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School with possible positive case in the house.

103 replies

Nousernameforme · 11/09/2021 21:32

I have 3 ds
Unvaccinated Ds1 has symptoms started with a sore throat now has high temp and starting to cough. Waiting results from pcr.
Ds1 shares a room with Ds2 if he comes back positive we will swap ds1 and ds3 so ds1 can properly isolate from rest of house.
Ds3 has school Dp has work Dp will continue to work and will social distance/mask up as much as possible. Ds3 cannot socially distance or wear a mask.
If Ds1s test comes back positive what do I do about ds3s school? I know I am supposed to send him but that feels really wrong. I can't afford a fine for keeping him off and a further 10 days of him at home bored will send me round the bend, but I also can't send him off like a little bio weapon ready to infect whoever he comes in contact with.

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ballsdeep · 11/09/2021 21:38

It is wrong. I'm sorry op, j don't care what the guidance says. I work in school and we've had teachers come in who have positive households only to test positive later on. It's a risk to others and covid will spread this way.

Personally I think if anyone in a house tests positive then the whole house should isoalte.

I don't understand, with the guidance being as it is, why people are shocked numbers and admissions are rising .

I hope he feels better soon

ballsdeep · 11/09/2021 21:39

And I'm sorry, I think someone living in the same house can't isolate from others ,however much you try

Bobholll · 11/09/2021 21:49

Follow the rules. It’s all anyone can do. If they have a negative PCR, send them in 🤷🏼‍♀️ I already know of several kids in my daughters school with positive parents or siblings at home. It is what it is.

pinksquash13 · 11/09/2021 21:50

If son tests positive the whole household need a pcr test although you do not need to isolate while waiting for the results. Your other children can go to school as normal (unless their pcr test comes back positive or they develop symptoms). Those are the official rules and you can follow them without issue.

Personally I'd also lateral flow test the household daily and maybe isolate for a few initial days. It's a tricky one. Call the school for advice?

Shadedog · 11/09/2021 21:51

I have one unvaccinated positive and 5 other household members currently symptomless and -ve lateral flow. 3dcs are still in school, dh still working. Feels absolutely bonkers but dcs school and dh work have told them to go in. My work has told me to stay home. dh and I both double vaccinated, 1dc has had one vaccine and has had COVID,, other dc has had COVID, so one dc with no vaccine or antibodies from previous infection.

We are all doing daily lateral flow tests. School is not making anyone wear masks or distance particularly. I would be amazed if all dc aren’t positive by the end of the week as all of their friends seem to be. If you want to keep dc3 off just say he’s unwell. You won’t get fined. If your ds1 is isolating and ds3 does lateral flow tests then the chances of him getting it and passing it on are lower but it feels so wrong. When my other dcs were positive earlier I wasn’t even going out to walk my dog.

When we had it in the house before nobody was vaccinated and only one other person got infected. All dcs have their own rooms, but share a bathroom except current infected dc who luckily has an en-suite. He hasn’t been out of his room for 7 days now.

Bizawit · 11/09/2021 21:53

Omg your son is not a “bio weapon” 😂😩. If you are worried, can you say he has symptoms and you are keeping him home to get a pcr. That buys you a couple of days. Get him the PCR and if it’s negative and he’s still well , you might feel more confident sending him in at that point.

AntiMaskersAreTwats · 11/09/2021 21:54

My brother in law has just tested positive (after 2 AZ jabs, last one in June) and my sister is not sending the children into school next week even though they are all negative. No matter what this shitshow of a government say, it’s not the right thing to do to send them in. Sometimes you just have to do what right.

BoPeepCantFindHerFucks · 11/09/2021 21:57

My ds1 had a positive pcr result. Everyone else in the house was negative
He was confined to his room (14, Netflix and Xbox, he couldn't be happier) Own tray of bowl, plate, cutlery, glass, cup. Own towels. Windows open all the time. Wiped down bathroom after he's been in etc etc
The whole house ended up getting it anyway.
I'd not switch your dc around. It's so contagious Imo that it's likely everyone will get it to varying degrees
I'd not send my dc in personally, but that's my choice
A distant relative died from COVID today and my Ds had no symptoms. It can affect everyone in different ways, I don't want to be the one spreading it. I'm aware that's very much down to my choice

OasisOfFerns · 11/09/2021 21:58

This has happened to a couple of parents I know (in Scotland so been back a month). They both kept their other kids off a few days and repeated pcr's. False negatives are common if tests are taken too soon after contact and obviously symptoms can take a few days so it just seems the sensible thing to do. We don't get absence fines though and I would challenge that in the circumstances.

ballsdeep · 11/09/2021 22:00

@AntiMaskersAreTwats

My brother in law has just tested positive (after 2 AZ jabs, last one in June) and my sister is not sending the children into school next week even though they are all negative. No matter what this shitshow of a government say, it’s not the right thing to do to send them in. Sometimes you just have to do what right.
100% agree. Thank goodness your sister is using her brain and common sense.
Original poster
Nousernameforme · 11/09/2021 22:13

I will have to change the rooms round Ds2 will absolutely freak out if he has to share with a positive Ds1 asd so I won't be able to talk him round.
If he is positive I will do a pcr and keep ds3 home till I get the results. Then lft daily i guess

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3asAbird · 11/09/2021 22:16

I totally disagree with policy and wouldn't send mine in but feel sure seniors would mark my 2 unauthorised and fine me.
I think in Scotland kids have to await ocr test result before going in from what I read and was longer backlog of pcr testing there.

