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Christmas: would you go? Pregnant, relative has just tested positive

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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 16:50

DH and I were due to spend Christmas with family who live 4-5 hours away from us. Unfortunately one relative (primary age child) has just tested positive. They are now in 10 days of isolation. Ordinarily this wouldn’t be too much of a big deal, and in theory, once relative was out of isolation we’d have travelled up as planned for Christmas. The major hitch is that I’m just entering the third trimester of a very high risk pregnancy, I’m taking a lot of medication to sustain the pregnancy, and we have been so, so careful and cautious. I WFH and quite literally only go to the supermarket. Relative will be out of isolation before Christmas, but I still feel very nervous about it. I’ve had one Pfizer jab, second one due in January. What would you do in my shoes?

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gamerchick · 06/12/2021 16:53

Problem isnt the relative imo, it's who they might pass it on to and do a domino effect. I personally in your shoes wouldn't go tbh.

LegoPandemic · 06/12/2021 16:55

I wouldn’t go. I had a high risk pregnancy too. It’s one Christmas- not worth any stress. Just stay at home and chill.

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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 16:55

Thanks @gamerchick, that’s my exact worry. The household has 8 people in it, and my worry is they’ll get it one after another, and still be infectious at Christmas. Thanks for your response. It’s good to hear what other people think - I can’t see the wood for the trees here! Smile

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LSLLM · 06/12/2021 16:55

Not go. It can pass round to the parents and it could be never ending for them. We were isolated for nearly a month in June because we all kept catching it one by one, changing the length of isolation for us all.

If you’re in the 3rd tri of a high risk pregnancy I wouldn’t be going anywhere, but I’ve had a 27 weeker so maybe it’s just me.

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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 16:56

Thanks all. @LSLLM hope your baby was okay Flowers

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DownWhichOfLate · 06/12/2021 16:57

Nope. Stay where you are.

Paddybare · 06/12/2021 16:57

I wouldn’t go if I were in your shoes. I can imagine it would be very hard to relax and enjoy it and stress is the last thing you need.

4thtimethecharm · 06/12/2021 17:00

High risk pregnancy here too, and not taking any risks this Christmas.

tangyandsalty · 06/12/2021 17:02

Nope, not with 8 people in the house, someone else is bound to be brewing it by then if they haven't got it already.

MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 06/12/2021 17:02

My daughter caught covid in her 30th week. She gave birth 2 weeks later prematurely due to being very ill with covid.

She hadn't had any jabs because they weren't available then.

Baby is now 13 months and way behind with regards to milestones - he can just about roll over but is not yet sitting.

Don't go.

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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 17:02

@4thtimethecharm Good luck and take care. Solidarity Flowers

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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 17:03

@MyOtherCarIsAPorsche Oh I’m sorry, that must have been so scary Flowers

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OakRowan · 06/12/2021 17:04

Stay at home.

PatchworkElmer · 06/12/2021 17:04

No way. I don’t think I’d go regardless of this event tbh- potential risk is too high for your pregnancy this year. Keep yourself and baby safe this Christmas.

Twylar · 06/12/2021 17:07

Don't go

Babyvenusplant · 06/12/2021 17:07

I don't think I'd be going even without the positive covid news, stay at home and keep safe op Flowers

SmellyOldOwls · 06/12/2021 17:07

I wouldn't be travelling 5 hours in the third trimester even if there wasn't a pandemic

PurpleDaisies · 06/12/2021 17:09

I can’t understand why you were going even without covid in play.

Mindymomo · 06/12/2021 17:09

I definitely wouldn’t go, not being fully vaccinated, not worth the risk this year. Please, please, make sure you get your second vaccine as soon as you can.

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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 17:11

@PurpleDaisies

I can’t understand why you were going even without covid in play.
Because I haven’t seen my family in two years. Because I miss them. Because it’s been a bloody hard 6 months of worry and stress and I just wanted a sense of normality. But that said, absolutely nothing is worth the potential risk.
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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 17:11

@Mindymomo

I definitely wouldn’t go, not being fully vaccinated, not worth the risk this year. Please, please, make sure you get your second vaccine as soon as you can.
I absolutely will. It’s booked for the soonest date allowed.
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TheOneWithTwoParties · 06/12/2021 17:12

Similar to PP. Even without Covid I'd not go away for Christmas at that stage. I still remember travelling 5 hours for Christmas when I was in my third trimester and just having the most awful time. Just before we went I just started feeling awful. I was really uncomfortable. The baby had wedged itself into a weird position so I constantly had something jabbing in me the ribs. I couldn't sit comfortably. I couldn't sleep. I just wanted to be home in my own bed.

I know some people get a burst of energy in their third trimester but I just felt like crap. Don't go!

Stuckandinamess · 06/12/2021 17:12

Stay home. I would say the risk of infection from other family members who may go on to develop it and you being so far away from home and your regular hospital with a high risk pregnancy at this stage just wouldn't be worth it. I doubt you would be able to relax and enjoy it anyway due to the worry and stress isn't good for you . Stay home and enjoy the break.

I was heavily pregnant with my DD over Christmas and my husband had to work on Christmas day. No family nearby so I stayed home alone in my dressing gown, ate whatever I wanted and feet up on the sofa chilling watching TV. It was ace, highly recommended.

Good luck and hope all goes well for you.x

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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 17:14

@TheOneWithTwoParties

Similar to PP. Even without Covid I'd not go away for Christmas at that stage. I still remember travelling 5 hours for Christmas when I was in my third trimester and just having the most awful time. Just before we went I just started feeling awful. I was really uncomfortable. The baby had wedged itself into a weird position so I constantly had something jabbing in me the ribs. I couldn't sit comfortably. I couldn't sleep. I just wanted to be home in my own bed.

I know some people get a burst of energy in their third trimester but I just felt like crap. Don't go!

Thank you. Sorry you had a rubbish time! It’s my first baby (after three MC Sad) so maybe I have unrealistic ideas of what the third trimester looks like!
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ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 17:19

@Stuckandinamess

Stay home. I would say the risk of infection from other family members who may go on to develop it and you being so far away from home and your regular hospital with a high risk pregnancy at this stage just wouldn't be worth it. I doubt you would be able to relax and enjoy it anyway due to the worry and stress isn't good for you . Stay home and enjoy the break.

I was heavily pregnant with my DD over Christmas and my husband had to work on Christmas day. No family nearby so I stayed home alone in my dressing gown, ate whatever I wanted and feet up on the sofa chilling watching TV. It was ace, highly recommended.

Good luck and hope all goes well for you.x

Thank you! Totally agree that I just won’t be able to relax so far from the hospital Flowers
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