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Would you go?

70 replies

matildathebookworm · 08/12/2021 20:46

Meant to be going for work Christmas drinks on Friday. Not a massive group and just a local pub affair. But ds has tested positive this week. I have no symptoms and am testing on LFT everyday and have been negative so far. Would you still go if negative or is it risky? The last thing I would want to do is pass anything on to anyone right before Christmas.

If you were negative on Friday would you still go?

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LazyName · 09/12/2021 06:50

This is why the ‘rules’ are stupid. Not regarding the OP but I do wonder how many cases are from close contacts that have reduced symptoms/no symptoms or think they are fully immune thanks to the vaccine but have still been able to spread it. The vaccine is a help but I don’t think it should mean people should stop being cautious when they are known to be close contacts to a positive case.
Who knows how many people at the pub are in the same boat, puts me off going anywhere to be honest.

I hope your son feels ok

squirrelnutkinz · 09/12/2021 06:53

I would go and if I was your colleague I wouldn't mind if you came. Life is going on and those are the rules whether people like it or not. I've had many encounters with people who later turned out to be positive and have never got it myself.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 09/12/2021 06:55

Go

StealthPolarBear · 09/12/2021 06:55

@ISeeTheLight

Absolutely not. I would be self isolating if someone in my household tested positive.
While in principle i agree with you, who would pay your mortgage? Or rather the op's. Op I agree i probably wouldn't go but presumably you are in contact with these people every day?
GoodnightGrandma · 09/12/2021 06:57

My initial reaction was no, but if you’re seeing them at work it makes no difference.

squirrelnutkinz · 09/12/2021 07:01

OP I think you will predictably get some "holier than thou" answers on mumsnet. I don't find it to be a proper reflection of how people generally feel. If people are worried about getting covid they should probably stay away from Christmas parties themselves.

Go and have a good time. There is no obligation to stay away.

whenwillthemadnessend · 09/12/2021 07:05

They will slag you off to huh heaven behind your back if you go. Especially if someone gets it ( even if they get it elsewhere) you will
Be blamed.

This happened at my friends work and everyone was livid behind the persons back so no Do t go if you value good working relationships

Shadowboy · 09/12/2021 07:06

Are you all working in the same office and shared spaces? For our work meal we all share the same office/toilet/phone/kettle etc etc so it actually isn’t making any difference. If however you’ve been WFH then no probably best not to go

rainbowandglitter · 09/12/2021 07:07

No I wouldn't go. My dh interviewed people for a job a couple of weeks ago, the person he interviewed with had someone in their home with covid but didn't tell anyone, he then got covid Angry. I definitely wouldn't risk it that close to Xmas.

itsgettingwierd · 09/12/2021 07:09

@squirrelnutkinz

OP I think you will predictably get some "holier than thou" answers on mumsnet. I don't find it to be a proper reflection of how people generally feel. If people are worried about getting covid they should probably stay away from Christmas parties themselves.

Go and have a good time. There is no obligation to stay away.

This is how I feel.

I'm a close contact weekly because I work in education.

No one wants schools shut and constantly go on about missed education and getting on with it.

Yet they think someone who's negative should stay away from a pub. Yet they are probably one of the few who actually know they're negative. Most people haven't tested before going.

Plus if you don't have covid how can anyone blame you for being a super spreader 🤦🏼‍♀️

FlopsterFlops · 09/12/2021 07:11

@matildathebookworm

I have made them all aware and asked them to be honest if they'd rather I didn't go. Nobody has said that but they might just be being polite.

Probably. I wouldn't go.

Randommother · 09/12/2021 07:12

Do you WFH, or have you already been in close contact with them during the time you’ve had Covid in the house? If you’ve not been in contact, then I wouldn’t go. If anyone gets it you’ll be blamed whether it came from you or not.

squirrelnutkinz · 09/12/2021 07:12

@rainbowandglitter

No I wouldn't go. My dh interviewed people for a job a couple of weeks ago, the person he interviewed with had someone in their home with covid but didn't tell anyone, he then got covid Angry. I definitely wouldn't risk it that close to Xmas.
OP doesn't have covid that we know of though! It's not a foregone conclusion that she will get it.
OnceuponaRainbow18 · 09/12/2021 07:14

If the last thing you want to do is pass covid on then no I wouldn’t go to a social event in a pub

squirrelnutkinz · 09/12/2021 07:14

@whenwillthemadnessend

They will slag you off to huh heaven behind your back if you go. Especially if someone gets it ( even if they get it elsewhere) you will Be blamed.

This happened at my friends work and everyone was livid behind the persons back so no Do t go if you value good working relationships

Well they sound like a bunch of dickheads.
Whatelsecouldibecalled · 09/12/2021 07:15

If you are all close in the office etc anyway I would go. If you're usually WFH or own office I wouldn't

squirrelnutkinz · 09/12/2021 07:17

Exactly @itsgettingwierd , for better or for worse it's rife at the moment, and many people work in roles where they are constantly exposed. Should they not be allowed to go to the pub? Enjoy a Christmas do like the rest of society?

If people are truly worried about getting covid then THEY shouldn't go. Honestly the madness of someone missing social events when they might not even have the bloody illness is maaaad.

nether · 09/12/2021 07:18

She couid 'wipe out' the whole team simply by attending the workplace - yes it's WFH if you can from next week, so that's still up to four days mixing with some/all anyhow. And longer if it's not a WFH role

This is one of the reasons why househoods of those who are critically vulnerable are having a bit of a shit time. They won't be going to parities to pubs. So you may as well, as the way the rules have been set up, it's forcing the vulnerable inside so that everyone else can play. So you may as well enjoy playing so that someone gets an upside

musicalfrog · 09/12/2021 07:18

If you're negative then go. Many people live with close contacts and don't catch it.

gersteddybears · 09/12/2021 07:20

No and I wouldn't be very happy if I went and found out someone has a child who was positive but still came along.

Not sure if it's different advice in England to Scotland but my dad has just been contacted by test and trace and he's to isolate for the 10 days and get a pcr test but even if negative still to isolate.

CheesyFootballsAreEvil · 09/12/2021 07:22

She couid 'wipe out' the whole team simply by attending the workplace people don't get pissed and let their guard down in the workplace

rwalker · 09/12/2021 07:22

No don't go chances are anyone of them could get covid and the finger would be pointed at you .

Laurel1 · 09/12/2021 07:30

I wouldn't go. But I'd be grumpy about it.
I've got covid at moment but kids and hubs still going to school etc. If you are all working in an office together and you are going to pass it on that's where you are most likely to do it anyway.

DirtyDancing · 09/12/2021 08:33

Really it's not up to you. It's up to everyone else who is going. Covid is a societal issue. This close to Xmas, and possible family gathering on the horizon, new variant. data emerging about the importance of 2 jabs + booster for the new variant but not everyone getting the appointments they need.

I would personally not go. At the least, if I was someone else attending with you, I would like to be informed. Then I would either not go, or ask you not to.

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matildathebookworm · 09/12/2021 09:07

Everyone has been home working so that's why it would have been so nice to catch up.

For pp who didn't read my update, I have told my team so they are aware. Nobody has said they'd rather I didn't go but I'm aware it could just be politeness.

I will keep testing up until Friday and make my decision then but I suppose the responsible thing would be to miss it. Just makes me wonder how much longer we are going to have to live like this.

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