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Teenager doesn't want to have the vaccine

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poppy1973 · 27/08/2021 17:47

Hi, what would be your opinion if your teenager didn't want to have the covid vaccine ??

I have a really stubborn teenager who doesn't want to go and have the vaccine. Would you tell your child to have the vaccine if they didn't want it ?

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Comefromaway · 27/08/2021 22:07

@poppy1973

Are there lots of teenagers not taking the vaccine then ? Mine thinks, that even if they get covid, then they won't become ill.

Most of the teens I know are desperate for the vaccine. Ds queued for 2 hours yesterday. But he’s seen the virus rip through his slightly older sisters college and how some of the students are still struggling months afterwards.

But ultimately it’s his choice. He has read as much as he can, evidence for and against and made his own decision.

Fucket · 27/08/2021 22:08

I wouldn’t want mine to have it. I wouldn’t stop them from getting vaccinated if they really wanted to. The risks from the vaccine are about as equal as from catching Covid. It doesn’t even prevent illness and being contagious so no one should be relying on vaccination status alone when visiting vulnerable friends and family. Carry on doing the LFT tests fine, but why risk complications for no real benefit to the child.

I have had both my jabs and I’m CEV but I wouldn’t want to blackmail anyone into having a vaccine. People should be allowed to exercise free thought and free will.

beigebrownblue · 27/08/2021 22:09

[quote kowari]**@cptartapp
I thought they only had to isolate if not double jabbed and over 18 and a half? If the teen is in fact an adult then it most definitely has nothing to do with the parent.[/quote]
Apart from the person concerned passes on the vaccine and if they get ill, and with long covid and all the rest of it, it is WE as parents who have to deal with it.

Give up jobs, money, homes health to see them through.

Make that decision on that basis mother.

boobot1 · 27/08/2021 22:10

And that's almost certainly true

kowari · 27/08/2021 22:13

Make that decision on that basis mother.
What decision does a parent have to make in regards to an adult child?

IAmSuperman · 27/08/2021 22:13

It’s their body so their choice. With our kids. I haven’t had it, their dad has. My 18 year old has been offered it and he’s apparently thinking about it. Our other teen is too young to have been offered it yet but again, it’s her choice.

Geamhradh · 27/08/2021 22:15

In answer to the question are lots of teens not having it.

No.

beigebrownblue · 27/08/2021 22:17

Unfortunately this vaccination thing on here at least has become a teenagers versus parents thing.

So we need to unwind it.

It is really not a 'I am not getting vaccinated because my parents want me to'.

We have rights as parents.

If they don't want to be vaciinnated. Throw them out.

I personally don't want to deal with the consequences if they don't .
I
I go vaccinated myself, knew the risks, knew the benefits and knew that I wanted to be here for my kids.

So for those 'kids' over sixteen.

Decision time.

They are grown ups

Let them be grown ups.

If they don't want the vaccine.

They leave home.

hamstersarse · 27/08/2021 22:21

@beigebrownblue

I do hope you are joking / have been on the wine

Mantlemoose · 27/08/2021 22:23

@beigebrownblue
Crikey not often anyone leaves me speechless but you've done it. You either don't have kids or you're pissed!

userperuser · 27/08/2021 22:24

Throw your own child out on the streets because they won’t do something YOU want them to do? This is genuinely the worst thing I’ve ever read on these threads.

beigebrownblue · 27/08/2021 22:30

It is the responsible thing to do.

I'm right.

Stillgoings · 27/08/2021 22:32

My dh is CEV..Our 16 year old got vaccinated as soon as he could. Our 14 year old is now eligible but is saying he doesn't want it. I don't know what to do..I almost feel a bit superstitious. Like if I persuade him something.bad might happen with the heart inflammation or some other bad reaction. I don't know, it's a bit illogical but it isn't so black.amd white white with the younger ones

Stillgoings · 27/08/2021 22:34

..and throwing him out is not an option that had occurred to us!!

AlexaShutUp · 27/08/2021 22:35

No, it is a personal choice and I wouldn't push a teen to have it against their will. You either buy into the concept of bodily autonomy or you don't.

However, I would have been very disappointed if dd had made this decision.

nukeitfromorbit · 27/08/2021 22:36

Really hard but ultimately teenagers should be allowed body autonomy. That being said my daughter is 11 and severely needle phobic and if the vaccine was available for her age range I would be taking her to the vaccine centre against her will.
I'm not sure if this is right but I want her to be safe, I hope I would behave differently if her objections were ideological.

TwigTheWonderKid · 27/08/2021 22:36

I think your child is right to question it and do some research before making their decision. The JCVI changed their guidance on routine vaccination of this age group very recently and still do not recommend that they receive a second dose. I have a friend who is a GP and has a 16 year old and she is still uncertain what she should advise her to do. It is much less clear cut a decision for this age group.

beigebrownblue · 27/08/2021 22:37

THe decision parents have to make is,
We negotiate with kids
sixteen and want to be adults.

If we don't agree with it,
we act accordingly.

nothing on this planet advises that we have to go along with living in a house with kids or other adults who refuse vaccination.

The consequences are
we have to deal with caring for them, or long covid, or worse.

I'm personally am not going down that road with my sixteen your old.

If you choose to, it is up to you.

But and according to the NHS I deem that irresponsible as a parent and a human being.

Snookie00 · 27/08/2021 22:39

Holy shit. Would you really throw your 16yo out the house for refusing to be vaccinated? Think this might win the prize for the most over the top and bonkers reaction to covid on mumsnet and that’s really saying something

Wellbythebloodyhell · 27/08/2021 22:45

@beigebrownblue

It is the responsible thing to do.

I'm right.

Your absolutely bonkers.....or pissed.......or both !

Mantlemoose · 27/08/2021 22:47

Anyone want to share some popcorn............

Elieza · 27/08/2021 22:48

In Scotland we are being told it’s mostly the under 22s who are getting it now.

There are lots of people in hospital but they haven’t said what age they are.

It would be helpful if they did say, so young people could consider this.

They said there is more risk of a clot from covid than there is a clot from the vaccine. But that’s on all ages I think.

XenoBitch · 27/08/2021 22:55

@nukeitfromorbit

Really hard but ultimately teenagers should be allowed body autonomy. That being said my daughter is 11 and severely needle phobic and if the vaccine was available for her age range I would be taking her to the vaccine centre against her will. I'm not sure if this is right but I want her to be safe, I hope I would behave differently if her objections were ideological.

I hope the staff there would see her distress that you have forced her, and refuse to give her he vaccine. All you are doing in setting her up for more phobia misery years on. If you want her to have the vaccine, you need to build up her confidence.

XenoBitch · 27/08/2021 22:56

@beigebrownblue

That's fine. But If you don't want to have an unvaccinated person in your house especially since you might be clinically vulnerable and so, and if they got really ill due to not being vacinnated

I would tell them to go live elsewhere.

Teenager or not.

One of two ways.

either they are grown ups and act accordingly and take responsibilty

or they don't

in which case you don't have to live with it.

I am pretty sure a 16 year old being booted out by their own parents is by definition, vulnerable. Vulnerable by your own making. I really hope you don't have kids.

PricklesAndSpikes · 27/08/2021 22:57

I'm lucky, I've had both my jabs and my 13 year old has said that if she could have the jab, she'd be first in the queue. But, if she said she didn't want it, and could offer a good reason (even if I didn't think it was a good reason) I would respect that and hope she changed her mind, but I couldn't, in good conscience, try and force / guilt trip her to have it. I believe in Gillick Competence.

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