be penalised for that I am not a bad person I just didn’t want to harm my baby

@GodspeedJune

For goodness sake, the posters haranguing the OP should be ashamed of themselves. She’s worried as it is and she can’t turn the clock back now anyway.

Hopefully you won’t catch it with precautions in place OP but don’t hesitate to seek help at the first sign of any symptoms. You haven’t done anything wrong by not being vaccinated, you certainly haven’t been negligent to your existing children. Ignore the spiteful posts telling you otherwise.

Thank you - I’ve got myself in a right state off some of the comments on here but I suppose that’s the risk when posting on these groups, I was just after a bit of advice if there was any on what I should do as i couldn’t get hold of any of the midwives and I didn’t want to call the hospital for advice as they are so busy x

Sorry for some of the comments you’ve had, really uncalled for. You’re doing the best that you can so don’t beat yourself up based on anything said to you here x

Okay the absolute best thing you can do for you and your baby now is to step away from the internet. Make yourself a nice warm drink and stick the telly on.
You've taken every step open to you at this time. Worrying about the consequences of decisions you can't change will only serve to send your blood pressure through the roof.
You may not catch it and even if you do, you are unlikely to suffer serious complications.
Try to focus on the positives. It sounds like you've been testing regularly so chances are you have taken the right steps early. You are far enough into pregnancy that even if you went into early labour, you are still just about within normal delivery range.
Omnicron is significantly milder so even if you do get then it is likely to be less severe than earlier in the pandemic.
The answers you are seeking are sadly not available and 'researching' this anymore will make you panic even more. Distraction is now your friend.
Only other thing you could do is order a blood oxygen metre on Amazon so that should the worst happen you can get reassurance you are okay and take early action if not

I had Covid at 38 weeks pregnant. Was scheduled for a ELCS at 39 weeks, but I went into labour at 38 weeks. I didn’t know I had Covid until I got to labour ward - they did a rapid Covid test on me as I was having a section and it came back positive.

I wasn’t vaccinated because it was at the time where 1) pregnant women were not recommended and 2) I wasn’t in the right age group for vaccines.

I was fine. My baby had a couple of non-covid issues when born and spent a week in NICU. But it’s coming up to a year now and she’s the picture of health and a cheeky little thing too!

I was terrified when I got the positive but DD had 3 Covid tests in her first weeks and all came back negative. I also breastfed her and held and cuddled her like any other mum would do and she never caught it.

Good luck!

@Smith8065

I was pregnant and had covid in the last trimester it was a bad cold and we were both fine baby is healthy and my smell is not 100% but apart from that I have no long covid issues my husband who is younger than me had more flu type symptoms and obviously wasn't pregnant

Isolate if you can you might already have it tho
Try not to worry omicron is alot milder and is the most common one now when I had it it was Delta kicking about I'm also 40 so not particularly young and was still fine

I also read somewhere that a 3rd of pregnant women are asymptomatic so not everyone ends up in the hospital

@Calmdown14

Okay the absolute best thing you can do for you and your baby now is to step away from the internet. Make yourself a nice warm drink and stick the telly on. You've taken every step open to you at this time. Worrying about the consequences of decisions you can't change will only serve to send your blood pressure through the roof. You may not catch it and even if you do, you are unlikely to suffer serious complications. Try to focus on the positives. It sounds like you've been testing regularly so chances are you have taken the right steps early. You are far enough into pregnancy that even if you went into early labour, you are still just about within normal delivery range. Omnicron is significantly milder so even if you do get then it is likely to be less severe than earlier in the pandemic. The answers you are seeking are sadly not available and 'researching' this anymore will make you panic even more. Distraction is now your friend. Only other thing you could do is order a blood oxygen metre on Amazon so that should the worst happen you can get reassurance you are okay and take early action if not

I definitely needed your words! Thank you for your advice I have just ordered myself an oximeter now, my partner works at the hospital and even he didn’t think of that one so thank you! I think that’s what I’m doing I’m looking for something that unfortunately no one knows what’s going to happen and I just have to wait and see, I’ve beaten myself up pretty badly today over vaccine so just have to wait until I get out of isolation and then go and get it then x

@WhatIsBooba

I had Covid at 38 weeks pregnant. Was scheduled for a ELCS at 39 weeks, but I went into labour at 38 weeks. I didn’t know I had Covid until I got to labour ward - they did a rapid Covid test on me as I was having a section and it came back positive.

