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Double vax & got it Vs no Vax and not

52 replies

jakeyboy1 · 19/08/2021 22:04

Just need a vent really.

Firstly my elderly parents tested positive. Both double vaccinated. My brother who has been staying with them and is anti vax hasn't got it. Won't even have a PCR to check but seemingly is fine. Gives me long lecture on how the vaccine hasn't stopped them getting it, it's all a con etc etc. He is 35 and old enough to know better. I replied that no but hopefully it saves their lives etc etc he tells me I'm being dramatic.

Fast forward a few days and now DH has it. Totally unrelated he has not caught it off them and has been careful. He's double vax and immuno compromised. I will probably get it but not as yet.

All have suffered somewhat but fingers crossed not too bad and will be ok.

I'm just so cross that people who have had the vaccine are getting it but people refusing not and continue this idiotic rhetoric. And they all know an "expert" who has given them such great advice. FFS.

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 19/08/2021 22:34

It’s not worth getting into an argument with die hard anti vaxxers.

Your brother may well have had it but just had no symptoms. You’ll never know.

GallowwayGirl88 · 19/08/2021 22:36

Just to be clear….Are you annoyed that your brother didn’t get covid?

millenialblush · 19/08/2021 22:38

Eh? What's the idiotic rhetoric? I don't understand....

Oohstickyouyourmummatoo · 19/08/2021 22:43

You've got the arsehole because your brother hasn't got covid?
Well I've heard it all now.

MahMahMahMahCorona · 19/08/2021 22:45

The vaccine doesn't prevent you from catching Covid. What it does is reduce the severity of the virus which means you are less likely to need hospitalisation. Your brother probably had it but was asymptomatic.

userxx · 19/08/2021 22:49

@GallowwayGirl88

Just to be clear….Are you annoyed that your brother didn’t get covid?

Sometimes I'm so glad to be an only child 😏

Original poster
jakeyboy1 · 19/08/2021 22:49

As I said I'm venting... am I not allowed to be annoyed that 3 people I love have caught it when they've done everything they can to avoid it? And not that I want my brother to get it but their relentless lectures about how we shouldn't have bothered getting vaccined, it's all a con, we're all mugs, stupid doing what Boris says as though we have no critical thought of our own etc etc are pissing me right off.

OP posts:
victoriaspongecake · 19/08/2021 22:52

Well perhaps your brother is right in his thinking and you are wrong?

PurpleDaisies · 19/08/2021 22:55

@victoriaspongecake

Well perhaps your brother is right in his thinking and you are wrong?
Nonsense. There’s no doubt that on a population level, vaccines have been highly effective at controlling deaths and hospital admissions.
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jakeyboy1 · 19/08/2021 22:56

@victoriaspongecake perhaps he is either way I'm still allowed to be upset by the situation.

I would add I have never previously commented on his choice to not get a vaccine and have respected his wishes. I can't do with the ramming down my throat of "see it doesn't work" though.

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Eatenpig · 19/08/2021 22:57

He'll get it at some point. I'd say 75% of people I know have now had it. Vax or not. Range of severity. I haven't had it to my knowledge but assume I will get it although double jabbed.
I'm just hoping it's mild when I do.
Those not vax are defo much more ill

YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators · 19/08/2021 23:02

OP, I get it, as bonkers as it sounds. Over the last 6 weeks, I have watched several doubly vaccinated friends and their families test positive, while unvaccinated acquaintances on FB are trumpeting on about how it's all rubbish while apparently not catching it. Obviously I am glad they're well, but irritated that they're using their good fortune to make a point.

Reallybadidea · 19/08/2021 23:04

Maybe your brother has already had covid?

HairyFloppins · 19/08/2021 23:08

Sometimes life isn't fair. I did all I could to not catch it, hardly went out last year and it got to us. It's an airborne invisible virus. Hope your loved ones get well soon.

I'm sure some people must be naturally immune or symptomless.

sleepwouldbenice · 20/08/2021 00:00

@victoriaspongecake

Well perhaps your brother is right in his thinking and you are wrong?
🙄🙄🙄
sleepwouldbenice · 20/08/2021 00:03

I get what you mean OP

But it’s like all the anecdotal arguments that are trotted out on here every day. Bigger picture is the main point

Best wishes to your family

croon979 · 20/08/2021 00:09

I couldn’t have been more careful. Double vaxxed. Still got it. Felt like shite but have almost recovered now. Now feel relieved to have had it as I kind of feel it is inevitable most people will get it, jabbed or not, symptomatic or asymptomatic.

Flowerlane · 20/08/2021 07:45

Understand you are angry and upset your parents are unwell but as you are aware the vaccine is not 100% affective to stop you getting covid which is why people who have had both vaccines are also still getting covid.

Your brother hasn’t done anything wrong just because he hasn’t caught covid.

millenialblush · 20/08/2021 07:53

But your brother is right, the vaccine didn't work for your family. And he didn't get it and didn't catch covid. You're annoyed at the wrong person.

PurpleDaisies · 20/08/2021 08:38

@millenialblush

But your brother is right, the vaccine didn't work for your family. And he didn't get it and didn't catch covid. You're annoyed at the wrong person.
What do you mean “didn’t work”? Neither of the elderly people went to hospital. Nobody was seriously ill. That sounds like working to me.
Walkaround · 20/08/2021 08:53

Well, if I were your db, I’d be secretly relieved my parents had been double vaxxed, so less likely to die of something I may well have passed on to them asymptomatically. Not surprised he doesn’t want to take a PCR, considering.

Firstbornunicorn · 20/08/2021 09:10

I get what you mean, OP. I’d be peeved at my brother for drawing that conclusion and lording it over me, too.

I think some people are deliberately misinterpreting what you are trying to say.

Geamhradh · 20/08/2021 09:17

If your brother hasn't had a test as you said, maybe he has got it/had it and is asymptomatic.

ACreakingGateNeverStops · 20/08/2021 10:33

OP, I'd assumed that you were angry that you're brother was now using his lack of ill health as validation of his choices and pushing that opinion down your throat but having re-read your original post before I sent this one I see you say

"I'm just so cross that people who have had the vaccine are getting it but people refusing not"

So you're angry that some unvaccinated people aren't getting sick but some vaccinated are?

That's life I'm afraid.

Isn't it a good thing that some unvaccinated people are not getting really sick? Would you prefer it if they all ended up in hospital because that's very unlikely considering that pre-vaccine the majority of people who caught covid made a full recovery.

Ps. Maybe you're brother has already had covid but asymptomatically ?

knittingaddict · 20/08/2021 10:47

Who or what are you annoyed with op? Nature?

I assume that the vaccine has indeed done it's job because you dont mention severe illness or hospitalisation. Applause please for a working vaccine. Aren't we all fortunate to have had a viable solution to a pandemic.

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