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Fucking covid

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FuzzyClutter · 11/09/2021 14:46

A little rant, if I may.

Tested positive yesterday, feeling pretty grim but fine as long as I don’t have to stand up. 2 dc also just tested positive. One just started college and one just started secondary. Both will have to isolate all of next week now. The eldest is panicking that she will fall further behind, and my youngest is absolutely beside herself because she loves her new school. Both have ASD and the youngest is having repeated meltdowns about missing a week of school. Which is really fun when you’re feeling crap and there’s nothing you can do about it.

I’m self employed so will lose a lot of money whilst I’m isolating, and also will have to pay a fair chunk of extra money for my daughter’s pony to be looked after over these 10 days as I cannot go to the livery yard. I know that sounds like a massive first world problem but I’m a single parent who sacrifices a lot to keep the pony on a shoe string so I could have done without this.

Add to that, my ex and very good friend (who I think we caught covid off as he tested positive on Wednesday), recently moved his 98 year old father down from his home 200 miles away, into a local nursing home, as he is nearing the end of his life. The doctor said he will likely pass away in the next 48 hours, and of course now he will die alone as my ex obviously can’t go and see him.

Had enough of this shit now.

OP posts:
Warhertisuff · 12/09/2021 10:47

@puppeteer

Many people have not routinely had to test, and so have not. But a lot are being caught up in the delta spread. They test, and find out what a palaver it all turns out to be. Even if none of their friends nudge them with a "why on earth did you do a test in the first place?", I wouldn't be surprised if it changes their actions next time around.

The main issue with testing is the requirement to isolate for 10 days of positive... which is far longer than most people need not to be infectious, especially if not asymptomatic.

I find it hard to take seriously those who are so aghast at the mere suggestion of not testing, when with the exception of some who are genuinely do all they can to minimise the spread, are mixing socially and not taking LFTs twice per week. If you're ill with what you suspect to be Covid, you can still self-isolate until you're feeling better and your chances of being infectious have greatly reduced, and refrain from unnecessary "higher risk" social activity for a while.

SoloISland · 12/09/2021 10:56

The attitude of some here is one reason why I am in total isolation and very happy to be here and safe.

Shocked,

We have the same attitudes here in Ireland.. only the common cold is one main one. Sneering at the govt etc.

We did well here as the govt stamped down hard right at the start. They tried easing up at Christmas with disastrous results in eg neighbouring Belmullet.

Bot so many here too just ignore the rules. One elderly couple were just convicted in court for refusing to wear masks in Aldi.

And there are veiled warnings of restrictions returning as numbers are going up

I grieve for my birthland.

BluebellsGreenbells · 12/09/2021 11:05

The attitude springs from lack of help or assistance.

Children could isolate with decent online learning
Those who don’t get sick pay - should in fact get full pay whilst isolating
Those who need additional help - elderly or single parents without family support should have help with shopping or prescriptions etc

The only way to make people test is to mandate it in law and make employers responsible for implementing it.

Don’t blame people trying to survive - they don’t have a choice to WFH or lose pay etc

MLMbotsno · 12/09/2021 17:31

@Babdoc

PrivateHall, the study from King’s showed that vaccination cut the risk of long Covid from 11% to 5%. As a doctor, I am not in the habit of making unsubstantiated claims, and I stand by my comment that OP was unwise, as a self employed person, to shun the vaccine. Vaccination also lowers the risk of severe Covid, hospitalisation and death.
This @FuzzyClutter
Mickarooni · 12/09/2021 18:08

I’d have much more sympathy for you if you’d got vaccinated and didn’t complain about your horse. I do feel endless empathy for children especially ones with additional needs and/or in exam years. Oh and of course people who are genuinely financially up the creek without a paddle because they get no money when isolating but they probably don’t own horses.

Mickarooni · 12/09/2021 18:11

[quote puppeteer]**@Warhertisuff, @SweetBabyCheeses99

Many people have not routinely had to test, and so have not. But a lot are being caught up in the delta spread. They test, and find out what a palaver it all turns out to be. Even if none of their friends nudge them with a "why on earth did you do a test in the first place?", I wouldn't be surprised if it changes their actions next time around.

To OP's point with his (/her) ex and father, I'd be very tempted to visit anyway. End of life is important. We missed my mum passing because we didn't travel (because it was lockdown) until we knew it was close, and then missed it. I have no idea what it is to die alone, but I would imagine uniting with family and children is amongst those experiences most important. It might seem calculating and callous to deliberately visit, risking spread. But hospitals are set up to minimise it, and are anyway broadly failing in doing so.[/quote]
He won’t be allowed into a care home with covid and although it’s sad and crappy, I understand why.

ShaneTheThird · 12/09/2021 18:21

So many cunts on MN Confused. Imagine telling a sick person you have no sympathy because they own a horse and declined a vaccination that is her right. Vaccination doesn't mean you can't pass it on so everyone can fuck off with telling people how selfish they are now and grow up.

