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Am I wrong to think people who say they aren't scared of Covid just aren't getting it?

266 replies

youhadmeatjello · 16/12/2021 21:15

I know we've all had enough, I've really had enough. We travel in a few days and am just desperately trying not to catch covid so we can actually go forward with our plans.

But I'm so sick of friends and others saying 'oh I'm not scared of Covid anymore so I'm just living my life and not following the rules anymore'

Why can't people see that it's not about being scared of Covid, it's about the fragility of our infrastructure if lots of people are off sick? Do they not realise how many essential services could be impacted?

I'm not calling for a lockdown at all, I don't think it's the right course of action but I do think we should individually take a bit of responsibility and follow mask wearing etc at least.

And people who are saying 'the government have never been bothered about viruses etc before' - sure they have, they panic every time they think there's going to be a bad flu season. But people have forgotten that!

I'm just so frustrated that so many people can't see the bigger picture here, but maybe it's because I have many loved ones who work in essential services and I can already see the strain on them.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 16/12/2021 21:19

If I keep watching the same horror film over and over again it no longer affects me….it’s been 2years, after a while inevitably we all get fed up and complacent

EasterIssland · 16/12/2021 21:21

If most people are catching the virus mildly tje it’s quite likely that many won’t need a hospital. Hospital numbers are going up but not as such speed (nor as longer duration) as before

Receptionclass · 16/12/2021 21:22

Part of the problem is that we still have to isolate, not that people are actually too ill to go to work. And if masks worked, why would COVID still be so rampant?

Waxonwaxoff0 · 16/12/2021 21:22

I can see the bigger picture but I'm fed up with being told by those in power that it's my responsibility to protect essential services. It is not. It is down to those in power to protect those services, they haven't done it and now the public are getting blamed and having to restrict their lives AGAIN.

puppeteer · 16/12/2021 21:24

People aren’t off sick — they’re forced to isolate because of a positive test. It’s not the same thing!

Knackeredmommy · 16/12/2021 21:29

Eventually, instead of deflecting the blame on people, who on the whole have followed rules, I really hope the focus is turned onto why the NHS is in such a state and that it receives more resources. Making us all stay at home every winter isn't a long term solution.

cassgate · 16/12/2021 21:31

@Waxonwaxoff0

I can see the bigger picture but I'm fed up with being told by those in power that it's my responsibility to protect essential services. It is not. It is down to those in power to protect those services, they haven't done it and now the public are getting blamed and having to restrict their lives AGAIN.
100% agree. It is not my job as the service user to protect the service, it is the responsibility of government to provide a service that is fit for purpose and provides the services the users want and need. Sadly, successive governments have failed to adequately fund the nhs and have not taken into account that science now allows our population to live longer meaning that ultimately there are more service users than it can cope with. Time for a massive overhaul.
Siennabear · 16/12/2021 21:32

But a lot of people who had a positive test didn’t know they had it or had mild symptoms. My nursery shut down last January because 2 staff members had a headache. Absolute madness.

Delatron · 16/12/2021 21:33

But what rules aren’t people following? You do know even parties are allowed?

Apart from masks there aren’t any ‘rules’?

ComDummings · 16/12/2021 21:33

@Waxonwaxoff0

I can see the bigger picture but I'm fed up with being told by those in power that it's my responsibility to protect essential services. It is not. It is down to those in power to protect those services, they haven't done it and now the public are getting blamed and having to restrict their lives AGAIN.
This is it, I think ^
Delatron · 16/12/2021 21:35

And if people are having big old parties one person not wearing a mask in a shop unfortunately won’t make a blind bit of difference.

What are all these rules that people are ignoring?

LumosSolem · 16/12/2021 21:38

My mid 60s dad who was double vaxxed with AZ caught corona recently and it was no worse than a very mild flu or bad cold for him. I've never been scared of the virus myself and knowing mg dad recovered well makes me feel even more confident.

I can see the bigger picture of how my and so many others mental health has gone down the toilet, my DC are missing out on so much, and our government don't give a shit about either of those things so i just need to crack on living my life how I want to as best as I can. I'll never not see friends/family again.

ILoveHuskies · 16/12/2021 21:38

@Delatron

But what rules aren’t people following? You do know even parties are allowed?

