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OMG! I absolutely hate the word ‘safe’

85 replies

anxiouslyanne · 17/12/2021 15:47

Why oh why do people use this word in association with coronavirus? I’m so sick of it I feel like punching the next person who uses it. Stay f…ing safeXmas Angry

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whitedahlias · 17/12/2021 18:22

Constant blathering over the tannoy at Sainsbury's about "keeping customers and colleagues safe" made me very irritable.

Nobody can "keep me safe". It's nonsense.

It means "hope you don't catch Corona here, go home, get sick and die ... which is unlikely, but, y'know, possible".

Cheers for that reminder. Now where are the eggs?

Toadsinholes · 17/12/2021 18:28

I had a questionnaire about my daughters canteen at school and whether or not she felt safe… I put ‘from what?’ as I was a bit confused… covid? Panini-wielding year 7s? Food poisoning?

WorryMcGee · 17/12/2021 18:37

Oh I can’t bear it and the longer it goes on the more it winds me up. I’m not going cliff jumping or wrestling with venomous snakes, I’m buying a couple of bits in Morrisons.

Inastatus · 17/12/2021 18:39

Me too with bells on OP!

Bizawit · 18/12/2021 16:11

Omg I’ve felt like this for months!! It’s like the handmaids tale “under his eye”. “blessed be”. “Stay safe”. “Keeping us all safe”. 🤮🤮

JuergenSchwarzwald · 18/12/2021 17:15

@Polkadotties

Me too. Hated it since it started.
Me too. No such thing as "safe".
XenoBitch · 18/12/2021 17:18

@Bizawit

Omg I’ve felt like this for months!! It’s like the handmaids tale “under his eye”. “blessed be”. “Stay safe”. “Keeping us all safe”. 🤮🤮
Haha, same here... "blessed be the fruit", "may the Lord open"... Piss off!

Now more like "blessed be the NHS", and "may the Lord keep schools open"

BogRollBOGOF · 18/12/2021 17:21

I've taken up cold water swimming as a backlash against staying safe Grin

"Safe journey" is fine, there's a lot of random hazards and some can be mitigated against with sensible driving.
Staying "safe" from an invisible virus that is statistically highly unlikely to be more than a temporary inconvenience on the other hand...
But then the whole Covid thing's gone down the deserving/ undeserving route anyway.

DynamiteFilledRadish · 18/12/2021 17:28

I agree with you so much that I want to kiss you.

givethatbabyaname · 18/12/2021 17:36

I hate “Be safe!” even more.

Firstly, don’t tell me what to do

Secondly, do you think I’d forgotten to keep myself safe, and that your reminder is critical?

Thirdly, do you think it’s within my gift to ensure this at all times?

Fourthly, or what?

Fifthly, as opposed to what? Go forth and be careless with your physical well-being?

Just say nothing. Nothing, is a perfectly acceptable thing to say.

Can you tell how much I hate it Grin

SirSamuelVimes · 18/12/2021 17:52

Another one here who could snog you all in agreement.

(Dangerous, dangerous germ spreading snogging.)

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 18/12/2021 20:58

Ugh me too op.
Can't use it!!

Chessie678 · 18/12/2021 21:05

I find it passive aggressive too. It’s basically an order not to see anyone or do anything in the proximity of anyone.

Wellbythebloodyhell · 18/12/2021 21:07

Being "safe" is about as realistic as unicorns and fairies

liveforsummer · 18/12/2021 21:31

Against the grain I can't get too upset about it. It's just a pleasantry is it not? Like people say have a safe flight - it's not likely you're going to not have one - flying is an incredibly safe way to travel after all.

TonkinLenkicks · 18/12/2021 21:36

Me too. I was really mentally unwell when it all started (pregnant with hyperemesis, severe reaction to the medication prescribed to stop me puking) and everyone kept telling me to keep safe. It reinforced the idea that I wasn’t safe. Horrendous.

Shodan · 18/12/2021 21:44

'Keeping you safe'.

No, you're not. Unless you have invisible ninjas surrounding me, warding off germs/attackers/runaway trains/swarms of wasps as I swan about the place.

Also- could we please, please PLEASE come up with something pther than 'on its (or their) knees' and 'ripping through'. I swear I've never hated words more than in the last 18 months or so...

Malteser71 · 19/12/2021 10:24

I agree about the latter.

Are we all linguists? I am (by background) and I wi see if this is why we get so irritated?!

LowPowerMode · 19/12/2021 10:28

I'm guilty of this. Reading this thread I can see why it must be very irritating. It's a bit patronising and pointless and reinforces the narrative that we are all in grave danger.

Thank you MN for opening my eyes Grin I shall ditch this from my emails and everyday small talk.

Malteser71 · 19/12/2021 10:30

Yes! We’ve made a difference!

ChristmasWithBellsOn · 19/12/2021 10:35

For most of us 'safe' isn't a concern... But for some it is, and often we don't know who those people are.

For example my dad, he has an immunodisorder, he can't be vaccinated, he is 80, if he were to catch, even Omicron, he wouldn't be 'safe'... Ditto he's not safe from the common cold.

I guess 'safe' is a good cure all, taking into account the many different circumstances that people and their families may be in.

MalagaNights · 19/12/2021 10:38

It's not just a pleasantry.

It's deeply insidious & in becoming the pleasantry now shared suggests that safety is the primary value we all share above all else.

Above autonomy, freedom, rationality, tolerance, seeking of joy and quality in life, safety is above all of these.

It also suggests safety is possible if you just do the right things. It's a religious belief we've all bought in to, that this nirvana of safety can be achieved if we all make sacrifices to the gods by doing largely irrelevant but signifynifying behaviours. We will be spared and granted safety.

This culture of 'safetyism' was developing before the pandemic. Jonathan Haidt wrote about in in the Coddling of the American mind and how it was making people fragile and undermining tolerance and mental health.

The pandemic has just put this phenomenon on speed.

We're in a mass psychosis.

And the fear of the god of safety is driving it.

And it's a lie, there is no safety in life. Whatever choice you make there is risk.

LowPowerMode · 19/12/2021 10:54

@MalagaNights

It's not just a pleasantry.

It's deeply insidious & in becoming the pleasantry now shared suggests that safety is the primary value we all share above all else.

Above autonomy, freedom, rationality, tolerance, seeking of joy and quality in life, safety is above all of these.

It also suggests safety is possible if you just do the right things. It's a religious belief we've all bought in to, that this nirvana of safety can be achieved if we all make sacrifices to the gods by doing largely irrelevant but signifynifying behaviours. We will be spared and granted safety.

This culture of 'safetyism' was developing before the pandemic. Jonathan Haidt wrote about in in the Coddling of the American mind and how it was making people fragile and undermining tolerance and mental health.

The pandemic has just put this phenomenon on speed.

We're in a mass psychosis.

And the fear of the god of safety is driving it.

And it's a lie, there is no safety in life. Whatever choice you make there is risk.

Amazing post! Thanks
SirSamuelVimes · 19/12/2021 12:14

Brilliant post @MalagaNights, completely agree.

Suranjeep · 19/12/2021 12:32

The other common thing was how people were doing things “to help you during the pandemic”

Like when banks, council services, public toilets etc reduced their hours, “to help”