MLMbotsno · 12/09/2021 18:32

@ShaneTheThird

So many cunts on MN Confused. Imagine telling a sick person you have no sympathy because they own a horse and declined a vaccination that is her right. Vaccination doesn't mean you can't pass it on so everyone can fuck off with telling people how selfish they are now and grow up.
The OP was unwise and now whinging on here. People aren't sympathetic to that. She made her choice so has to live with the result, that's what adults do.
ShaneTheThird · 12/09/2021 18:37

People are allowed to complain. People are allowed to complain about being sick. People are allowed to refuse a vaccine they don't want.

MLMbotsno · 12/09/2021 18:40

@ShaneTheThird

People are allowed to complain. People are allowed to complain about being sick. People are allowed to refuse a vaccine they don't want.
Yes and other people are allowed to say she made an unwise choice given her circumstances. That's the way it is.
SparklingLime · 12/09/2021 18:42

Fucking unvaccinated-by-choicers.

BlackberryMuncher · 12/09/2021 18:43

@SweetBabyCheeses99

Everyone’s sick of it but it’s only EVER going to end in one way - when people like you stop taking tests they don’t need. Just stay at home if you’re sick, like you would have done previously.
Don't be idiotic.
Porcupineintherough · 12/09/2021 18:47

Refusing a vaccine then complaining you caught the disease doesnt entitle you to any sympathy though.

LizzieSiddal · 12/09/2021 18:51

I lost sympathy OP when you said you weren’t vaccinated.

As others have said your chances of developing long Covid are double, you’re chancing of catching Covid are also higher.

You may not have caught Covid if you’d been vaccinated!

BlackberryMuncher · 12/09/2021 18:56

@Watapalava

I agree with sweet cheese

You should have done just managed it like any other illness

Only Mumsnet is full of ‘testers’ these days

Them and those who get full pay

Nonstop normal people aren’t bothering

No only idiots aren't bothering. Feckless idiots.
Mickarooni · 12/09/2021 18:57

@ShaneTheThird

So many cunts on MN Confused. Imagine telling a sick person you have no sympathy because they own a horse and declined a vaccination that is her right. Vaccination doesn't mean you can't pass it on so everyone can fuck off with telling people how selfish they are now and grow up.
People said they have less sympathy, not no sympathy and moaning about a horse? Read the room!
Tinydancer321 · 12/09/2021 19:01

I have sympathy for CEV who wear masks, so silly distance and are scared to leave their house as even being double jabbed can mean life and death (my nan had severe copd, sadly passed from it, but if she had caught it she wouldn’t of survived). Then being told well they are poorly any way, like their life means less.
Honestly I have just been double jabbed abs it was a difficult decision as I’m pregnant and the first 20 weeks adviced against it as no tests had been done. However I did it, mainly because of the dangers in the third trimester and my older children loosing a mum.
I feel being not pregnant the decision is a lot easier….

BlackberryMuncher · 12/09/2021 19:10

@FuzzyClutter

Jesus.

Don’t get me wrong, I think there’s some serious questions to be asked about the scaremongering around covid, I’ve chosen not to be vaccinated, I haven’t blindly followed the rules through lockdowns etc etc etc.

But to crack on and send my kids into school, and me go about my day wherever that takes me KNOWING that we have covid…I think you’d have to be a special kind of arsehole to do that.

Yes, you would! But as shown, some people are!

Genuine question...Why did you choose not to get the vaccination?

Tinydancer321 · 12/09/2021 19:12

@BlackberryMuncher I know people sending their kids in to school although parents have Covid. You can now.

BlackberryMuncher · 12/09/2021 19:12

Is there no one at the Yard who would help you out? All my friends with horses have come to various agreements te helping each other out if they have to isolate, it's worked so far

Unsure33 · 12/09/2021 19:29

@SweetBabyCheeses99

Explain how not testing will end a pandemic ?

LitCrit · 12/09/2021 20:22

OP, don't you wish you had had the vaccination now?

BluebellsGreenbells · 12/09/2021 22:38

I know several people doubled jabbed who’ve had covid recently.

They would also struggle financially and find it difficult to manage a horse if they had one.

You’ve all have 18 months to save for this very eventuality.

BlackberryMuncher · 12/09/2021 22:42

[quote Tinydancer321]@BlackberryMuncher I know people sending their kids in to school although parents have Covid. You can now.[/quote]
The children have tested positive.

Lovemusic33 · 13/09/2021 08:41

[quote Tinydancer321]@BlackberryMuncher I know people sending their kids in to school although parents have Covid. You can now.[/quote]
I have had to send my dd2 in today, dd1 and I have covid, dd2 was tested Friday and was negative, I got her tested again yesterday, again she was negative so I’ve sent her to school, because of the “new rules” she would be marked down as an “unauthorised absence” if I kept her home. I feel wrong sending her in but there’s a high chance she has already had covid and has immunity but of course there’s a risk she could be carrying it Sad. It’s hard to know what to do. I’m double vaxxed and dd1 has had one dose, dd1 has been really unwell.