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How do you feel about family members going to large indoor events?

47 replies

Doyoumind · 22/12/2021 22:21

To me this feels like such a bad idea. I'm not really concerned about my health or theirs but I am concerned about older family members who they are going to come into contact with. It feels so irresponsible.

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Kshhuxnxk · 22/12/2021 22:24

They're all adults, let them make their own decisions.

LizzieSiddal · 22/12/2021 22:24

What sort of events. If it’s the theatre/cinema wearing a mask is different to a club. Also are they vaccinated?

hamstersarse · 22/12/2021 22:25

I think it is none of my business

DSGR · 22/12/2021 22:27

None of my business. My uncle is elderly and vulnerable and going to pubs etc. those who are truly scared will stay at home.
Also, large events have been deemed so risky and yet all you need is contact with one person with Covid

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Doyoumind · 22/12/2021 22:28

Yes, they are making their own decisions but I'm not worried about them. I'm worried about the family members they will come into contact with who they don't seem to care about. I'm talking about a large gig.

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LawnFever · 22/12/2021 22:28

I think people can do what they like and should be doing a lateral flow test before seeing family anyway.

VikingOnTheFridge · 22/12/2021 22:29

Like it's their call not mine. If you're worried for yourself, by all means stay away from them afterwards. If you're worried for them, perhaps consider that they're better qualified than you to decide what their priorities are?

Forgetaboutme · 22/12/2021 22:30

I feel fine about it. The main people in my family going to large indoor events are the ones who are most vulnerable. They know the risks but want to live their life.

FrazzledY9Parent · 22/12/2021 22:31

I understand where you are coming from but I think people have to make their own decisions within the regulations. Lateral flow tests before meeting up are a great idea and will hopefully give you some peace of mind.

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Doyoumind · 22/12/2021 22:35

I can't force them to do lateral flows though, can I? I have vulnerable family members who have been careful themselves. Should they miss out on family events because they will come into contact with these people who have been less safe?

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Curiousmouse · 22/12/2021 22:40

I think you have a right to comment if they live with you.

Boosterquery · 23/12/2021 00:12

I had a discussion with my 21-year-old DS about this as we are planning to see my parents at Christmas who are in their eighties and have been very careful. DS had booked to go to a gig in London in the week before. Once it became apparent how many people are getting infected with Omicron despite being double jabbed, DS agreed it was too risky to go to the gig. (In the end the gig got cancelled anyway.)

Omicrone · 23/12/2021 00:15

I feel a bit like the 'doing perfectly normal human social things is completely unacceptable and selfish' days are numbered to be honest.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 23/12/2021 06:36

I am going to large events. I'm a grown adult and it's legal so I don't care who thinks it's "irresponsible". Some people need to get a grip now, it's not your business to police what people are doing.

Mittenmob · 23/12/2021 06:39

Couldn't care less. I go to work on the tube. It's no different, well I hope its more fun!

SpideySenseTingles · 23/12/2021 06:42

No, you can't force them to do lateral flow tests. But most people will and hopefully the vulnerable relatives that you are worried about are double vaccinated and boosted.

We really do have to let adults make their own health decisions.

Superstar22 · 23/12/2021 06:47

Yes it’s selfish. But people are, as you can already see on this thread.

Those large events are basically contributing to filling up beds, so in March or whenever someone has a car crash or cancer or a stroke there will be

Less ambulances to take them to hospital
Less doctors to treat them
Less beds for them to recover in
Less wraparound care as people are stretched/ redeployed
More stress and illness across society with long covid and across the NHS by trauma, sickness and being overworked.

This is a fact. People are literally hurting themselves, medium to long term, for a gig. The cancer that seems so precious to people will have worse outcomes if we don’t sort out covid, not better outcomes by ignoring it.

Selfish and short sighted. And fuck the rules and the law in this case. Both are bonkers. Ask any other country who’s following the science; not the selfish pricks who are in charge.

GiveMeNovocain · 23/12/2021 06:50

Aren't your vulnerable relatives triple vaccinated?

Fl0w3ry · 23/12/2021 06:50

I think people should make their own decisions. However, I think if vulnerable people are present for Christmas plans and feel concerned about the risks others have taken, the risk-takers should not be included in Christmas plans with them where possible or should test before meeting the vulnerable at least. As a family we have chosen not to see people taking lots of risks over Christmas.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 23/12/2021 06:50

@Superstar22

Yes it’s selfish. But people are, as you can already see on this thread.

Those large events are basically contributing to filling up beds, so in March or whenever someone has a car crash or cancer or a stroke there will be

Less ambulances to take them to hospital
Less doctors to treat them
Less beds for them to recover in
Less wraparound care as people are stretched/ redeployed
More stress and illness across society with long covid and across the NHS by trauma, sickness and being overworked.

This is a fact. People are literally hurting themselves, medium to long term, for a gig. The cancer that seems so precious to people will have worse outcomes if we don’t sort out covid, not better outcomes by ignoring it.

Selfish and short sighted. And fuck the rules and the law in this case. Both are bonkers. Ask any other country who’s following the science; not the selfish pricks who are in charge.

These posts really don't have the affect you think they do. You just sound nuts.
ouchmyfeet · 23/12/2021 06:50

I've rescinded Christmas invitations made to family members for this very reason OP. I was due to host a lot of family, including some really elderly and vulnerable members. Most of us have scaled back mixing activities in the last couple of weeks but one couple has been on 2 flights and went yesterday to a crowded theatre for a Christmas show. They have been pinged following one of the flights and are following the rules and doing daily LFTs.

They still expected to come for Christmas but I'm not willing to have them in my home with vulnerable people. I'm hosting, and my boundaries matter too.

Joystir59 · 23/12/2021 06:53

I would not worry.

Joystir59 · 23/12/2021 06:54

Every time you go in a shop you are mixing with people who could have the virus

fourdaysoff · 23/12/2021 07:03

Are the elderly relatives aware, so they have the option to refuse to meet with them?

Malteser71 · 23/12/2021 07:07

I feel like they’ve sacrificed enough and should do as they please.