I wasn’t vaccinated because it was at the time where 1) pregnant women were not recommended and 2) I wasn’t in the right age group for vaccines.

I was fine. My baby had a couple of non-covid issues when born and spent a week in NICU. But it’s coming up to a year now and she’s the picture of health and a cheeky little thing too!

I was terrified when I got the positive but DD had 3 Covid tests in her first weeks and all came back negative. I also breastfed her and held and cuddled her like any other mum would do and she never caught it.

Good luck!

Thank you for your reassurance, I’m so glad you and your little girl are both healthy afterwards I’m also booked in for ELCS xxx

[quote Greenrubber]@Smith8065

I was pregnant and had covid in the last trimester it was a bad cold and we were both fine baby is healthy and my smell is not 100% but apart from that I have no long covid issues my husband who is younger than me had more flu type symptoms and obviously wasn't pregnant

Isolate if you can you might already have it tho
Try not to worry omicron is alot milder and is the most common one now when I had it it was Delta kicking about I'm also 40 so not particularly young and was still fine

I also read somewhere that a 3rd of pregnant women are asymptomatic so not everyone ends up in the hospital[/quote]
Thank you for this, we had the delta variant last year when my partner was working on covid wards and a year later it’s come back round with a Vengeance but as you said hopefully it is the milder variant I think that’s been my fear I just keep thinking every single pregnant woman ends up in hospital with it x

The advice around vaccination in pregnancy was over cautious at the very start almost two years ago, but that was the responsible course of action for the authorities to take at that time. It's been clearly evidenced that pregnant women are at greater risk of complications from Covid & that the vaccines are safe & highly advisable in pregnancy & that has been known for over a year now. I have to be honest OP and say I'm stunned that you have a partner who has worked on Covid wards & still haven't had the vaccine. It's sad that you must have consumed material that made you think you were putting your baby at risk by having the vaccine, when in fact the very opposite is true.

I agree with the previous poster who said the best thing you can do now is to try & remain calm, distract yourself with books or screen time that you enjoy whilst you isolate from your partner. The oximeter is a good move, it's important to watch your oxygen levels if you do test positive. Get vaccinated as soon as possible after your baby arrives. Best of luck.

The likelihood is you will be fine but you need to isolate strictly from your partner. The reality is covid could be very dangerous for you at this stage in pregnancy. Anti vaxxers have a lot to answer for scaring pregnant women; hope you don’t pick it up xx

@SunsetSmartmeter

The advice around vaccination in pregnancy was over cautious at the very start almost two years ago, but that was the responsible course of action for the authorities to take at that time. It's been clearly evidenced that pregnant women are at greater risk of complications from Covid & that the vaccines are safe & highly advisable in pregnancy & that has been known for over a year now. I have to be honest OP and say I'm stunned that you have a partner who has worked on Covid wards & still haven't had the vaccine. It's sad that you must have consumed material that made you think you were putting your baby at risk by having the vaccine, when in fact the very opposite is true.

I agree with the previous poster who said the best thing you can do now is to try & remain calm, distract yourself with books or screen time that you enjoy whilst you isolate from your partner. The oximeter is a good move, it's important to watch your oxygen levels if you do test positive. Get vaccinated as soon as possible after your baby arrives. Best of luck.

When I first got pregnant I was advised still that they was not sure if it was safe, then a few weeks later it was the vaccine is now safe, and that set me into a panic I have to admit I refrain from reading materials due to my health anxiety but it has been unfortunately a lot of people putting things in my head and my instincts was I can’t bare the thought of loosing another and set myself at that, I was then telling myself as soon as baby is born I will have it, I can’t say I agree with my decision but that’s something I will have to deal with I suppose, thank you for your advice I have ordered an oximeter and will keep testing I really appreciate your advice x

@Poppy709

The likelihood is you will be fine but you need to isolate strictly from your partner. The reality is covid could be very dangerous for you at this stage in pregnancy. Anti vaxxers have a lot to answer for scaring pregnant women; hope you don’t pick it up xx

Thank you - I agree I feel very silly that I’ve been listening to people instead of sticking to my first instinct but I suppose it’s easier said than done xx