Family gathering - all vaccinated except 1

[Jungfraujoch]

My 18 yr old nephew unvaccinated. He is in contact with general public everyday, sometimes in their houses, goes to the gym. My parents are mid 80’s, jabbed incl. boosters but vulnerable - DM diabetes, pacemaker, Alzheimers. DF is her main carer. Sister in law also vulnerable, I have mild asthma. Overreaction to say we don’t want to mix?

Honestly OP he’s the one at more risk being surrounded by vaccinated who could be carriers who infect him when he’s not vaccinated.

I wouldn't shun anyone. But then I wouldn't know as I don't ask. Those who ask me are asked a private medical question in return, my favourite at the moment is if they have had pRep. For some bizarre reason they get all huffy about giving out private medical details. I have previously asked about sti tests, flu and pneumonia vax.

Would you shun someone who isn't able to have the vaccine due to age or medical reason?

I assume that no-one has had it and take whatever precautions I feel necessary. Just like I do with other contagious diseases.

I think you’re completely bonkers, sorry

I just don't get how vaccinated people blame unvaccinated for their vaccine not protecting them? Where is the logic? If you are all vaccinated, what are you afraid of?
I am vaccinated, btw, I am not antivax.

@MOOoooo

I just don't get how vaccinated people blame unvaccinated for their vaccine not protecting them? Where is the logic? If you are all vaccinated, what are you afraid of? I am vaccinated, btw, I am not antivax.

It boggles my mind too. I get grief for not being vaccinated with a vaccine that the vaccinated don't trust.

Over reaction. If the rest of you are jabbed you are protected right? Assuming some would have had boosters too!

It doesn't stop you from getting it, it hopefully minimises symptoms. Jabbed or not your nephew could get and pass covid on regardless of vaccination status.

I'm double jabbed but my younger sibling is not (18). I don't think it's a threat as I'm protected. That's her choice...

Will those who don't want the third vaccination be also shunned in the same way?

Do you expect people to rock up every 6 or so months for another top-up?

The fact he's said he’ll get vaccinated to go on holiday with his mates but won’t for his elderly and vunerable grandparents would make me so angry. I would tell him he can’t come to your home.

Educate yourself, vaccinated people are just as likely to spread the virus as non vaccinated is untrue. If you’re vaccinated you are less likely to catch Covid in the first place so they are less likely to pass on Covid.

If you’re vaccinated you are less likely to catch Covid in the first place

So a very small chance of them catching it from the nephew even if he did happen to have it then, due to being vaccinated themselves?

@LizzieSiddal

The fact he's said he’ll get vaccinated to go on holiday with his mates but won’t for his elderly and vunerable grandparents would make me so angry. I would tell him he can’t come to your home.

Educate yourself, vaccinated people are just as likely to spread the virus as non vaccinated is untrue. If you’re vaccinated you are less likely to catch Covid in the first place so they are less likely to pass on Covid.

Less likely, yes. No would would argue otherwise. But you can still have it and give it to your elderly relatives, and possibly put them in hospital. Get tested.

Test, test, test.

I don’t think this is about your parents health. I suspect it’s about punishing him for his decisions.

If it was about health a test beforehand is perfectly adequate. If asked he might even agree to an antibody test which would put your mind at rest.

How often do you test yourself before seeing your parents op? Have you had an antibody test?

Less likely, yes. No would would argue otherwise

The person I quoted used the words “just as likely” so they indeed argue otherwise.

Unless your parents are isolating anyone off you could pass it on to them or when they are visiting the shops.

Total over reaction
Other posters have already voiced reasons why

I came on to make the same kind of point as @TheNoonBell. How would you even know, if you hadn't been told? Are you going to ask everyone you come into contact with for proof? Because I'll guarantee you wouldn't go that far. And they'll lie. I've been jabbed up to the hilt with every covid jab going. But if you read another thread I've just posted on, I'm not. Who knows for sure? Only me

Alienating your own family, how lovely.

@TheNoonBell I’m with you!!

Are you testing prior to getting together with your parents? If not, why not if them catching it is such a worry for you given you can still transmit it even though vax’d?

DH is especially vulnerable. We don’t socialize with anyone who is unvaccinated, including children who aren’t able to be vaccinated.

At least he’s learned early to avoid this side of the family. He’s 13. Honestly have you heard yourself ?

You are not overreacting IMO, your DM sounds very vulnerable and your DF is not comfortable with the situation. Protecting them as much as possible should be the priority.

@Witchesbelazy

At least he’s learned early to avoid this side of the family. He’s 13. Honestly have you heard yourself ?

He’s 18. An adult. Who will probably get it next year because it’s convenient.

The gathering would potentially be at my house. I’m on the fence tbh. My other sister, partner and his sister wouldn’t come if nephew was there. Health issues plus partner and sister list their Mum to covid just before last Xmas so sensitive subject!
It’s your house, and others won’t come if he does. I’d exclude him. I wouldn’t want anyone unvaccinated at an indoors Christmas do.

I would imagine an 18 year old chap will be relieved to be able to skip family gatherings

I test before seeing my elderly DM, as do the rest of the family. We are all vaccinated but the rates in our area are still sky high.

I would not be impressed by an 18yo not worrying about visiting vulnerable relatives when not vaccinated but happy to have the vaccine to go on holiday. Would feel his priorities are wrong.