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should my aunt be visiting today whilst were waiting on pcr results, me and hubs dont agree

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Fishies · 02/12/2021 07:06

Yesterday i found out me husband and 2 young children was a close contact of a postive case at the weekend, we all went for pcr tests and are awaiting the results, my youngest has a cough but has had that for the last week and has been reguarly tested of which all were negative.
The kids are off school untill the results come back, my aunt is due to visit today my husband doesnt think its right she is and she should stay away but as i very clearly pointed out to him , his going to work and mixing so whats the difference. I see his point i dont agree however -my aunt lives alone, we recently lost my very sick nan so we no longer have a huge risk & my aunt saw my parents yesterday aswell, they was also a close contact and also got a pcr yesterday.

I literally cant see the issue the testing center told us you dont need to self isolate and can carry on as normal????

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hidingfromthemouse · 02/12/2021 07:08

I also believe if it's a pcr from close contact and you have no symptoms you don't have to isolate.

I'd say as long as your auntie knows and is happy to take the risk that's up to her.

SleepyMathematician · 02/12/2021 07:12

I’m with your husband - assume she’s older so why put her through the extra risk? Unless she’s a teacher, going to work is very different and much lower risk. Quite a lot of difference IMO. I assume you’ve actually told her? I’d be pretty annoyed if I turned up at a relative’s and found out they were awaiting PCR results.

Looneytune253 · 02/12/2021 07:14

No you don't have to isolate when waiting for close contact PCR results. Obv you're better placed to assess the risk of the family and vacc status/age/health etc.

LublinToDublin · 02/12/2021 07:15

We're waiting for pcr after close contact but no symptoms and not isolating. I did give the heads up to friend due to visit today and she's chosen to rearrange which is perfectly fine.
I'd say it was up to your aunt to decide.

AlexaShutUp · 02/12/2021 07:18

You don't have to isolate, so technically, you are right. Morally, though, I think your dh is right. Why take the risk?

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Fishies · 02/12/2021 07:19

she doesnt work, shes in her 40s ,i have told her and so have my parents. she seems happy to come still and i told the husband that also its the risk she is willing to take thats up to her isnt it

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RobinWoodPrinceofLeaves · 02/12/2021 07:20

Sounds like double standards from your husband - why is he going to work if he doesn’t think the aunt should visit?

Id leave it to aunt to decide whether she’d like to visit or not.

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Fishies · 02/12/2021 07:20

also shes triple jabbed and were double jabbed

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Fishies · 02/12/2021 07:21

@RobinWoodPrinceofLeaves

Sounds like double standards from your husband - why is he going to work if he doesn’t think the aunt should visit?

Id leave it to aunt to decide whether she’d like to visit or not.

yep thats exactly my thoughts 30 mins ago when he said it before he left !
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WTF475878237NC · 02/12/2021 07:21

Regardless of what the government say it seems sensible to wait a day for the results before potentially spreading it to your aunt.

Gunpowder · 02/12/2021 07:22

I think in these circumstances it’s best to follow the guidance but also let people know in case they (understandably) wish to be more cautious. So YANBU. I’d probably lateral flow everyone before we saw her too if it’s practical.

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Fishies · 02/12/2021 07:23

if nan was still alive of course(aunt lived with her) id agree with him she had a lung conditon and if she had caught it would have been the end. but unfortunatly nan passed a few months back now of a heart attack so that risk isnt there .

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LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 02/12/2021 07:24

As a component adult it's her choice.

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Fishies · 02/12/2021 07:24

thank you for all your messages its good to hear others thoughts

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Malibuismysecrethome · 02/12/2021 07:25

If your aunt is triple jabbed and you are double jabbed I don’t see the problem. I believe we either trust in the vaccine or don’t. Mask wearing if going out and hand wash but we need normality and not a Christmas like last year. I trust the vaccine to help keep me safe.

VirusgonnaVirus · 02/12/2021 07:25

It would be wrong if the aunt didn't know but as she does and is happy I don't see the problem.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 02/12/2021 07:27

If your lateral flows are negative and she is happy to come, knowing the situation, then I think it's fine for her to come.

QueenofLouisiana · 02/12/2021 07:34

Technically, I think it's fine. Close contact PCR, no symptoms requires no isolation before the results come through. DS should have gone to school after his PCR, but we fibbed and kept him at home (good thing as he was positive).
Is it a good idea though? Possibly not.

GotToGoBye · 02/12/2021 07:37

I think if your son has a cough I’d postpone. Do you mean he has had PCR before or lateral flows?
Meeting someone in a cafe or park is different than coming into their house if someone at home has possible covid. You could always ask her?

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Fishies · 02/12/2021 07:46

he had lateral flows all negative then he had a pcr on saturday as we are part of the ONS covid survey study (the one they give you £25 for each time you test) reuslts on sunday negative but thats when we had the close contact later in the day ...... i know its so confusing

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MerryChristmas31 · 02/12/2021 07:51

Personally I wouldn't allow her to visit. Imagine if your tests did come back positive. Is your aunt aware of this? What does she say? Ultimately it's her choice but if I was your aunt I wouldn't be visiting.

Okbutnotgreat · 02/12/2021 07:55

As long as she knows you’re waiting for results surely it’s her choice and perfectly within the rules! If you can mix at school and work then just get on with it and open a window for ventilation.

GreatBigBeautifulTommorow · 02/12/2021 09:44

Technically she can come
Personally no if waiting for results I wouldn’t socialise.

Ormally · 02/12/2021 11:14

Please ventilate if she does.

Been wiped out by this since the Sunday before the 26/11, 2 double jabbed parents and 1 child who brought it back from school. Testing positive approx 5 days between each other's results. It's hard.

bluesky45 · 02/12/2021 11:52

You don't have to isolate so I'd just make sure she knows you are waiting for your PCR results and if she's happy to see you then go ahead. Maybe open the window to keep it ventilated but other than that, I'd just put the ball in her court