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I'm fed up of "in a pandemic?"

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sorucettee45 · 02/12/2021 22:13

As the title says. I'm fed up of, "but we're in a pandemic Confused?" every time I want to do an activity someone else doesn't consider essential or safe.

In the beginning I got it. I still get it if my friends want to impose social limits on their social life. Want to meet in the garden? Fine with me, but don't be surprised if I don't stay long in the cold.

I am very flexible in considering my friends own wants and will make adjustments if I want to socialise with them.

However, I don't appreciate the comments on my own activities. Apparently I shouldn't travel, attend work's Christmas party or meet people indoors as coronavirus is still around. Because we're in a pandemic. Again.

Everything I do is legal. Coronavirus isn't going anywhere. If I'm double vaxxed, get the booster and wear a mask, then I can happily say I've done my part and am resuming normal life, no matter what. Even then, I am more conservative with precautions than the millions who won't get vaxxed or masked.

Does anyone else feel like this? Like they've done their part, got vaxxed and that once you've done that, your duty is done because coronavirus isn't going anhwhere? Or do you feel happy restricting your life for the next year, five years, ten years, inevitably?

I'm not trying to be goady. I just feel down again and Omicron is making me imagine a society in which our healthcare system gets overloaded again but I become so selfish and fatigued and think "eff it." I genuinely don't think I'd comply with another lockdown and that's not me being facetious, it's just the point I'm at mentally and realistically.

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Etinoxaurus · 02/12/2021 22:14

Well yes, I think everyone’s fed up.
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vodkaredbullgirl · 02/12/2021 22:17

Everyone is fed up with it.

Luredbyapomegranate · 02/12/2021 22:20

Everyone’s fed up with it.

I also think some people’s cautiousness is not just OTT but actively damaging to the economy and society. But just get on with being you and leave them to it, avoid the conversations, close down comments, etc

DockOTheBay · 02/12/2021 22:21

I agree OP. Probably just stop posting about it and reading the covid threads and just get on with your full life while all the "because its a pandemic" commenter stew themselves.

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sorucettee45 · 02/12/2021 22:24

I'm in a country where everyone is a lot more terrified of covid than the UK. It's still Western but I visited the UK last month and the "culture shock" of the covid attitudes was insane. Here, most people (ie, at my work) still literally measure out six feet to distance. I'm in the minority. I should have mentioned that in the OP. If I said I wouldn't comply with another lockdown to any of my colleagues I'd get reported to HR. Grin

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GiveMeNovocain · 02/12/2021 22:25

Whatever you do it won't be enough to appease the covid enthusiasms. You have to obey the rules with the right attitude and update your Facebook page with vaccination surrounds and articles about new variants. If you don't regard the rest of humanity as disease spreading filth and socialising as an optional extra then you're not doing enough. Bonus point for declaring children are resilient when safeguarding or concern for their wellbeing is mentioned.

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sorucettee45 · 02/12/2021 22:27

I also don't want to read the news or look online but I travel for work (self employed) and it's essential to my business. Not looking at covid forecasts and burying my head isn't an option as I have to stay updated, or I would never look.

But tonight I'm going to make a positive effort to avoid the news (apart from some minor doom scrolling on this thread)

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MaudebeGonne · 02/12/2021 22:33

I agree, everyone is fed up. But the fact is, there is a finite number of essential workers.

I am specifically going to talk about doctors, nurses, midwives and all the other people needed to run a comprehensive, safe health service, because that's my area of work, but I am sure there are other industries who have been working constantly through the pandemic that are equally as burnt out and shattered.

Even with vaccinations and safety precautions, these people can still get Covid and not be able to work. We have all been told (informally) that our time off at Christmas could be cancelled at any time. When you are off work, you are constantly getting WhatsApp and text messages looking for cover for sick leave. You are getting pulled from where you normally work to fill in a gap elsewhere. We are all working with reduced staff numbers, pretty much constantly, for months and months now. Patients are more scared coming into hospital. I don't think that unless you work in a hospital that you know how hard it is at the moment. This isn't all just because of Covid - Covid was a big wave hitting a creaky old ship that was already full of holes.

I know everyone has struggled in different ways through this, and I am not pro-lockdown at all. I think there will be consequences to that we will need to deal with later down the line. But at the moment, it is too unpredictable, too dangerous and causes too much harm and damage to just "return to normal", no matter how much we want to. Believe me, I cannot wait to go out and have a few drinks and throw myself round a sweaty dancefloor, but not yet.

speakingofart · 03/12/2021 07:55

I agree. I’ve just started saying now really politely “thanks, it’s for everyone to do what they’re comfortable with” and closing down the conversation. You want to carry on restricting yourself? Fine, you may well have good reason. But equally, I’m not taking your feedback on whether I situate my grandmother in the garden in December!

Porcupineintherough · 03/12/2021 07:59

Which country is this OP? Its certainly not like this on the uk.

MLMshouldbeillegal · 03/12/2021 08:11

Like they've done their part, got vaxxed and that once you've done that, your duty is done because coronavirus isn't going anhwhere?