Apart from masks there aren’t any ‘rules’?

People are cancelling plans and nights out and parties left right and centre

Because of all the scaremongering!

I am cancelling fuck all and I'll socialise the hell out Christmas as much as I can

When are we going to say enough is enough. Life's too bloody short.

ILoveHuskies · 16/12/2021 21:39

@LumosSolem

My mid 60s dad who was double vaxxed with AZ caught corona recently and it was no worse than a very mild flu or bad cold for him. I've never been scared of the virus myself and knowing mg dad recovered well makes me feel even more confident.

I can see the bigger picture of how my and so many others mental health has gone down the toilet, my DC are missing out on so much, and our government don't give a shit about either of those things so i just need to crack on living my life how I want to as best as I can. I'll never not see friends/family again.

👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
Volhhg · 16/12/2021 21:43

No you cannot expect people to follow the same approach to risk as you. The pandemic is taking a turn now and many people are facing up to and accepting risk. This has been the case in the history of pandemics I think.

Delatron · 16/12/2021 21:45

@ILoveHuskies good for you. The hospitality industry needs it!

When I’m out of isolation on the 22nd I’m aiming to single handedly boost local business with a tour of the pubs. I may go to London and go to the theatre.

I’m still unclear to all these rules people are breaking. I’m happy to wear a mask.

Branster · 16/12/2021 21:49

@puppeteer

People aren’t off sick — they’re forced to isolate because of a positive test. It’s not the same thing!
I agree with this statement. We'll never know, but would the overwhelming majority of those who isolate be perfectly fit to work? Probably yes. I am amazed how so many people comply with all these rules. Without questions. For so long.
SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 16/12/2021 21:50

I've had the worst flu of my life this year. Was tested multiple times for covid and always negative. I was ill ill, as in could hardly move, breathing hurt, I was coughing up solid phlegm in the morning which would make me sick. Honestly it was awful. But it wasn't COVID. This is something that is already out there that many of us are exposed to on a regular basis. Eventually covid will be seen like the flu.

secretllama · 16/12/2021 21:54

@puppeteer

People aren’t off sick — they’re forced to isolate because of a positive test. It’s not the same thing!
This!!!

Also, most people aren't cancelling plans because they're scared of covid , they're scared of having to isolate over Christmas. The testing and isolating of asymptomatic people needs to stop.

TempsPerdu · 16/12/2021 21:54

I can see the bigger picture but I'm fed up with being told by those in power that it's my responsibility to protect essential services. It is not. It is down to those in power to protect those services, they haven't done it and now the public are getting blamed and having to restrict their lives AGAIN.

This is the crux of it. Not my job to protect an NHS that is permanently in crisis mode because of years of underfunding by successive governments, none of which I’ve voted for. The health system was on its knees long before Covid, but it feels like we’re now tasked with enabling it to stagger on.

greentea5 · 16/12/2021 21:55

@Delatron

And if people are having big old parties one person not wearing a mask in a shop unfortunately won’t make a blind bit of difference.

What are all these rules that people are ignoring?

It will make a difference to the other people in the shop, some of whom might be CV/CEV and/or not eligible for sick pay if they have to isolate for 10 days.
Cherryblossoms85 · 16/12/2021 21:56

I know what you mean, but a lot of people are starting to weigh up the competing risks of COVID, versus never living their lives, because it's never going away. Society is just a bunch of individuals trying to do their best, but in the end they will choose their family's interests over strangers.

Bagelsandbrie · 16/12/2021 21:58

They need to stop making people isolate and people need to stop testing. That’s the only way any of this will stop. (And I say that as someone in the clinically extremely vulnerable group who also has a disabled child- I think people like myself need to shield as much as possible until it all calms down but otherwise people just need to get out there and get on with it). For the vast majority of people - even more so with the vaccines- covid is a mild illness and we seem to be forgetting this.

Delatron · 16/12/2021 21:58

I’m fully supportive of mask wearing. Is that what this OP is about? When she talks about people ‘breaking all the rules’

Broads93 · 16/12/2021 22:03

Oh no we "get it" the difference is you believe in "civic duty" and I don't. The government has brought nothing but hardship to the working class of this country. You do your thing and I'll do mine. Stop fucking crying because someone else's opinion differs to yours.