In England you can pcr test say Sunday night send them in Monday whilst you await results.
That child then maybe postive and have infected a few on schools bus as well as lessons next day.
In seniors they not 1 constant bubble with only 29other contacts.
Their class and who's is in changes depending on set and they would see least 5 teacher on the Monday.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 11/09/2021 22:31

I’d say they were sick and not send them if it were me. There’s no way of knowing if there are any CEV there or in the familes.

Covidworries · 11/09/2021 22:52

Our child is CEV and was shielded. We would prefer that families didnt send in children from housegolds with a positive but if they are sending in children that they are transparent and make sure the school are aware and if possible use social media so families like ours can make an informed decision.
Child and siblings have already missed more school than most due to us not sending back for 12 months after first lockdown. We will pull out again of cases linked to school but dont want to do this earlier than neccessary. So knowledge is power

user1487194234 · 11/09/2021 23:17

Follow the rules as they stand
That's all you can reasonably be expected to do

nether · 12/09/2021 00:03

I think the rules are wrong (I would treat a household as one unit, IYSWIM, because the contact between them is so much greater than most other non-household situations)

But they are what they are.

And many people clamoured for this (buying in to the false choice of 'now or when?' when actually the measures could have been different, nuanced, differently phased etc)

But I have a CEV person in the household, clearly eligible for jab 3, but still not yet notified they can have it (despite it being promised over a week ago), and the prospect of DC bringing it home from school is our Damiclean sword

Explosivefarts · 12/09/2021 00:06

I’m going to follow the rules as they stand if negative test they go to school.

nether · 12/09/2021 00:07

but if they are sending in children that they are transparent and make sure the school are aware and if possible use social media so families like ours can make an informed decision

I agree, it would make a massive difference. But it's wishing fir a unicorn. My DC are at secondary, so we do tend to find out because the pupils all tell each other, and we've been very open about why it's important for them to have as low exposure as possible.

But this term is way scarier than before, because extremely close contacts of a confirmed could be at the next desk

LBOCS2 · 12/09/2021 00:31

I've got two Dds off with it at the moment - one had a very strong LFT positive then got it confirmed by PCR. The other had a very faint LFT line, and we're waiting on the PCR - but we've kept her off in the meantime. I'd rather be over cautious than infect children in their classes 🤷🏼‍♀️

DH and I (both double vaxxed) have done PCRs (negative) and are doing an LFT basically every time we leave the house!

AntiMaskersAreTwats · 12/09/2021 00:55

I honestly hope that if anyone gets fined for keeping their children off for a positive case that they fight the fine all the way to the high court.

Thirtyrock39 · 12/09/2021 10:23

My daughter tested positive this time last week all went for pcrs the rest of us negative late Monday . Older negative dds school strongly hinted that she would be provided with online work etc and their priority was to keep everyone safe so I said I'd keep her home . Sons school said send him in and husband works in a school and they wanted him in . My work have a policy where you work from home if a contact
After two days of being back in school my son started to feel unwell and is now positive . I wish I'd kept him home. He may have caught it I. School (there are a lot of case in his year) but he may also have gone in contagious which I feel really guilty about

CarrieBlue · 12/09/2021 10:27

You send anyone not positive into school, no need to do a PCR as it’s voluntary. That’s what the government want us to do.

SirVixofVixHall · 12/09/2021 10:43

@ballsdeep

It is wrong. I'm sorry op, j don't care what the guidance says. I work in school and we've had teachers come in who have positive households only to test positive later on. It's a risk to others and covid will spread this way.

Personally I think if anyone in a house tests positive then the whole house should isoalte.

I don't understand, with the guidance being as it is, why people are shocked numbers and admissions are rising .

I hope he feels better soon

I agree with this. I had one DD with covid, and kept the other at home too. I told the school why, they are not going to fine me. I think most schools agree it is a very stupid rule that will lead to half the teaching staff off sick.
user7012893145776 · 12/09/2021 10:58

Me and ds never caught it so ds went to school. Dd and dh positive and finished isolation last night at midnight.

busybusy10 · 12/09/2021 11:10

Hi

We have just had this scenario. Youngest daughter positive and then me 4 days later. She can now go back to school as isolation finished but I did not want my oldest (negative) to go to school. School were adamant she had to go in so she had a PCR test which was negative and eased my mind a little.