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Would you go?

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matildathebookworm · 08/12/2021 20:46

Meant to be going for work Christmas drinks on Friday. Not a massive group and just a local pub affair. But ds has tested positive this week. I have no symptoms and am testing on LFT everyday and have been negative so far. Would you still go if negative or is it risky? The last thing I would want to do is pass anything on to anyone right before Christmas.

If you were negative on Friday would you still go?

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MiniPumpkin · 09/12/2021 09:10

No definitely not

mistermagpie · 09/12/2021 09:13

Personally I'd get a PCR, lateral flows are often false negative in my experience. My son tested negative on lateral flows for days but positive on a PCR (no symptoms, he was testing because I was positive).

If the PCR was negative I'd feel better if I was you and more reassured if I was your colleagues.

Switch82 · 09/12/2021 09:16

Personally no I wouldn’t - I know the rules are saying you can. But it’s just the time of year etc and such a worry. I imagine anyone vulnerable wouldn’t be going to a pub right now but still some people don’t know they are vulnerable to covid.

Such a shame though OP that these are the things we need to think of and it really does get people down. I hope it’s only a few months longer of being sensible. Really hope every winter is not like this

startled · 09/12/2021 09:17

rainbowandglitter · 09/12/2021 09:21

But neither did the guy my dh interviewed with. He just had covid in his home but went on to test positive the next day himself.

rainbowandglitter · 09/12/2021 09:22

Sorry that was to @squirrelnutkinz . Not sure why the quoted bit of my post deleted

MRex · 09/12/2021 09:34

@mistermagpie

If the PCR was negative I'd feel better if I was you and more reassured if I was your colleagues.

A PCR takes a few days to come back. OP could be clear today and infectious by Friday, because she's being exposed every day at home. Likewise she could get a clear LFT on Friday afternoon but start to be contagious in the evening.

MRex · 09/12/2021 09:37

@matildathebookworm

Everyone has been home working so that's why it would have been so nice to catch up.

For pp who didn't read my update, I have told my team so they are aware. Nobody has said they'd rather I didn't go but I'm aware it could just be politeness.

I will keep testing up until Friday and make my decision then but I suppose the responsible thing would be to miss it. Just makes me wonder how much longer we are going to have to live like this.

I wouldn't tell you that you couldn't go, I'd just miss the event myself and think you were selfish. Your son is likely to only catch covid once, while it's fallen on an inconvenient week the amount you are missing is really very small, it's literally just one drinks session. Organise drinks in January instead, the pubs will be pleased to have you there. Most of us have missed out on far more to keep others safe.

wasthataburp · 09/12/2021 09:40

I would go. Test before hand just to make sure. Say someone in your house had a sickness bug or a bad cold but you didn't you would still go right? It's about time this was treated the same.

Flaxmeadow · 09/12/2021 09:59

No I wouldn't go. Especially as its a pub where people are drinking and so might let their guard down, which is understandable we are only human

A relative of mine probably caught covid in a pub during a Euro England match in the summer. Out of his large group of friends, he probably wasn't the only one who caught it at the same in the pub because others also tested positive soon after. He was OK after a few weeks, but had been poorly enough to be in hospital for a few days. Young and healthy, not vaccinated at the time.

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matildathebookworm · 09/12/2021 12:53

Sadly I think you are all right. I will keep testing but even if I'm negative on Friday I don't think I'll go. Too late for a PCR and it wouldn't be accurate in this situation anyway, and LFT isn't reliable enough when you're bringing so many other people into the equation.

I feel very sad about it but important to do the right thing I think.

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MMMarmite · 09/12/2021 12:55

Personally I wouldn't. Hope your DS is doing okay.

Satsunday · 09/12/2021 13:01

I definitely wouldn't go. You're infectious up to 48 hours before a positive test so it just seems too risky for everyone else. I think if you tell your colleagues that you've decided not to go, many will be very relieved (some might be worrying about it now and deciding whether to go themselves, so saying sooner would be a kind thing to do). It's shit for you but you're doing the right thing.

bigbluebus · 09/12/2021 13:02

There's a world of difference between going to the supermarket wearing a mask where your close interaction with others is brief/limited, and going to an office party/gathering where you are likely to be in prolonged close contact with multiple people and unmasked. In your position I wouldn't be going either - although sadly there is no guarantee that some of your colleagues won't be in a similar situation and not be as considerate as you OP. But at least you won't be the one who spoilt their Christmas!

Dancingalong · 09/12/2021 13:21

I am in a similar boat op, kids tested positive a week ago I have plans this evening. My husband has been going to work the whole time otherwise he wouldn’t get paid. Can’t work from home. We test everyday and are negative, I will also test an hour before I go. My friends have all told me they want me to come despite me being unsure. I’d go if I were you.

cherin · 09/12/2021 13:41

I definitely would not. Not for a pub session. Where very few people will wear a mask, all will be drinking, loud voices etc there’s no mitigation at all.

reasysteady · 09/12/2021 16:57

I wouldn't go.
It's shit, but that close contact you have with someone who has Covid - I expect if you asked your colleagues they wouldn't want you there.

I'm not remotely covid police, but I would hate to be the one to potentially ruin Christmas for my colleagues

Fendidntdrake · 09/12/2021 17:59

No I wouldn't go.

minipie · 09/12/2021 18:36

DD tested positive last Tuesday

I cancelled attending a party on Friday despite my own PCR and LFTs being negative

This Monday (6 days after DD) I developed covid symptoms, I’ve been really unwell with it this week

If I’d gone to the party on Friday I could well have been infectious with it and passed it on to others

Very glad I cancelled

minipie · 09/12/2021 18:38

Also gov guidance says if someone in your household has covid you should “avoid close contact” with others especially in crowded or unventilated places, during their 10 day isolation. So for me that means no parties at the pub.

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