This is how I feel. I've had two injections, have the booster booked for next week. Dealt with homeschooling, DH is still only back in the office 2 days a week. Kept away from vulnerable parents and all the rest of it. Done now.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 03/12/2021 08:14

Coronavirus isn’t going anywhere if we refuse to take the actions needed to slow the spread. By all means do all the things you need to do for personal pleasure, live as through it’s not a pandemic. And we’ll keep this going far longer than necessary.

MRex · 03/12/2021 08:22

I have a 3 year old. It's essential that we get out and about so that he gets a wide range of experiences to develop his mind. Pre-vaccinations, we over did everything that can reasonably done outside with distancing, so since vaccinations we have been taking him to everything. Vaccinate, test as needed, masks indoors, live life. I'm in the UK and only know one or two who make similar comments; even then there's a bit of compassion. All you can do is get on and not tell the judgemental ones what you're up to. Literally; "what are you doing this weekend?" "nothing much, you?" - then get on with whatever you're doing.

manysummersago · 03/12/2021 08:30

I’m just using common sense. I’m double vaccinated and I work in a school so I’m fairly confident I’d have had it by now if I was going to get it.

MiddleParking · 03/12/2021 08:49

Someone on Instagram - whose life frankly couldn’t appear to be much easier - is posting several ‘inspirational quotes’ a week about how you (the reader) are suffering a trauma response from the pandemic, you are incredible for keeping going in a pandemic etc. Such drama.

trollopolis · 03/12/2021 08:51

Everyone is fed up.

But some of us have bought thermal undies so we can be flexible and meet outside.

manysummersago · 03/12/2021 09:03

And some of us are wearing normal underwear and just getting on with life.

Because really, what else can we do?

VikingOnTheFridge · 03/12/2021 09:15

@sorucettee45

I'm in a country where everyone is a lot more terrified of covid than the UK. It's still Western but I visited the UK last month and the "culture shock" of the covid attitudes was insane. Here, most people (ie, at my work) still literally measure out six feet to distance. I'm in the minority. I should have mentioned that in the OP. If I said I wouldn't comply with another lockdown to any of my colleagues I'd get reported to HR. Grin
Well, don't tell people in the workplace about your intention to break the law. I wouldn't be complying with another lockdown either, but there's no reason your employer or colleagues need to be appraised of that.

But for the rest, the legal stuff, sometimes people benefit from being told to mind their own fucking business. You can't oblige people to meet indoors if they don't want to, they have every right to decide that themselves, but you can laugh in their faces any time they suggest you shouldn't be doing it either.

Hairbrush123 · 03/12/2021 09:29

I have been travelling throughout covid (obviously government permitted) and I have been told several times that we are in a pandemic and that it isn’t safe to travel Hmm. They suggest I wait until the pandemic is over! Why should I wait 3 years to travel again if governments have said it’s safe to travel?

I’ve followed every rule, taken vaccines when available to me, test whenever I have an unusual symptom & that isn’t enough! I shall continue to enjoy my life following government guidelines however I am fed up too!

secretllama · 03/12/2021 09:39

@brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Coronavirus isn’t going anywhere if we refuse to take the actions needed to slow the spread. By all means do all the things you need to do for personal pleasure, live as through it’s not a pandemic. And we’ll keep this going far longer than necessary.
Covid isn't going anywhere full stop. Following the measures we have in place won't make it go away.
VikingOnTheFridge · 03/12/2021 09:48

Yes, it genuinely amazes me that anyone is still delusional enough to think we can make covid go anywhere. It was one thing in 2020, but now?!

Covid is sufficiently widespread that our only option now is living with it. The question is simply how to manage that going forward, and that's what things like mask rules and isolation are about, as well as personal choices like travel and socialising. Whether to slow the spread or not. Covid going somewhere is not one of the choices available.

Mindymomo · 03/12/2021 09:56

Can I join the fed up club. Back in Autumn I told relatives to not worry about seeing us at Christmas and be with their own close family, so therefore we’ve not been invited anywhere..

Porcupineintherough · 03/12/2021 10:34

@Mindymomo but is that not what you were intending? You pretty much instructed them not to invite you.

TheVampiresWife · 03/12/2021 11:27

@brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Coronavirus isn’t going anywhere if we refuse to take the actions needed to slow the spread. By all means do all the things you need to do for personal pleasure, live as through it’s not a pandemic. And we’ll keep this going far longer than necessary.
But even if OP didn't do those things and never left the house, covid would still be here. It's endemic. Sure, we can all wear masks, get vaxxed, wash our hands regularly, all of that - but covid will still be around.

It's going to go on for decades, to some degree. Whatever anyone does. All 'slowing the spread' really does is make it surge once we go back to normal life, as we've seen. If you want to slow the spread forever you're going to have to live with some restrictions forever - how does that sit with you?

Porcupineintherough · 03/12/2021 11:54

@TheVampiresWife no I dont agree. Slowing the spread doesnt stop infection or reinfection it just spreads it out. Eventually most of us will have vaccine immunity plus natural immunity and the young will gain natural immunity in childhood and COVID 19 will be just another bug that's out there. Novel viruses dont stay novel for very long.