The nerves…. I acted completely normal…

Dandy008 · 2021-08-21T23:40:33+00:00

Just got back to our hotel room after celebrating our our friends wedding. There was around 80 guests that attended. The day started with me feeling on edge, very aware of being surrounded by all of these people. As the day went on and the drinks were flowing, i completely forgot about Covid. I was dancing, hugging, singing. I sat on a table and talked face to face with people I didn’t know. At the time it felt amazing, I felt so happy and relaxed. Now I’m back in the hotel room I’m feeling panicky and can’t quite believe what I’ve just done 😩

speckledostrichegg · 22/08/2021 00:49

Guessing you're fully vaccinated OP? I really wouldn't worry, sounds like you had a great night and lots of evidence to show that even if you did happen to be exposed, you're far less likely to be infected (and will provide a helpful "boost" to your immune system). And if you did end up testing positive, it's likely to be with very mild symptoms.

SMBH · 22/08/2021 00:57

What was the alternative to acting normally? Not going at all is really the only other option, but you didn’t choose that one. You could hardly have taken your plate of food to sit outside on your own (for example). It sounds like it was a lovely day.

TinaYouFatLard · 22/08/2021 01:00

Everything you did was completely normal. Don’t let the fear that’s been drummed into you spoil what sounds like a lovely day.

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Dandy008 · 22/08/2021 01:01

@speckledostrichegg

Yes. Fully vaccinated.

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Snaffletrousers · 22/08/2021 01:02

If you are doubly vaccinated I wouldn't worry so much. I have been a stickler for the rules, gone hardly anywhere and been OTT with the cleaning and I still caught it. I would class it as a mild cold. Started with symptoms on Monday and almost gone by Friday.

I think in general there are a lot of horror stories around which are probably true but people focus on the bad news rather than the more positive.

CorianderBee · 22/08/2021 01:05

What's done is done. You lived life and it's unlikely you'll die because of it.

CommanderBurnham · 22/08/2021 01:08

No point regretting having a good time. Fingers crossed you are fine. Plus there are worse ways to catch Covid.

Hope the hangover is kind to you.

HungryHippo11 · 22/08/2021 03:44

Too late to panic about it now, but really did you not think this would happen when you accepted the invite? If you're still anxious about covid why accept a wedding invitation?

SpringRainbow · 22/08/2021 04:34

Sounds like you had a wonderful time, must have been nice to have fun and relax.

TreaslakeandBack · 22/08/2021 06:34

We went to a wedding last week. They asked everyone to do a LFT before but otherwise it was totally normal - no masks, distancing. Dancing etc.
It was amazing! Loved it. So nice to have normality back and looking forward to more of it!
It feels strange and worrying to start with but that will pass.

Bobholll · 22/08/2021 10:03

Sounds fab OP! I’m getting married next week, I hope it’s a fun as you describe 🙏🏼

You are double jabbed. What’s the point of life if you don’t live it?

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Dandy008 · 22/08/2021 10:11

@Bobholll

Sounds fab OP! I’m getting married next week, I hope it’s a fun as you describe 🙏🏼

You are double jabbed. What’s the point of life if you don’t live it?

@Bobholll

It really was so much fun. It’s only now I’m stating to think…. Can’t believe I did that after being so careful for so long 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Dandy008 · 22/08/2021 10:11

@Bobholll

Congratulations!! Hope you have a fab day.

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Bobholll · 22/08/2021 10:53

Thank you!

Try not to worry, I mean, it’s possible someone has covid asymptomatically but also, the majority of the population don’t have covid. There are like 30,000 cases or something but 64 million people in the U.K.! That’s 0.04% of the population that actively has it.

I sat on a covid triage ward with my toddler a few weeks ago. She had a fever so we got shoved on it. We were sat with covid positive patients for 5 hours. Didn’t catch it 🤷🏼‍♀️ Obviously distanced & masked but I was convinced we would, it was a small room with small windows.

