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Close contacts refusing to do PCRs

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PissedoffWeddingGuest · 20/10/2021 07:57

A family member has tested positive. Two other family members who are close contacts are refusing PCRs. They have said that they aren’t required to do PCRs, which is legally true. I understand that. However, there is a reason they are refusing; they are the bride and groom at a wedding next week and clearly don’t want to have to cancel it. I am extremely angry at how irresponsible they are being, particularly as one of them is a teacher. Lots of other teachers from the same school will be attending the wedding so they are potentially creating a massive staff shortage problem for the school on top of everything else.

Both of them are saying different things about when the family member tested positive and when they are due out of isolation so I know that there is a cover up. Even if they said that they were doing PCR tests now, I wouldn’t believe them!

Should I just not go to the wedding (and deal with the massive family fall out from that)?

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PurpleDaisies · 20/10/2021 11:50

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PurpleDaisies · 20/10/2021 11:51

Wrong pic! Sorry

PurpleDaisies · 20/10/2021 11:51

Here you go…

paintyourown · 20/10/2021 11:54

They'd have to do regular PCR tests for if to assure you anyway. PCRs miss lots of cases and you never know when you might develop it to the point it's picked up as the incubation period may vary. Covid is everywhere in schools. Children can carry on attending when they've been a close contact of a confirmed case so there's no stopping the spread really. I would imagine they'd likely be a case of Covid at a decent size wedding even if everyone had tested.
Your risk. If you are well and vaccinated I'd go but I don't blame the bride and groom for their stance. If they are ill I'd expect them to test but with no symptoms I'm not sure there's much to be angry about.

Councilworker · 20/10/2021 11:56

If you get nvited to a wedding in a pandemic then you can decline if you don't want to go. You don't know the covid status of ANYONE there including caterers, set up staff, officiant as well as the guests.
If they are keeping to the law and have met the guidelines of their employer and their venue then they can go ahead and get married. I hope they have a lovely day and if you do go try not to have a face like thunder all day as the pictures will be ruined.

sendaisnow · 20/10/2021 11:59

Unfortunately the site says this elsewhere...

PurpleDaisies · 20/10/2021 12:04

@sendaisnow

Unfortunately the site says this elsewhere...

That doesn’t look like the nhs site. Is that gov.co.uk?

That says you will be advised to take a pcr test as a contact.

Quartz2208 · 20/10/2021 12:10

I actually think the fact that they are teachers and are presumably going to be working right up until the wedding it is actually pointless.

A PCR now could be negative that turns positive by the time the wedding is anyway (not known as they have taken one) and I assume they are testing with LFTs regularly anyway as part of their job (which the recent scandal has actually shown are accurate)

We cannot just keep on trying to PCR our way out - taking one now is costly and potentially wouldnt actually show anything

And cut them some slack there DC is positive a wedding before their wedding!

And your situation is akin to saying apples and pears are exactly the same because they are fruit that are grown on trees

ExceptionalAssurance · 20/10/2021 12:13

If you are that uncomfortable, you shouldn't go. They have every right to get married now and to comply with the law, you also have every right not to attend. It's a fair point from the pp that there are going to be loads of people there whose status you'll know nothing about. I wouldn't attend any event unless I was willing to accept that and any risk.

Pootle40 · 20/10/2021 12:21

Who even cares anymore?

BluebellsGreenbells · 20/10/2021 13:31

To get a PCR test where I live you have to isolate until you he result comes in.

Local school 18 off in one class now 4 teaching staff have it, the windows are open so all’s fine and dandy - who’s going to go for a test? Parents aren’t obliged to LFT the kids and some sit anyway because they don’t want to isolate.

Teachers are in the thick of it, so instead of complaining about their actions why not complain to those that make the rules?

Opoiii · 20/10/2021 13:47

Covid is everywhere, many do not have symptoms and haven't done from the start of the pandemic, nothing to do with vaccinations. Many have had worse colds and the worst bit was the isolation.
I'm team the testing is causing more disruption now. Don't go if you don't want to go. No need for any drama.

SickAndTiredAgain · 20/10/2021 13:59

The person with covid is their child? So presumably they are in fairly constant contact with them throughout their illness (unless the child is old enough to totally isolate and has a separate bathroom)? What exactly would the point of the PCR test be anyway, if immediately after they take it they go back to caring for their covid positive child? Would you honestly think that a negative PCR a couple of days in makes any difference to whether they might catch it in the following days from all the continued exposure? Why would this make you feel any safer? I don’t get it.

If you organise a wedding in a pandemic then you take some responsibility for your guests including those that are elderly and CEV.

In my opinion, this responsibility is covered by informing their guests. I think that’s a reasonable thing to do - tell the guests in advance that they are a close contact and that they understand if therefore anyone can’t make it. I don’t know if they’ve done this or not?

Topseyt · 20/10/2021 14:29

I read it as the bride or groom being the child of the person who has/had Covid. So the person with Covid is the parent of either the bride or the groom.

Crazycrazylady · 20/10/2021 14:43

I think it's clear you really really don't like these people so not sure why you would want to attend anyway?

LaurieFairyCake · 20/10/2021 16:26

You're being daft

Our responsibility is to follow the guidelines

Not make our own shit up 🤷‍♀️

Bizawit · 20/10/2021 16:39

@Tailendofsummer

If the OP is the groom's great grandmother, she would be well advised to stay away from the wedding.

This.

Otherwise I agree with PP you are just being a drama lama.

Get off your high horse and stop trying to ruin someone else’s wedding by creating a scene.

makelovenotpetrol · 20/10/2021 17:48

Let them get married and stop being so judgy fgs!

soredust · 20/10/2021 18:01

You want them to risk having to cancel their wedding! Are you mad?

If you are so concerned, don't go. They have no legal obligation to take a PCR test.

OnceuponaRainbow18 · 20/10/2021 18:04

As they are teachers they are probably used to being close contacts… I’ve been a Close contact of about 20 people this week. I wouldn’t do a pcr in the run up to my wedding, unless I had obvious symptoms

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 20/10/2021 18:11

I wouldn’t attend knowing people there were close contacts and hadn’t tested. Not worth the risk.

TheBlackArt · 20/10/2021 18:17

Don't go and leave them to enjoy their bloody day!

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