CirqueDeMorgue · 22/08/2021 10:59

Jesus christ, you'll look back on this in a year or so and wonder what the hell you were talking about. 🙄 When will people come to terms with the idea that they probably will catch covid at some point!?

icklepiglet · 22/08/2021 11:04

@Bobholll

Thank you!

Try not to worry, I mean, it’s possible someone has covid asymptomatically but also, the majority of the population don’t have covid. There are like 30,000 cases or something but 64 million people in the U.K.! That’s 0.04% of the population that actively has it.

I sat on a covid triage ward with my toddler a few weeks ago. She had a fever so we got shoved on it. We were sat with covid positive patients for 5 hours. Didn’t catch it 🤷🏼‍♀️ Obviously distanced & masked but I was convinced we would, it was a small room with small windows.

It's 30,000 new cases a day, not total cases. I think for people who currently have it the average is about 1 in 300. Still pretty good odds though for a wedding of 80 people so chances are you'll be fine OP.

OpheliasCrayon · 22/08/2021 11:07

I did this with about 150 people whilst totally unvaccinated, and I'm CEV.

Life needs to continue without all this ridiculous anxiety.

Pootle40 · 22/08/2021 11:16

@CirqueDeMorgue

Jesus christ, you'll look back on this in a year or so and wonder what the hell you were talking about. 🙄 When will people come to terms with the idea that they probably will catch covid at some point!?

^This.

Glugglejug · 22/08/2021 11:31

This thread made me a bit sad. What is the point in life of you don’t enjoy it? Might as well just let the virus take us all now.

Life is for living. I’m glad you had a good time OP, and hope you continue to drink, hug strangers, sing and dance and be merry because otherwise what is the fucking point?

Waxonwaxoff0 · 22/08/2021 11:55

I currently have Covid OP and I would still do exactly what you did. To be honest I think it's inevitable that we are all going to get it at some point, if you're double vaxxed the odds of you becoming seriously ill are minuscule. May as well live life now and accept that we may catch it.

PiddleOfPuppies · 22/08/2021 11:59

How many people were sitting with masks on and keeping 2 metres away from others at this wedding?! I'd imagine most people let their hair down and enjoyed themselves.

OliveTree75 · 22/08/2021 12:09

@CirqueDeMorgue

Jesus christ, you'll look back on this in a year or so and wonder what the hell you were talking about. 🙄 When will people come to terms with the idea that they probably will catch covid at some point!?

Absolutely agree with this. Alot of people haven't accepted they can't avoid covid forever

shinynewapple21 · 22/08/2021 14:40

I understand your panic OP! I've been going out for meals all way through but generally spaced out seating, staff in masks etc . Last week I went for a drink in a bar which was crowded, people standing drinking around the bar and sat in close proximity to DS's friends .

As you say, you relax at the time due to alcohol but panic a bit later. I was cringing the next few days in case of symptoms !

But then I hear a friend of mine has caught it, double vaccinated, she thinks she caught it in a shop where she was wearing a mask!

You might have caught it, probably not. Same for all of us if we are starting to go out and live a little . I guess the alternative is hiding away again as if we're in permanent lockdown .

Peteycat · 22/08/2021 17:24

In the nicest possible way, it's called normal.

We have had a long time of being stressed and anxious, be kind to yourself and enjoy the memories of it. Don't let this tarnish it. You deserve as we all do to celebrate and enjoy life. Keep doing it.

Scarby9 · 22/08/2021 17:39

I was also at a wedding with 80 people yesterday.

In church everyone except the wedding party was asked to 'wear masks to protect each other'.

Then we had drinks and nibbles outdoors - no problem.

Then we went in for the sit-down meal. Ten tables of 8, all shoulder to shoulder in a room with two small open windows for over two hours. No option, no alternative once we had come that far. So we just went with it and joined in!

Dancing and lots of chat afterwards.

Absolutely normal, pre-pandemic style wedding and for most of us our first time in a room with that many people and without any social distancing for over 17 months.

I'm doing regular LFTs anyway, and just hoping we all got away with it. There is absolutely NO POINT panicking or worrying now. What is done is done.

And it was a lovely (very delayed) wedding.